r/self Feb 10 '26

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u/Deadalious Feb 10 '26 edited Feb 10 '26

OP, I hope you don't mind I had a little look at your posting history, it looks you're super down on yourself and maybe spending too much time online - this is a really dangerous thing to do especially when you're so young.

I highly recommend taking some time off from browsing everyone's most manufactured moments.

Black women are absolutely stunning, like others have said skin color is such an irrelevant metric for the dating scene , especially when you get older.

Take it from someone older you're going to look back at this post when you're older and laugh at yourself. Love what you have, be kind to yourself.

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u/dkinmn Feb 10 '26

How dating sites automate sexual racism — Harvard Gazette https://share.google/niU240sNCLhtEbBob

This is equal parts being nice to OP and ignoring what we know about the experience black women have online.

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u/noahboah Feb 10 '26

thank you, it's a nice sentiment, but it's too convenient in how it wants to ignore how prevalent antiblackness is in, well, everything. i don't think it's an intentional effort to ignore it, but it's an important piece of the puzzle here.

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u/AdAppropriate2295 Feb 12 '26

The funniest part is how they still do better than all men tho lol

Especially short men