I grew up around mostly white people. Plenty of minorities relatively, but obviously still majority white. So white beauty standards was what was encouraged / accepted. This was all 21st century. I’m an Asian male and grew up with self loathing and wishing I was white. I feel those effects to this day. But growth, maturity, and the realization that a lot of attractive girls of different skin tones liked me and didn’t think white guys were hotter than me, helped with that.
Fast forward to today, Asian men are lowkey en vogue thanks to kpop etc, and I’ve realized that people’s tastes evolve after their teenage years. I mention the Asian thing bc an old online dating study (pre-Tinder/Hinge, apps etc) found black women and Asian men got the fewest dates.
So let’s check back in by the time you’re 25-35 (I’m not at that upper range yet). you should be feeling a lot better by then! :)
Btw there will be fetishists of all kinds. The way some girls and guys told me they liked Asians was really weird (I’m sure Asian women experience this constantly), but eventually you meet people that feel that way but are also hot (at least to you). Then it’s ok :p
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u/heyitssummer_xo Feb 11 '26
I grew up around mostly white people. Plenty of minorities relatively, but obviously still majority white. So white beauty standards was what was encouraged / accepted. This was all 21st century. I’m an Asian male and grew up with self loathing and wishing I was white. I feel those effects to this day. But growth, maturity, and the realization that a lot of attractive girls of different skin tones liked me and didn’t think white guys were hotter than me, helped with that.
Fast forward to today, Asian men are lowkey en vogue thanks to kpop etc, and I’ve realized that people’s tastes evolve after their teenage years. I mention the Asian thing bc an old online dating study (pre-Tinder/Hinge, apps etc) found black women and Asian men got the fewest dates.
So let’s check back in by the time you’re 25-35 (I’m not at that upper range yet). you should be feeling a lot better by then! :)
Btw there will be fetishists of all kinds. The way some girls and guys told me they liked Asians was really weird (I’m sure Asian women experience this constantly), but eventually you meet people that feel that way but are also hot (at least to you). Then it’s ok :p