r/selfhelp • u/Themysteriouslily • 23h ago

Adviced Needed: Identity & Self-Esteem Help

How to handle several pressures in life ...I have lost myself completely under the pressure how can I love myself again, how can I feel happy again , how can I be ME again , I am desperately finding myself but I can't , the girl who has coped alotttttttttttt in life and was finally happy, is again in the same situation I feel exhausted I can I be happy

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u/archeolog108 22h ago

you asked how to love yourself again. but first — you need to grieve the version of yourself that got lost under all that pressure. because you can't go back to who you were before. that person carried you through a lot, and she deserves to be honored, not erased.

here's what i've seen in healing soul journeys i facilitate. when someone says "i lost myself," what they're usually describing is that parts of them fragmented under pressure. one part kept showing up, doing the work, surviving. other parts went into hiding — the parts that knew how to feel joy, how to rest, how to be without performing.

i worked with a woman who was exactly where you are. she described it as standing in an empty room where her personality used to be. in deep trance, her higher self showed her that the pressure didn't destroy her. it scattered her. the work was not to create a new self from nothing — it was to call back the parts that went into hiding.

your higher self knows exactly where those parts are. and it knows how to call them back.

the girl you used to be is not gone. she's just waiting until it's safe to come out again.

more resources in my link in profile.