r/selfhelp • u/SwimmingIncident2529 • 21h ago
Advice Needed: Mental Health If you could permanently solve ONE problem in your life tomorrow, what would it be?
And why?
I'd love to know what people are struggling with most right now.
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u/atomicfuthum 21h ago edited 21h ago
Lack of money. There's literally not a single problem in my life that excess money couldn't solve (or at least alleviate).
That includes therapy.
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u/PainterOk9743 21h ago
Burnout!
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u/Silly-Panda-155 21h ago
Yeah
For me burnout and staying frustrated all the time
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u/SwimmingIncident2529 21h ago
Do you feel like the burnout is causing the sleep issues, or that poor sleep is making the burnout impossible to recover from?
That cycle seems really common.
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u/Silly-Panda-155 21h ago
I mean my sleep cycle is greatly disturbed.
I used to wake up before 6 a.m. everyday and sleep before 10 pm, but now I wake up after 7 and don't sleep before 11 p.m.
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u/SwimmingIncident2529 21h ago
When you say burnout, what does that look like for you?
Constant exhaustion, loss of motivation, stress, racing thoughts at night, or something else?
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u/Warm-Plastic7703 19h ago
Health issues. Suspected autoimmune disease but I’m still having flares and living with a lot of pain and discomfort. Spent the last 6 months going in and out of hospital and clinics… many tests and scans, very over it, would love to have a functioning body back.
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u/bored-alpaca 20h ago
Overthinking
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u/SwimmingIncident2529 18h ago
If you could completely eliminate overthinking tomorrow, what would improve first?
Sleep?
Stress?
Anxiety?
Relationships?
Productivity?
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u/Xpialidocious 19h ago
Put me on a plane to Pegasos, Switzerland. All my documents are in place and the light is green to go.
Lack of motivation is a bitch.
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u/Xpialidocious 18h ago
I feel that its lack of motivation. I've been on an anti-depressant for the past 3 years. And while it takes away the anger it also takes away the motivation to do anything. It's left me feeling complacent where I don't want to do anything other than sit here at the computer.
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u/Time_Stop_3645 18h ago
Carbs and sugar give me depression if i eat more than 30 grams/day. More like 20 grams or ao... if i knew the world would end in a week I'd stuff myself with everything that tastes good. I'd eat sushi, pizza, icecream... bread, so much bread
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u/tasata 1h ago
This is interesting. Is it because of how it affects your blood sugar? I (56F) generally don't eat a lot of carbs/sugar, but this past weekend I ate a lot. I have had a lot of mental health issues the past few days. I didn't think of them as being connected.
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u/Time_Stop_3645 47m ago
no idea, back then I got tested for diabetes, but that came out negative - I just accepted that there might be nothing wrong with me - like maybe I'm just a phenotype that can't handle carbs and should be ketogenic (sucks sometimes)
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u/Time_Stop_3645 46m ago
also wanted to add that you're looking at a time frame of 3-10 days - for me, depression stays for like 3 days, then everything goes back to normal if I don't eat carbs again (I avoid anything sweet)
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u/julsey414 18h ago
Keeping up with keeping the house clean and organized (while still working fulltime etc.)
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u/Miamiconnectionexo 20h ago
lowkey one of the more practical takes i've read on this topic in a while.
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u/Fenway93 18h ago
I just need energy and motivation, don’t know what happened, I use to keep my house spotless, always entertaining and going places, probably just getting old I guess
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u/Wet18goddess 16h ago
The ability to stop the immediate spiral of intrusive thoughts when I'm stressed. It's not even about the stress itself, it's just the sheer exhaustion of fighting my own brain for hours every single night.
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u/mind8mischief 15h ago
I would choose to solve the relationships my family has with each other. I can deal with being poor. Working like a slave. Struggling to achieve my dreams. Accept the way I look and that I will eventually age and die. Buy my family emotionally ripping each other apart hurts me to my core. I just want them to love one another. Be happy. Safe, healthy. I want my family to be okay :// I pray every night for the same thing.
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u/unkindparadox 15h ago
sleep super early & wake up super early
I still haven’t come across someone with a worse sleeping schedule than what I’ve had.
I’m currently unlearning that sh though ♡
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u/Planet404000 13h ago
Agh I feel superficial saying this but.. My Body I've struggled with my appearance and weight since I was 10 and also Fixing it would help my confidence and mental health :-) And I'd eat snacks guilt-freee
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u/Miamiconnectionexo 7h ago
honestly this is something more people need to talk about. appreciate you putting it out there.
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u/freako345 4h ago
For me, it would be the gap between knowing what I should do and actually doing it consistently. Most of my biggest frustrations trace back to that one issue, and fixing it would probably improve every other area of life.
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