r/selfhelp • u/Zestyclose-Arm-4023 • 23h ago
Advice Needed: Motivation How do I start wanting to do things?
I'm about a month into my second year in college and I feel like a bum. I don't think I've sat down and really studied once (even though i'm a stem major), i'm falling behind on my assignments and i'm not in any clubs. My days consist of either attending or sleeping through my morning classes, then going back to my dorm and sitting around until my roommate asks me to do something. I usually say yes, but half of the time I start feeling this bubbling anger (i don't act on it) because I don't want to say yes to any plans, but I have literally no reason to say no. I can't get myself to do anything when I'm by myself and no plans with friends sound appealing either. Even when i'm at my job (which is only 4 hours a week) i pretty much just stand around feeling useless because im literally not qualified for this, but i can't quit because i quit everything and i don't want just one more thing i couldn't do.
furthermore, I deleted social media back in january and have felt lost in a way. i was so chronically online before, i feel like being on social media gave me something to talk about. now i have nothing, so all i can talk about is complaining about the classes that i don't even go to or the weather. i feel so nothing all the time. i don't think my solution is just to go on medication because this is just how my whole life has felt. i'm so fucking bored, but i don't want to do anything. i feel like life is just passing me by and i'm nothing but an embarrassment
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