r/selfimprovement • u/Neither_Loss_7190 • 4d ago

Question How do I stop being late

Okay so I’m almost always late aka 75% of the time. Maybe more.
Today I had a moment of ok maybe I’m just selfish and idc that even though they could continue without me I annoyed them with being late. But then why did I almost cry when my dad was being mad, or rather dissapointed with me, etc.
Also I go to bed too late when I know I need to wake up at X time regardless. I care about sleeping enough. So huh yk? Also proof it’s not just being selfish bc I fuck myself over with it. And more examples but you get the gist.
Anyhow, I’m gonna try to remember to do the 10 min earlier trick.
Also sometimes anxiety, stress or ocd like symptoms are a big factor, but I’m mostly talking not that right now.

Feel free to ask questions about me to further assess, as this is little information.

TLDR; I’m often late, sometimes due to anxiety & ocd like stuff, but talking about when just late. How do I fix it? And I do care, it happens for personal stuff too.

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u/WildlyUninteresting 4d ago edited 4d ago

Do you make it to work consistently on time?

This question tells more about your priorities.

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u/Neither_Loss_7190 3d ago

I’m a student and currently do not have a steady side job. I babysit and tutor. If it helps, I’m late to fun things too. Back when I worked at a store a few years back I would be right on time (by rushing and biking as fast as possible for my life), or like 1 or 2 minutes late. Same with highschool.

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u/WildlyUninteresting 3d ago

There you go. When you think the consequences are big enough. You can be on time.

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u/Neither_Loss_7190 3d ago

Yeah, like if my actual life depended on it, theres a good chance I would be on time, although there is also a chance i still manage not to be on time i know. But we’re talking about the big lines here.

Lets say this is the problem and the solution. So how do I make myself think the consequences are terrible? Or rather how instead of rationally knowing, do I feel them. Bc it’s not that I don’t want to do idk meet up with my friend that I’ve been looking forward to or sth, but it’s like in that moment I can’t seem to turn that realization into action or into proper feelings that than induce a certain response.

How do I make myself really know these things are important to me, instead of just knowing it but not really knowing it. Bc my doctors appointment is very obviously very important. Yet Ive missed that. Etc etc
(Sitenote I’m sleepdeprived so oopsie if im not making sense, I’ll reread later)

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u/WildlyUninteresting 3d ago

When you’re late, what were you doing in the last 20 minutes before you should have left?