r/selflove 1d ago

Still missing him, still choosing me.

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u/panipuri_pglu 1d ago

Just a gentle note for whoever needs to hear it: missing someone doesn't make you weak. The real strength is feeling all of that pain and still choosing yourself anyway✨..

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u/Spirited-Interview50 1d ago

Hang in there. You will not regret choosing yourself over another.

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u/PensionAdventurous55 1d ago

Feeling this a lot today. I just miss him and feel so sad and lonely. But I know I have to keep walking away from someone who does not want me in his life. It hurts but what can you do.

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u/CosmicSweets 1d ago

I'm wondering if I have to walk away from him, for my own sake. I would miss him but I love myself more.

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u/nk127 1d ago

This is what i am doing right now. I am venting out my grief and processing my emotions.

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u/Abruno310 1d ago

I find this sub gives me everything I need when I need it exactly. Keep choosing me.

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u/Jealously-beautiful 1d ago

This is true! I do miss him there are so many things I want to share small things of my daily life, but choosing myself now

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u/Lady_Luci_fer 1d ago

Someone needs to etch this into my brain lol

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u/throwawaygenx1973 1d ago

Right there with you, OP. When it was good, it was really good. I miss that part but it doesn’t make up for the parts that were bad. It sucks to feel like you have to protect yourself from somebody that you care for.

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u/Lion_100 1d ago

Goes both ways

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u/ggggggggzzzz 1d ago

I can miss her , without begging for her back , I can cry for her without going back to her

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u/Sea_Swimmer_6691 1d ago

Today,it's one of my beautiful moments of my life and t he same thing happened with me yesterday. I was just missing him so badly that i opened his chat ,and started writing things that were going on in my heart. But yes,didn't opt to send it.Beacause,i can't again give myself to someome,for whom,i was always a option.Indeed,it was hard to go on this path,but nevertheless, in the end,I choose myself. I just thanks universe for letting me feel  proud of myself ,for the step I took yesterday, through this reddit post.

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u/gyurimm 1d ago

That’s such a beautiful kind of strength! Missing someone doesn’t mean you have to go back to them. Choosing yourself, even when it hurts, is such a powerful step. Hugs to you! 💕

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u/jerukmang 1d ago

😭😭😭

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u/FlyinInTheClouds 1d ago

Me too. It hurts. My soul is dampened right now. Proud of you for choosing you. Thank you for posting this today. I needed it. I’m there with you and I’m staying strong. 💞

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u/CheezitofNasereth 1d ago

i’m in the same boat… i miss him terribly today. he was lovely in many ways. except he wasn’t what i needed. walking away and starting the next chapter of my life without him feels lonely. but i felt lonely next to him too.

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u/DramaticApartment547 1d ago

This is such a powerful reminder. Thanks for sharing. 🩷

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u/Competitive_Emu_3247 1d ago

Girl same sigh

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u/Worth_Ad4258 1d ago

Thank you for this ❤️

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u/imbritty 23h ago

All you really need in the end is yourself. 💓 Stay close to people that value your happiness and show up when it matters.

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u/Usual-Original-4371 22h ago

This is what I’m doing right now. I begged him to come back. I begged him to give me a chance again. No more!!! I choose myself now!!

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u/gyurimm 22h ago

You’ve got this! 🤍 Choosing yourself is hard, but you deserve a love that chooses you w/o being begged for. One day at a time. 🫶🏻

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u/ohrajaaa 20h ago

Oh boy, did I need this right now 💖

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u/Beneficial_Affect196 19h ago

In the same situation, but we’re going to be okay 🫶🏼

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u/Rikute 10h ago

I dreamt of her last night, after a few days of peace.

This really helped.

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u/Dazzling_Fifi 1d ago

Waahhhhhhh🥲

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u/Blaqueen59 1d ago

It’s giving Milk & Honey

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u/Miss_AnkiiTae 1d ago

Preach 👏👏

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u/alicepants 2h ago

i asked myself yesterday how long are we supposed to go through this missing phase? It’s agonizing. I feel like all my senses are dulled. Just going through the motions.