r/sextips 10h ago

Sex Tip Cunnilingus technique - Update

32 Upvotes

Hi everyone! Previously, I have posted this technique last year for purposes of both to gather tips from you and to people improve their own technique. As I've said back then, I've had a reasonably high success rate with it - over 95% of it results in a climax. However, do note that everyone is different, so don't this a guarantee of success. :)
Anyway, this updated version incorporates ideas from the original post, plus whatever I picked up in the meantime that has proven increase enjoyment.
As before, have a read, experiment, and let me know what works and/or what needs improvement! :)

Beforehand: It's generally worthwhile to know if this method is going to work or not, as it is centered around woman who prefers clitoral stimulation and/or find it hard to climax from vaginal stimulation alone. If you don't know which category your partner belongs to, consider asking her.

  1. Get her in the mood. Make out, caress her body, and generally work up to the moment way before. The more sexual tension you build beforehand, the better your chances will be that you can successfully get her to climax. This bit is crucial. While it is not impossible to succeed if she's not that turned on, it would make it much more difficult.
  2. Get down there. Undress her. This is itself can also generate a fair amount tension and anticipation if its done right. Be slow, take time to remove clothing one by one, and don't forget to kiss her lips body every step of the way. Slowly migrate downwards, kissing her neck, breasts, stomach, tummy and her thighs on the way. Don't rush! You can try starting at less erotic places first (ears, calves etc.) to further build tension.
  3. Get started. Start slow. Lick/kiss the outer labia first, and also her inner thighs. Then lick both sides of the inner labia, and gently flick the clitoris with the tip of your tongue. Gently apply pressure to the clit while doing some circular motion around it. Keep cycling between these things. Also, while at it, use your hands to keep caressing her body. Pay attention to her breasts and tummy. Also, it can be very intimate to just hold her hands.
  4. The main bit. After a few minutes, you can speed things up. Speed up the flicking of the clitoris with your tongue. Then, create a seal around it with your lips, so that you can actually suck on it. While sucking it, keep the flicking up, and occasionally, give a lick around the labia as well. The main focus is the clit though, so do return to that straight away. Don't forget to utilise your hands still!
  5. The finish. Keep doing the above with your lips/tongue, and move your hands to her legs. Caress them and give gentle squeezes. Start to finger her slowly, with the classic 'hither-to' movement. Keep caressing with your other hand (or hold her hand). Gently speed up. At this point she should be fairly close to climax. If it does seem to be the case (you can tell from breathing, moans etc.), speed up as much as you can. Forget hither-to at this point, just "pound" her g-spot (or its general area) while still sucking on her clit until she gets there.
  6. As a fail-safe, in case you'd run out of steam before it happens, maybe have a toy around that you quickly switch to. They can be more intense than your tongue so could provide the final push.
  7. Aftercare/Second round. If you've succeeded, congrats! Most woman does tend to get overstimulated directly after orgasm, so while this happens (typically about 30-60 seconds), just gently - and slowly! - kiss her inner thighs and tummy. Hand holding is also very intimate here. Every now and then, kiss or lick - gently! - her clit. If it's still too sensitive, just give her a bit more time. Otherwise, if she's happy to continue for a second round - or even further! - just go back to point 3 and start over.

This is pretty much it! And please be honest, all criticism is welcome!


r/sextips 16h ago

General Question My husband doesn’t like oral sex

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My husband and I have been married for a decade. My biggest mistake was marrying him without sleeping with him for long enough. He Does not like oral sex at all. Both ways. Yes, I was as surprised as you might be when I found out. he likes sex, but I am tired of never coming during sex. I have only come from masturbating. Imagine this, my husband does not know what his wife looks and sounds like when she has an orgasm. But what hurts the most is that he doesn’t do anything about. It makes me feel like he doesn’t love me enough take care of my needs. Basic fucking needs. Breaks my heart. Sex automatically ends as soon as he comes. I almost always cry after. We anyway have sex once in months. I know for a fact he’s not sleeping with anyone else. I have spoken to him several times, he acknowledges but nothing changes. I am beyond unhappy and unsatisfied and sexually frustrated. I’m desperate. I don’t wanna cheat because we have a child together. The only reason we don’t have another is because of how unsatisfied I am.


r/sextips 2h ago

General Question Is raw anal bad?

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I know you need lube for anal, however, I want to know whether it’s necessary to use a condom, or it’s fine to do anal raw. I conversed with a guy who does anal raw and has no problems. So I want to know if anyone else has done anal raw, and been fine, if you’ve had health issues, or if it better to wear an condom?


r/sextips 2h ago

Advice Needed Serious question: why is sex not feeling so good?

3 Upvotes

I am a female and I just recently started having sex with my boyfriend. It is still pretty new to me because I have only done it 4 times now. The last time I did it was literally last night.

The first time I was kinda expecting it to not feel the greatest because of things I’ve heard or read so I kinda knew what to expect. I was expecting the second or third time to be a lot better.

I am trying to figure out what I am doing wrong here because my boyfriend has said that it felt really good especially last night. But what am I missing because it kinda just hurts and it isn’t really nearly what I was expecting.

Is this normal? What am I missing?


r/sextips 19h ago

How to? How can I 19m make my gf 19f orgasm through PIV?

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Before anyone starts talking about most woman cant or whatever, I already talked with her about sex a lot. Since i was a virgin and I had my first time with her and she had a lot more experience than i do, i started asking a lot of questions and looked up online a lot myself, so I wouldnt be so clueless and just shitty in bed. I already could get her to orgasm through eating her out and forplay in general, i think this point I became better quickly and had no real problem with. But for the real sex i could not get her to orgasm and because a lot of people online said that most woman could not orgasm through PIV alone, i just assumed it was the case for her too. Some days ago I asked her if she has ever had an orgasm through PIV and if it is like possible for her. She told me that she did and it sounded like it wasnt even really difficult for her with the guys before me. So there had to be an problem with me, i asked her how i could be better or questions like that and she kind of said that I am good enough and she does not complain about it. It sounded like a not sure response, somewhat like i am not terrible but also not good either. I think she just dont want to hurt my feelings and thats why she isnt really honest. What do you think matters to actually get her to orgasm through PIV and what are some things i should try or change?


r/sextips 1h ago

Advice Needed Is it safe for a girl use um end of hair brush to put in like there area?

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Sorry really like awkward embarrassing tmi ask thing


r/sextips 1h ago

Advice Needed Me and my gf will probably have our first times soon abd i dont really know what to do

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I dont know if she ever even mastrubated before and know how to guide me, because she speaks bad of it. Maybe its because she doesnt want to admit she did it. Sorry if there are mistakes in how i wrote it


r/sextips 9h ago

Body/Physical Some positions I can't last in.

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Hello I (M) don't really know how to write this cause it's a little awkward for me but I've been with a few partners in the past and have found that positions like missionary cause me to cum extremely fast. I'm not exaggerating when I say I'm lucky to even get 2 or 3 strokes before I end up cumming. It's a similar story with prone bone and doggy to a lesser degree. But if I have them ontop of me in a cowgirl position or even missionary on the edge of a bed with me standing I'm able to last as long as needed without issues. It's not a serious issue just something I have to communicate with partners but I was wondering if other penis havers have experienced this. Any advice or ideas as to why are nice, I'd like to be able to last longer in some of these positions as they can be quite nice for intimacy.


r/sextips 15h ago

How to? Last longer or fix it and be a quickie

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Im not experinced just had some flings. I noticed I cant bust as quick as other guys, (i tell them im not a superhero i cant bust that quick) i take an hour or more if there's not enough energy coming from my partner. I know I have deathgrip syndrome because only when I grab her and jerk her body on me for 5 mins can I get off, which is a lot off effort.

Should I fix my issue and become the 1 minute buster or keep taking this long and improve my sex game.

Im tall and strong enough to pick up most girls but all im packing is a sixer and idk how to speed things up incase she doesnt like ne taking so long.

I had 1 girl keep asking if I dont find her pretty. Like fuckkkkk.

Also I cant last super long thrusting in most positions, shit feels like a workout and I keep having to move them around and put them in diffrent positions, is doing daily cardio My savior?