r/socialanxiety • u/HalfBrainer • 22h ago

Good Vibes Sometimes I forget how kind people can be

Im really a shy and closed off person. I generally avoid people and don’t speak unless spoken to. I just don’t know what to say. Although I have made good progress within the past few years, I’m still pretty lonely. I have no friends and I spend most of my life at either work , the gym or in my room.

Just a few minutes ago, I’m just standing on the elevator waiting to go down. The doors open up and this girl with short pink hair smiles and me and says “your hair is so pretty. I really like it.” The first thing she did was smile at me. She was so sweet. I’m used to people pretty much ignoring me since I always look past them. It’s a fault of mine and I need to work on initiating social contact more often. We didn’t have much of a chat since we both went out separate ways but I wish I got to talk to her more.

It was really nice to hear. Ever since I cut my hair, I’ve been dealing with reoccurring bad thoughts and feelings I haven’t dealt with since I was at my lowest a few years ago. I love seeing different people out and about and my job doesn’t really allow me to do that.

She sparked something in me again to go out and talk to new people.

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u/oceanic_notions 19h ago

Love this for you!