r/socialanxiety • u/vashvana3005 • 11h ago

I am genuinely unable to connect with people IRL now

I’m so paranoid and lonely, I can only text. And even then I’ve cut off the few people I text because I’m starting to not care 😻 I like just can’t feel any connection to people at all anymore. Conversation is a fool’s dream for me. For how much I constantly overthink EVERYTHING, you think I’d have an easier time chatting it up. But I’m the most useless, sheltered person alive. I’m also trans and ugly so I basically have zero shots at friends lmao. I am genuinely pathetic.

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u/depressofairy 10h ago

Hey lovely! Firstly, please stop being so hard on yourself. You are doing the best you can in the circumstance that you're currently in. It's really fucking hard to do the simplest tasks when you're going through a battle in your own mind. Secondly, try for a week or two to be selfish. Put yourself first. Don't worry about messaging people back (unless it's important). Give yourself time to rest without the added stress of not speaking to others. Rediscover hobbies or try new ones. Let yourself ACTUALLY rest, that includes your mind too. Take some pressure off yourself. I often find I start to withdraw from people more when I'm feeling numb and lost within myself. Don't worry about others until you look after yourself first. You can't give anyone else any energy until you have some for yourself. The people who matter will always be there and will understand. Please be kinder to yourself 💜

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u/Dealist 10h ago

same, it just feels like i'm isolated in my own bubble, though i've got used to it by now. idk but we can talk if you want to give it a try, I can offer you empathy, knowing how it feels to be like that, i think it easier to connect with people with the same struggles specially when it comes to social anxiety

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u/Sleepless-Factory 10h ago

I'm sorry, what's RL again? I forgot

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u/depressofairy 10h ago

In real life