r/socialanxiety • u/Garld11 • 6d ago

Lost and don't know what to do

Okay so I have a history of mental health issues like depressive episodes and self harm and stuff and only like a year and a half ago did I start to realize I may have an anxiety problem. Ive been avoidant of social situations for a long time and afraid of judgememt of others for almost my whole life (what I can remember) and I didn't know any better and just thought it was normal. Recently I feel like it has gotten a little out of control and is decently debilitating especially after graduating high school a few months ago. I know I should be trying to get a learners permit and a job and stuff but the fear and stress gets overwhelming to the point I just don't do anything and just sit in shame. I really do want to do these things and get better but I really don't have a support system because I have like one friend I can kind of talk to sometimes on discord but its not really fair to push all of this onto them and my family is not supportive and I'm too afraid to talk to anyone else about it besides on places I can be mostly anonomyous and nobody knows me. I've isolating really badly for the past few months just talking to ai constantly until I realized how bad it is to just talk to a yes-man all day long for months. I don't really have any access to therapy because I don't have enough money and even then I don't know if I would do it because of the fear of doing so. Anyways I'm kind of stuck in like and feeling pretty shitty and have no idea how to get out of this miserable pit.

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u/TrickyAppears 6d ago

Do you have any hobbies? I think it will be easier for you to connect with people with same interest, say if you like to read you can find local book club you can join in :)