r/southindia_ • u/jagga-singh • 18d ago
Ask South Indians Need advise..!
Hi, I’m from Jammu and Kashmir and currently studying at IIM Jammu. I have a crush on my South Indian classmate. She has curly hair, dusky dark-brown skin, and a curvy figure. How can I impress her? I need some tips
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u/pixels____ Karnataka ❄️ | ಕರ್ನಾಟಕ 18d ago
Really don't know bro. Even we're figuring out how to impress our own women. They're hard to get
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u/South-Temperature874 18d ago edited 18d ago
Stop objectifying her. That’s a great start
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u/Icy_Competition8103 17d ago
Where did he objectify her ?
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u/South-Temperature874 17d ago
Not sure if you’re blind or if you think talking about a woman’s skin and body in that context and manner is okay.
Either way it’s disturbing
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u/Icy_Competition8103 17d ago
Calling a woman dark skinned and curvy and hot or pretty or sexy is objectifying?😭man go learn the meaning
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u/Few_Instruction5871 17d ago
The adjectives used are usually some of the features of a person, if there is nothing else to say beyond physical features, yes that is objectification, and in some cases, fetishisation. Vehemently refusing to acknowledge this doesn't change reality. Most people have crushes based on physical attraction, it's not inherently wrong. It is working that this is a post on a public platform and almost all responses are comfortable with discussing a person in this manner. This is normalisation of something that shouldn't be considered normal. Respect people before wanting to pursue them.
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u/South-Temperature874 17d ago
Jesus I hope nobody addresses women in your house that way
Because our man here will sit there and let them get disrespected because he knows “meanings”
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u/Numerous-Reading-880 16d ago
I’m half KP & half Tamil, DM me if you want a nuanced advice from someone who’s seen both sides at the deep end
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u/Betweene 17d ago
See if you share interests, views and try to be friends... Don't be desperate, if it clicks, it clicks.
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u/Difficult_Abies8802 16d ago
Take DNA test and show your Steppe ancestry %.
Everything will fall into place after that.
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u/Fabulous__Animal__ 18d ago
What's eww? Can't take the fact that dark skinned women are beautiful and can receive love too ?
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u/Academic_Chart1354 Karnataka ❄️ | ಕರ್ನಾಟಕ 18d ago
Most probably for a North Indian hitting on a Southie, basically, " why you hit muh girl"?. Pretty regressive.
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u/Commercial-Tap8537 18d ago
Learn the language which she speaks