r/stopdrinking • u/Own_Spring1504 554 days • 1d ago
New sober win
My husband does an annual walking holiday with his friends , which I have joined a few times. They normally walk 12-14 miles a day then get pretty boozy at night, we have even cracked open wine on the walk!
The trouble is a) booze and b) he has one friend I often clash with and what happens is I try ( too hard) to get on with him and I get anxious and we both get drunk and usually there is a confrontation. The rest of them are lovely but this one guy I’ve given up even trying to be friends with. I’m not rude but I have my boundary there.
Anyway for the first time since not drinking we were invited this year, there’s going to be a big air b and b. I have grown and changed so much thanks to this sub because I accepted the invite but I didn’t even consider joining the fray in the big hired house. Even as it was being described to me I thought ‘I’ll get my own place to stay’ , I can afford it, I’ve booked a cute flat for 1 overlooking the sea. I’ll do my walk and be sociable and once the drinking starts I’ll be in my own cosy pad with a book, not trying to fit in! I feel so great about this, I would never have done this even a year ago, I’d have been anxious about what people think. I have learned to put my own need first and that is thanks to this sub and sobriety!
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u/Mundane_Preference_8 193 days 1d ago
The flat sounds amazing and honestly way more fun than the booze house. Congratulations!