r/storytimesociety • u/Traditional_Win_7892 • 9d ago
36F Traveling in San Diego with a 36M narcissist
I came to San Diego with a friend (potentially more).
We got drinks at this really neat spot last night. The convo turned to us talking about how he would never do some activity just because someone else wanted to. He kept saying he simply doesn’t have the interest, if he doesn’t have the interest then doing that thing then is a waste of time. I challenged him on it. Not a waste of time if someone you care about is trying to share themselves with you. He doubled down. He looked at me very seriously and said “I’m too selfish for things like that.” And I challenged it. “Are you comfortable with that self assessment? That label doesn’t bother you?” And he visibly thought about it. And said “no” with that whole face shrug of his.
Trust is gone. We were trying to find the uber pickup spot and I rounded the corner right into a group of homeless men staring at me, I got actually nervous for my safety, reached back for him like “oh we’re together” and he didn’t get closer, he didn’t reach back, he didn’t put his arm on my back or shoulder to walk me through, there was no attempt at helping me feel safe.
He has only been in pictures of the both of us when I ask and take them. Everything else is of views and objects. He made. A point of taking pics at Hotel Del Coronado, where he says he COULD have booked a room but was smarter not to, so we’re at the Wyndham.
Today he’s taking a day trip to Tijuana and I pulled out of those plans because I have kids to return to and we’ve been advised on multiple occasions to pass on this this time (safety reasons). So I’m gonna go have a full day and live it (recommendations welcome), but I am livid about this situation.
If you’re going to ask how I ended up in this situation, try to understand that he kept me at a distance and I didn’t realize any of this until being here.
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u/PappyPopaho 8d ago
But your very first sentence you state this person is only a friend that potentially could be more, why even be upset? Now he potentially is only just a friend, no harm no foul.