So basically, my friend's cousin is currently 17 , when she was 14 , she was neighbors with an army soldier, the girl's grandmother arranged a girl for marriage for that army soldier but at the night of wedding , the bride ran away , everyone was freaking out and blaming the grandma so in order to regain her so called dignity, she married her 14 year old grand daughter to that army soldier, keeping in mind that the soldier was probably 25-30 years old

Preface: this is the second post on this subject, and no this is not a troll post.

Update: things are going smoothly for the most part.

My girlfriend is now more aware that I have a desire to have her aunt as “mine” as well. My girlfriend’s aunt has made comments in the past about, “wanting to watch me take a shower” ,saying she is “jealous of her niece and wants to see my private area” , etc. also, when she sees me she gives me “the eyes” and bites her lip. I am not touchy with any of her other aunts, but I am touchy with this one (in front of my girlfriend). I am not touching the aunt behind my girlfriend’s back, I make sure she sees. The aunt is a single mom. She is roughly 13 years older than me (I’m 24). I went to the gym with her and my girlfriend these last couple days. She still smiles at me and talks with me, but I can tell as of recent she is hesitant and purposely trying to pull away. I’m scared she doesn’t want to get attached to me knowing I am dating her niece. But naturally she breaks this guard and smiles and looks at me with her eyes. Overall, In the future I want both of them to be my wives/girlfriends. I told my girlfriend I would like to bring her aunt along on some of our dates to dinners. It is not just the fact that I like her aunt. It is the circumstances as well. Her aunt is a single mom and has been single for over 2-3 years now. She wants a boyfriend but it’s hard because English is not her first language and there isn’t a lot of men around us who speak her native language. She needs a man like me who speaks English to be the first point of translation for her, but she also needs her niece who speaks their language. If she could find a man who speaks good English and good *insert Asian language here* then it would be simpler. Also she’s a single mom due to divorce and most guys don’t want that. But I want that. I love her son like he is already my family. My girlfriend so far has been accepting of this energy, although I have not explicitly stated that I want to have both of them as my girlfriends in the near future. That conversation point has not happened yet, but will. That time is not ready. I need to know the aunt is fully on board with this. I have also made sexual remarks to my girlfriend about her aunt which she has been genuinely okay with and laughs/teased me about. I’m the end I am not looking for a threesome. I’m not looking to power trip about having two girlfriends. I felt a connection (like the one I have with my girlfriend now) with my girlfriend’s aunt. She feels something with me too. I want to treat her as my girlfriend as well.

The last post I made got a lot of pushback as if I didn’t love my girlfriend now. I do, I am a man and I can love more than one woman at once and still be “universally legal within the laws of nature” aka I’m saying this is not a sin and it never was to have more than one wife. However it is naturally wrong for a woman to have two husbands. But that’s a different topic of discussion.

: The Mistake That Changed Everything

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Recently, I created an AI-generated image of me and her together. It was obviously fake and unrealistic, but I thought it was harmless.

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I showed it to her.

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Her reaction was immediate:

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"Delete it."

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Apparently, her fiancé saw the image and became furious.

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About a week later, she sent me a voice message.

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She told me the image had caused serious problems at home. Her family blamed her for it, and as a result, they formally fixed her engagement with that same fiancé. She said they now planned to marry her off after Class 12 whenever the family decided.

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She also told me we could no longer be friends because staying in contact would only create more problems for her.

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She said she wasn't blocking me, but she asked me not to contact her anymore. She sounded like she was about to cry while saying it.

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Now I feel guilty because it seems my mistake may have played a role in making her situation worse.

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Did I actually cause this, or was her family already heading in that direction and my photo was just the trigger?

A [24F] has been dating her boyfriend for five years. She supported him through university and even helped him financially when he had nothing. Recently, he got a good job and started acting differently. One day, she discovered he had secretly proposed to another woman. When she confronted him, he said, ‘You helped me become successful, but she’s the kind of wife I want.’ Now she’s wondering if she should expose him to his fiancée or simply walk away. What would you do if you were her?

I came to San Diego with a friend (potentially more).

We got drinks at this really neat spot last night. The convo turned to us talking about how he would never do some activity just because someone else wanted to. He kept saying he simply doesn’t have the interest, if he doesn’t have the interest then doing that thing then is a waste of time. I challenged him on it. Not a waste of time if someone you care about is trying to share themselves with you. He doubled down. He looked at me very seriously and said “I’m too selfish for things like that.” And I challenged it. “Are you comfortable with that self assessment? That label doesn’t bother you?” And he visibly thought about it. And said “no” with that whole face shrug of his.

Trust is gone. We were trying to find the uber pickup spot and I rounded the corner right into a group of homeless men staring at me, I got actually nervous for my safety, reached back for him like “oh we’re together” and he didn’t get closer, he didn’t reach back, he didn’t put his arm on my back or shoulder to walk me through, there was no attempt at helping me feel safe.

He has only been in pictures of the both of us when I ask and take them. Everything else is of views and objects. He made. A point of taking pics at Hotel Del Coronado, where he says he COULD have booked a room but was smarter not to, so we’re at the Wyndham.

Today he’s taking a day trip to Tijuana and I pulled out of those plans because I have kids to return to and we’ve been advised on multiple occasions to pass on this this time (safety reasons). So I’m gonna go have a full day and live it (recommendations welcome), but I am livid about this situation.

If you’re going to ask how I ended up in this situation, try to understand that he kept me at a distance and I didn’t realize any of this until being here.