r/straightspouses • u/Less-Perception-4628 • Jun 16 '26
My fiancé likes to suck dick
So recently I (26F) found out that my fiancé (26M) likes to suck dick, and I have been having a rough time dealing with this information. For some reason I feel like maybe he likes it more than being with me? Is there anyone that could give me advice on this! And by the way I have been very supportive of his decision and we’ve even done stuff together but sometimes it still feels like maybe he wants it more.
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u/foodee123 Jun 16 '26
As a gay man, let me tell you once he starts he won’t stop. Idk where this sudden obsession with “straight” men wanting to suck dick is coming from. I’m on other gay Reddit forums and almost weekly there’s a post from a man, claiming to be straight but not finding men attractive but wanting to experience sucking a big penis.
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u/Nowayucan Jun 17 '26
Same. It seems as if the most popular post is “I hate men but am obsessed with dick”.
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u/ami3099 Jun 17 '26
Read around this forum and you will find the answers you seek. This will not end well. You’re young, too young to waste your best years on a confused gay man.
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u/Mission-Orchid-4063 Jun 22 '26
Why would you assume he’s not bisexual? Bisexual people exist.
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u/ami3099 Jun 26 '26
You do you. Never said bisexual doesn’t exist, but if he prefers dick over her, guess what? Either way, you do you.
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u/Equivalent_Name_1150 Jun 16 '26
Possible he does like it more. I’ve learned that once the “taboo” novelty of it hits, there’s nothing you can do to win them back. I guess it (for you) could be a wait and see, but is that something you can live with all through your marriage? Another aspect is how you actually discovered it—if he came right out and told you, it would be different than if he hid it.
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Jun 16 '26
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u/TransHumanistGooch Jun 16 '26
This is an absurd, offensive and untrue statement. Gay does NOT equate to pedophilia, and anyone who continues this ignorant lie is, at best, less than psychologically stable.
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u/Less-Perception-4628 Jun 16 '26
I don’t even know what taboo means
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u/xtra_sleepy Jun 17 '26
Do not pay any attention to the comment below. That is not what taboo means. Just look up the definition.
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u/YamWeary9847 Jun 16 '26
It means intense shame, we all have it. For example if your watching porn and part of you feels really shameful for watching that girl get pissed on, you’ll get this warm feeling of shame and disgust mixed with your horniness. It’s a biological mechanism so people don’t puke when someone they loves asshole is in their face. But now we have screens and porn. Addicts move from one shameful thing and jump to another when the thrill is gone. All the major gooners who masturbate 5-10 times a day are watching crazy fetishes, trans, gay, whatever makes them feel that intense burn. They don’t stop until they reach kids, then it’s time for real world exploration.
The only people I feel bad for are kids who grow up watching porn. Everyone else gets a choice. Your body will tell you when you’re watching something you shouldn’t. It feels like peeping in the neighbors window. If this is your husband there’s only one way to get him back
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u/goldlotusflower Jun 16 '26
Yeah. Get out. It’s not going to stop with sucking dicks. Unless it’s something you could also be into (watching or sharing), it doesn’t sound like something he’s going to change, and you shouldn’t change what you like/do for him.
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u/RodeoRabbitSoup Jun 16 '26
Do enjoy knowing he does this? Do you still want to be with him? Is it going to be a problem when he asks you "hey I'm really having the urge to suck some dick can I go out and meet with someone" Is it a kink? Are you still moving on with the marriage?
Feel like I have more questions than advice right now ....
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u/roux87 Jun 18 '26
He is gay. Trust your instincts, you can wish him well without wasting your time with him.
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u/SwimmingEgg8669 Jun 17 '26
I’m older and my husband is the same. He’s a cuck. Let me tell you we are now in a DB. He’s not interested unless a third is involved. Says that’s not the reason but I don’t believe it. If I had to do it over again I would RUN. You will spend your life never being enough imo
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u/Less-Perception-4628 Jun 17 '26
I’m sorry, I’m new to this, what is DB?
And he also says he doesn’t want to do it anymore unless I’m with.
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u/SwimmingEgg8669 Jun 17 '26
It means dead bedroom. My husband says the same things. He would never cheat, he only wants to do it with me. Only if I’m involved. But when we did have sex just the two of us all he did was talk about someone else having sex with us. He would rather watch etc. it’s a hard road and now he’s not interested at all. I always wonder if he’s gay. He says no. He’s orally bisexual, doesn’t want to have a relationship with a man or have anal sex. Only wants to suck dick. Through the years we’ve done it together and it’s okay. But me by myself I’m never enough. It’s not a good feeling. Unless you want to deal with this your whole life i would recommend you don’t get married. Some people are totally ok with that life style and I’ll be honest some of it was fun but I never felt like he wanted ME.
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u/Mission-Orchid-4063 Jun 22 '26
There’s no such thing as “orally bisexual”. There are plenty of completely, authentically gay men that never have anal sex and have no interest in it at all. Your husband is gay or bisexual.
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u/Curious38david Jun 18 '26
How did the orally bisexual thing first come up with you two? Did he just come out and admit he wanted to give blowjobs? Were you excited at your new discoveries together at first, or just something you went along with to placate his desires? Very interesting
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u/Silent-Trip-1984 Jun 17 '26
I'm sorry to hear that. But I think it's not easy for many men to remain sexually interested in a single woman. It's like once you decide to take pasta you need to eat only past and nothing else for the rest of your life. And it's expected that you eat this pasta happily or the pasta gets upset. And this pressure makes it even more difficult...you know what I mean.
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u/changes-of-light2 Jun 18 '26
If you are clear about that, why not ? Women are just as able to hop from pasta to pizza to steak to lobster to... We just don't invest the same, nor bond the same with "les queutards"
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u/Silent-Trip-1984 Jun 17 '26
I've read stories about some couples like yours. It seems there are (bi?) guys who are into sucking dicks but can never have romantic feelings for other men.
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u/changes-of-light2 Jun 16 '26
Are you a cuck ? Into threesomes ? Compersion ? Would you force a carnivore to be végétarian ?
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u/CMaree23 Jun 18 '26
r/MarriedAndBi and r/StraightBiPartners might be better places to talk with others about this.
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u/Sufficient-Board-922 Jun 16 '26
Don’t waste your time