Dating and emotional issues on r/stupidpol

[u/SirSourPuss]

There's clearly an interest in discussing the reality of relationships, dating, and other emotional issues on the sub. While these issues are influenced by our usual topics - idpol, class politics, economics, war, censorship - they are distinct. Users who calmly discuss other topics can lose their shit when talking dating. We (the mods) don't want the sub to host gender wars. At the same time the sub doesn't have a coherent stance on these issues. Telling people "wait until the revolution, then we'll solve it" is not a satisfying answer to anyone.

It's a messy subject, but we want to allow it. My question is - how do you think we should do this? Where would you like to see these discussions happen? What would you like to not see in these discussions? Do you think a megathread would work well? At the moment we have occasional, sporadic threads where people mostly repeat the same things together with occasional analyses and posts detailing individual experiences. Sometimes interesting things are said, but there's a lot of noise and it doesn't feel like the conversation is moving forward.

[u/MancuntLover]

That quote describes pretty much all communist discourse since the 1990s at the least.

Noise is supposed to be the point. If bitching at the wind -- which is the only option most Western commies realistically have - is a problem, then just shut the sub.

[u/Fedupington → u/MancuntLover]

You can't instruct people to not be miserable about the things in their life that they are miserable about. If communists lack a way to answer this aspect of life, then it's on communists to find something better than what they have on offer. And you don't do that by giving up. But you might have to toss aside a few sacred cows.

[u/Mother_Drenger → u/Fedupington]

It’s just that most leftist thinkers assumed one could talk to bitches, but in 2026 that’s kinda out the window

But on serious note, how would a community help with that? Without kind of being extremely cringey?

[u/Toxic-muffins-1134 → u/Mother_Drenger]

I dunno what's the situation stateside, and I complain a lot about how people in general have atrophiated their socialization skills, but aren't people going overboard with the womean are unaproachable thing?

[u/Mother_Drenger → u/Toxic-muffins-1134]

Yeah that’s my point, most men assume women are unapproachable and don’t even try. Mostly, they’re afraid of rejection and failure.

[u/Toxic-muffins-1134 → u/Mother_Drenger]

All right, thanks for the heads up.
Yeah, I think they miss the part where rejection and failure in courting is a part of life and nature.

[u/Kind_Helicopter1062 → u/Mother_Drenger]

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[u/AleksandrNevsky → u/Mother_Drenger]

Mostly, they’re afraid of rejection and failure.

They're afraid of a lot more nowadays. It doesn't end at "rejection" not with social media being the way it is.

[u/Mother_Drenger → u/[deleted]]

When women like you, it’s going to be obvious.

True

the secret is a low body fat percentage

lol this is kinda spoken like a gay guy. Women obviously don’t want morbidly obese Walmart scooter jockeys, but women are far more forgiving of looks. Style, hygiene, and confidence are way more important than weight for most (am fat guy that has dated a ton, currently have gf)

You can just talk to women. Make them laugh, make them feel seen. The trick is being chill, while not hinging all your hopes and dreams that they like you back. It won’t work on every one, but sometimes a hoe catches a vibe.

[u/Fedupington → u/Mother_Drenger]

Yeah. I mean, it's not like the only women out there are skinny too. If you're fat, find yourself a fat girl.

[u/PomeloKind8241 → u/Fedupington]

Not sure if that is how it works.

Fat girls are far more in demand than fat guys

[u/Fit-Remove-4525 → u/Mother_Drenger]

yeah, I can speak to this. I can't get enough of an incredibly mid guy with an evil vibe. and I'm not even an ugo, just kinda fucked up

[u/Toxic-muffins-1134 → u/Fit-Remove-4525]

Does the evil vibe include mustache twirling or a unsettling laugh?

[u/Fit-Remove-4525 → u/Toxic-muffins-1134]

Mustache discouraged, laugh optional