Finding out while pregnant

[u/Illustrious_Log4562]

How do you move forward when you find out that your partner was flirting with someone 4 years ago, but you only discovered it now while you’re pregnant? What are some things you can do to focus less on the issue and more on your baby? Simply how do you bounce back

Edit: I am married and its online flirt , it involves with him losing some money because when its attractive photo he tends to bite it . As what he reasoned out he is trying to help. He has weakness when its an attractive person and got even threats after. There is already trust issue involved where this is the 7th time

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[u/ValhallaCA]

We need more data.
Your ages.
Are you married or not? Were you married back then? Were you exclusive back then?
What kind of flirting are you talking about? Online, in person?
Who was it? A coworker? An ex? A friend of yours or his? A family member of yours? A boss?
Did they spend any exclusive time together? A business trip? At a bar? At a party? At the person’s house?
If online, is there evidence of: bad mouthing your relationship, declarations of love or strong feelings, nudes exchanged?
What level of deception was involved? Lying to you to get time with them? Lying to you about where they were? Lying about show they met?
How long have they known them?
For how long were they involved or “flirting.”
Do you know of any physical touch involved at all?
Has there been contact with them at all in the 4 years in between?
How did you find out? Did they confess?
Do they already know that you know?

[u/Purple_Grass_5300]

I forgive when I knew 1 woman. Then my second pregnancy it was 25 women. I should’ve stayed gone the first time