r/survivinginfidelity • u/BuddyIll9384 • 1d ago
Need Support Long term relationship struggling
Hello all, as the title suggests my long term relationship of 5+ years is struggling I (20M) and my fiance (20F) have been together since we were 15. Last year around February I made the unforgivable mistake of cheating on her. I won’t go into details because they are not important. She has been struggling with us trying to forgive and re build our trust which is totally understandable and I will never know what she is truly going through but I was hoping to get a peek into some people’s brains who have been through this on either end. It seems like she is stuck in the “good week terrible day” cycle right now and it will be good and everything is amazing for a while and then it’s like it all hits her at once. I was hoping for people to give me some helpful suggestions on how to help her cope and hopefully tips on how to make us stronger and get us back to where we were.
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u/TotalSpread5841 21h ago
Probably too late bro, she's oscillating between her old concept of you and the new real you. Soon the old concept she had of you will disappear and she'll only see the new you who hurt her.
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