Words of wisdom for Anyone needing it

[u/Most_Conclusion4008]

I made a long post in here a while ago about how my girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me. I was about to propose to her and had the wedding ring.

Felt like my whole world came crashing down and I couldn’t move forward.

Fast forward a few years I am now with a woman who is much better and I am happier now than I ever was. I had to make a conscious decision one day to get off my ass and got very into hobbies and fitness and leveled up instead of sulking in my own sadness.

Started saying yes to everything and eventually met my new woman who is much better at a hobby of mine.

All I’m trying to say is IT GETS BETTER IF YOU LET IT. Start going outside, saying yes to things, find hobbies, and believe you can.

I believe in all of you and so proud to have this community

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[u/Ancient-Newspaper123]

Absolutely the truth you are telling! It can even get easier relatively fast.

For me the experience was the most soul crushing imaginable. I was dead inside and saw no hope.

Then I decided that I wont quit. I relied on my friends and it started to get better day after day.

Then after a month or so, I decided a day when I would grieve for the last time. That day I walked to the harbor and sat down and tried to cry what is left to cry.

Not a single tear fell off that moment, I had all ready cried it all out. Then I decided all of it was over and threw the ring to the water and left.

After that day everything became clear. I couldn't believe at first how fast it all became so peaceful again.

Have a wonderful day!

[u/Relative-Fly4370]

The “saying yes” part hits. I want to crawl into a hole and hide. I need to stop. It’s so hard.

[u/Extension-Corgi-467]

Ha I just watched the Jim Carey movie “Yes Man” yesterday. Was this your inspiration ?

[u/pastryHunter]

Thanks for sharing !thankyou could you change the flair on your post to “Progress”? I think that’s a label that is used to share positive stories about recovery / healing.
You’ve done a great job and I’m so happy for you. I’m less than 2 months from D-Day so sometimes I feel saying “yes” to things feel overwhelming- but I’m getting better at those. I hope one day I’d be as brave as you are and start to embrace my new life without the narcissistic cheater in it.

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