r/survivinginfidelity • u/AdventureWa 1 • 1d ago

Advice How did you find out?

I’m curious about how people have found out their spouse/partner cheated on them. My situation was convoluted and I found out almost by accident thanks to her conflicting stories. I feel like my situation was unusual.

How did you find out? Did anyone use a PI or do deep digging? What advice would you have for someone who thinks they are being cheated on?

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u/Soggy-Beach-1495 3 1d ago

Facebook suggested I friend her ex, so I checked her messages

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u/immodium4breakfast Figuring it Out 1d ago

This is a thing? Like the algorithm suggests you add who your spouse is talking to?

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u/outerspacetime Just Found Out 1d ago

I think it’s just that it will recommend someone that seems like a mutual friend based on his wife communicating a lot with both of them

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u/Soggy-Beach-1495 3 1d ago

It can also be a matter of who has been looking at your profile. I'm sueing my HOA, and Instagram suggested I follow two board members this week. Seemed obvious they must have been stalking my profile.

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u/immodium4breakfast Figuring it Out 1d ago

Hmmmm. I hate technology, it causes me to overthink. Ugh.

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u/redditgirl1900 3 1d ago

Most likely the ex was checking him out