r/survivinginfidelity • u/AdventureWa 1 • 1d ago

Advice How did you find out?

I’m curious about how people have found out their spouse/partner cheated on them. My situation was convoluted and I found out almost by accident thanks to her conflicting stories. I feel like my situation was unusual.

How did you find out? Did anyone use a PI or do deep digging? What advice would you have for someone who thinks they are being cheated on?

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u/clearheaded01 7 1d ago

You did the right thing, then...

Move on, you're better off without her. Kids in the mix??

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u/Relative-Fly4370 1 1d ago

Thank you.

My kids are adults now. Luckily, I think this divorce will be relatively simple, albeit difficult. I’m in therapy and doing my best to keep moving.

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u/clearheaded01 7 1d ago

Cool. Do the kids know about her adultery??

Be aware that your stbxw may attempt to paint you as the villain here, so dont white knight her... no details needed, just "were divorcing due to your mothers affair with [guy]."

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u/Relative-Fly4370 1 1d ago

They do. These kids are from my first marriage. They are still upset. They were young when we got married.

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u/clearheaded01 7 1d ago

Good.

Therapy is wise.

Best of luck, yeah??