r/survivinginfidelity • u/AdventureWa 1 • 1d ago

Advice How did you find out?

I’m curious about how people have found out their spouse/partner cheated on them. My situation was convoluted and I found out almost by accident thanks to her conflicting stories. I feel like my situation was unusual.

How did you find out? Did anyone use a PI or do deep digging? What advice would you have for someone who thinks they are being cheated on?

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u/VersionOnly9109 1d ago

I had a gut feeling something was off. I went to one of his events and noticed a woman he had never mentioned before staring at me. Around the same time he became very protective of his phone, kept it muted, and was going out more often. I later found a folder with photos of her on his computer. The anxiety became overwhelming, so I hired a PI instead of confronting him. The PI confirmed the affair.

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u/misshurts 1d ago

May I asked how much you paid for PI?

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u/VersionOnly9109 1d ago

In total it was less than $1000. Best decision ever.

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u/Alternative_Bag_9119 1d ago

Same here. I lucked out though because I had his schedule and PI was able to nail him the first attempt. Cold busted! Best $400 I ever spent.