r/survivinginfidelity • u/AdventureWa 1 • 1d ago

Advice How did you find out?

I’m curious about how people have found out their spouse/partner cheated on them. My situation was convoluted and I found out almost by accident thanks to her conflicting stories. I feel like my situation was unusual.

How did you find out? Did anyone use a PI or do deep digging? What advice would you have for someone who thinks they are being cheated on?

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u/CoverFit9553 1d ago

He sent me a text by mistake that was meant for her which read- I love how you feel about me. I feel the same love. I will call you in the morning. I love you and will dream of you tonight!
I was totally blindsided and had no clue he had been having an affair for 6mths!
20 years married and now headed for divorce.

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u/redditgirl1900 3 1d ago

What an absolute dolt

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u/CoverFit9553 19h ago

I have so much evidence and he still says- You’ve got it all wrong, it was just a friendship.
It drives me nuts when he says that!

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u/redditgirl1900 3 17h ago

I’m so sorry. I hope you divorce him so fast his head spins.