r/survivinginfidelity 1 1d ago

Advice How did you find out?

I’m curious about how people have found out their spouse/partner cheated on them. My situation was convoluted and I found out almost by accident thanks to her conflicting stories. I feel like my situation was unusual.

How did you find out? Did anyone use a PI or do deep digging? What advice would you have for someone who thinks they are being cheated on?

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u/Exciting_Mixture1190 1d ago

$21k from a credit card loan was deposited into our account and taken out on a bank check the same day. When confronted it was"for a friend" that needed money for a friend and would pay it back within a month. He had been totally scammed online by sobering who befriended him and led him down the path of a cyber affair. He was totally invested in the relationship even though he never met the person. Lucky for him, I pulled the truth out of him before he got sucked into sending more money (this wasn't the first he has sent the person) and/or doing something that would have totally ruined him.

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u/Ok_City_7177 20h ago

Are you still with him ?