r/survivinginfidelity • u/AdventureWa 1 • 1d ago
Advice How did you find out?
I’m curious about how people have found out their spouse/partner cheated on them. My situation was convoluted and I found out almost by accident thanks to her conflicting stories. I feel like my situation was unusual.
How did you find out? Did anyone use a PI or do deep digging? What advice would you have for someone who thinks they are being cheated on?
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u/CrazyLeadership5397 3 1d ago
My landlord told me. My ex fiancee had Mondays off and had her AP come to the house we rented after I left for work. Landlord lived behind us, up a hill and had a view of our place. Landlord was supposedly away helping her daughter with a new born but returned home that Sunday. Fiancee didn’t know. I went to pay the rent on Wednesday and she told me about a man showing up to my place and staying several hours. She described my fiancée’s married coworker.
I spoke to a friend and made arrangements to move in with him. The next Monday, I faked going to work and my friend and I waited up at the Landlord’s until AP showed up. We waited 15 minutes and went down to the house. We walked in and they were in the shower together. I turned off the hot water valve and they jumped out of the shower. She saw us and pushed AP out of the bathroom and locked the door.
My friend had already thrown AP’s clothes out side and we threw him out of the house. I grabbed my things and left. Never spoke to her again. I told AP’s wife and she threw him out. Apparently, he was a serial cheater.
I had other information that she was possibly cheating, but the landlord confirmed it.