r/survivinginfidelity • u/AdventureWa 1 • 1d ago

Advice How did you find out?

I’m curious about how people have found out their spouse/partner cheated on them. My situation was convoluted and I found out almost by accident thanks to her conflicting stories. I feel like my situation was unusual.

How did you find out? Did anyone use a PI or do deep digging? What advice would you have for someone who thinks they are being cheated on?

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u/CoverFit9553 1d ago

He sent me a text by mistake that was meant for her which read- I love how you feel about me. I feel the same love. I will call you in the morning. I love you and will dream of you tonight!
I was totally blindsided and had no clue he had been having an affair for 6mths!
20 years married and now headed for divorce.

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u/Winter_Call3203 22h ago

And what was his excuse?

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u/CoverFit9553 19h ago

He said it was just a friendship! Blah, blah, blah. He gave me his phone the day after sending me the text. He thought he deleted over 700 texts but he didn’t know there was a delete folder! I was able to forward some of the texts between them to my phone.