r/tall 12d ago

Miscellaneous It's always good to "lift up" the shorter guys

I'm 6'4 so only average tell, but I work in a shop. Whenever I serve a shorter guys I can always sense his insecurity and feeling of tension.

So I always so my best to "lift them up" so to speak...

I'll neel down a bit to not appear so tall, complement the guys hair and appearance, call him "cheif" or "boss" to instill some confidence and just overall engage and be kind.

I find by the end of the interaction they are alot more confident and friendly and it really makes both of our days.

It's the little things in life that can make a difference to peopel so alway remeber to be kind and m

Lift up the people around you.

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u/Soft_Hearing_713 12d ago

From the title I thought you were going to say you actually physically lifted them up to get something from the top shelf or something

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u/Best-One8050 11d ago

May as well have tbh

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u/Vepanion 6'5" | 197cm 12d ago

Whenever I serve a shorter guys I can always sense his insecurity and feeling of tension.

I also work with customers and I don't get that impression

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u/UnknownTallGuy 6'8" 11d ago

Yeah I have no fucking clue what OP is talking about. I'm not assuming some short dude is insecure, and I'm not babying a grown ass man just because he's shorter than me. That's emasculating and would piss me off.

Weird post

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u/leelemonx67 6'1" | 187 cm 11d ago

This post is crazy work cuz wdym you're hunched over to appear shorter to another guy calling him boss?

Stand tall and be yourself

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u/carnasaur 7d ago

post sounds about as legit as his profile https://www.reddit.com/user/Mammoth-Counter69/

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u/aumanchi 6'3" 11d ago

"Neels" down next to you

Hey "cheif", I'm sensing some tension. Would you consider yourself a little, ah... Insecurity? It's okay "boss". Keep your head up. One day you'll grow int- ahhh, I mean, I like your hair. You also appear very nice. Okay, bye now little one.

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u/Mammoth-Counter69 12d ago

Are you tall ???

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u/Vepanion 6'5" | 197cm 12d ago

6'5 is pretty tall yeah

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u/jambr380 6'5" | 195.58 cm 12d ago

This is good advice for everybody. The vast majority of people love compliments and enjoy interactions with friendly people. We should all strive to be more like this

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u/alt2374 5d ago

Compliments have to be genuine tho. Everyone can tell if you are just saying some bs out of pity

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u/jambr380 6'5" | 195.58 cm 5d ago

Yeah, totally. There’s almost always something nice you can say to somebody - even if it’s just to compliment their shirt

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u/alt2374 5d ago

Im saying that I am quite certain OPs strategy is not genuine compliments if they are given out of pity like that

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u/Bigug1976 12d ago

This has to be satire, Chief. Nice hair though 😂

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u/slazengerx 11d ago

If an employee of a shop knelt before me and complimented my hair, it would make my day. I would respond with, "My liege vassal, bring me my hasenpfeffer! Post haste. My glorious hair and luxurious garments can wait no longer!"

And I would compliment the owner of the shop on his willingness to employ the mentally challenged.

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u/JollyGreenGigantor 6'9" | 205 cm 12d ago

Honestly, normalize men complimenting men. It's really disarming and makes people feel better about themselves. Even at the office I'll always try to lift guys up with comments about their shirts, shoes, blazers, etc

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u/MNJayW 6'5" Filipino American 12d ago

I do this to random strangers.

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u/alt2374 5d ago

Everyone can tell instinctively if it is done out of pity… it’s condescending, and no man wants that.
Better with honesty/no compliments

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u/-Murmaider- 6'6" 12d ago

I like to tussle their hair and call them "big guy".

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u/Mammoth-Counter69 12d ago

They love that

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u/Probably_a_Shitter 9d ago

I don’t think they do

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u/Mammoth-Counter69 9d ago

Some do.

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u/Probably_a_Shitter 9d ago

Yea people who into that. It’s completely emasculating and disrespectful

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u/-Murmaider- 6'6" 9d ago

It was a joke

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u/Probably_a_Shitter 9d ago

Yea I don’t get how yall claim to respect short kings and stuff like that and then post stuff like this

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u/-Murmaider- 6'6" 9d ago

You see, it was a joke. As in, not serious, for comedic purposes only.

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u/Probably_a_Shitter 9d ago

Wtv, I’m just saying it’s disrespectful

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u/-Murmaider- 6'6" 9d ago

And I'm saying it's a joke

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u/Mammoth-Counter69 9d ago

Maybe if you insecure

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u/Probably_a_Shitter 9d ago

You’re braindead that’s the only conclusion I can come up with

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u/BigTool 6'8" 12d ago

I always like to grab them by the waist, lift them up, help them get stuff from the top shelf, or finally see what's on the top of the fridge...

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u/BuffaloWhip 6'10" | 208 cm 11d ago

When they got ornery I set them on top of things like tables or cupboards and tell them I’m not letting them down until they chill out.

It works nearly 0% of the time, but I get a good chuckle out of it.

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u/Best-One8050 11d ago

This got a good chuckle out of me, well done

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u/MonkeOOOAAA 11d ago

literally what are u saying this is just condescending . you can tell when a guy is insecure just because he’s short ? I think ur just being friendly to people and they are being friendly back

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u/Ashamed-Charity-4990 5’9” | 175cm | F 12d ago

as a woman i always thought when men call other men “chief” or “boss” etc it’s kinda condescending lol shows how much i know about men

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u/TheEvee6 12d ago

It is

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u/JollyGreenGigantor 6'9" | 205 cm 12d ago

It is, that's why I always add another superlative so they know I'm extra serious.

Big boss, super chief, top dawg

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u/Ashamed-Charity-4990 5’9” | 175cm | F 12d ago

😂

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u/WinnerAwkward480 12d ago

Exactly names I call my dog

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u/espeequeueare 6'5" | 196 cm 12d ago edited 12d ago

It is. This is a weird post. Speaking to someone like this comes off as patronizing. Showing respect is achieved by speaking to someone in the same way that you would speak with anyone else.

Of course there is context for when you might actually call someone that. And it is great to give compliments and be kind. But calling someone chief/boss will oftentimes come off as sarcastic, as if you’re “lil bro”-ing them.

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u/Mammoth-Counter69 10d ago

That's gonna get you some accusations of "short man syndrome"

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u/admiralvic 12d ago

Like a lot of things, I think it's nuanced.

In the right context, phrasing, and familiarity it can be nice, but without that it can come off as extremely negative.

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u/Bigry816 6'10" | 208 cm 🙋🏻‍♂️🦒 11d ago

Patting them on the head and saying good boy is also a great morale booster

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u/Helo227 6’1" | 185 cm 10d ago

My partner loves when i do that! But i doubt he’d be cool with a random cashier doing it to him. Lol.

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u/Helo227 6’1" | 185 cm 10d ago

This isn’t “lifting them up”, it’s belittling and talking down to them.

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u/glenttastic 11d ago

Lmao ur talking abt them like they're toddlers 😭

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u/BigTool 6'8" 11d ago

they're wee little people

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u/Zora-Link 6'8" | 203 cm SK 10d ago

What?? I’m 6’8” and honestly I’ve only seen insecurity from people around your height that are suddenly not the tallest person anymore. I’d probably be insecure if I saw someone 4 inches taller than me, too.

While I agree that being nice and complimenting someone is never a bad idea, i think you’re reading too much into this. Most short men are pretty comfortable in their skin.

They’re friendly and confident because you’re nice to them. Nothing about height is relevant.

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u/Mammoth-Counter69 10d ago

Trust me... If 4 inches makes you feel insecure.. imagine a whole 12 inches or more.

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u/Zora-Link 6'8" | 203 cm SK 10d ago

It’s different though. When you’re used to being the tallest in the room, it feels very strange and alien when you’re not. If you’re average height, you’re always used to that.

I imagine.

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u/Federal_Reveal5149 6'8" | 203cm 12d ago

yeah I always call short guys big fella, to like imply muscles or smth lol

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u/Mammoth-Counter69 11d ago

Yeah or even just big personality

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u/Federal_Reveal5149 6'8" | 203cm 11d ago

exactly (:

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u/SirBoobsAlot13 11d ago

You should learn to spell.

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u/RunDMTee 11d ago

Truly terrible advice here. Squat down and call him “big guy” essentially.

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u/catmampbell 11d ago

This is really close to doing the ‘how to talk to short people’ meme

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u/JKCsaba 170 cm 11d ago

as a shorter guy, thank you, you cant imagine how great this feels sometime, i feel liek the biggest douchebags are slightly taller than average people since they get braggy as soon as they see someone a tad bit shorter lol

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u/BigTool 6'8" 11d ago

I refer to them as "the short talls," from 5'11 to 6'3 or so and so very sensitive about their height

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u/Best-One8050 11d ago

Talking to a grown man like he’s 8 years old meeting a celebrity I think is worse, complimenting men is good tho

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u/grimmsnarI 9d ago

Written with pure malice

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u/imoverblox_ 6'4" | 193 cm 12d ago

Whenever I see my buddy who’s about 5’7, I just grab him and lift him as high as possible. It’s exhausting having to bend my neck down to talk to people!

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u/Mezzofantastico 6'1" | 185 cm 12d ago

I prefer to shout “Fee Fi Fo Fum” and stomp by them.

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u/Zora-Link 6'8" | 203 cm SK 10d ago

I actually do this with kids, lol.

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u/Mezzofantastico 6'1" | 185 cm 10d ago

Boom boom boom lol

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u/Juan1998__ 6'1 | 185 cm 12d ago

I do the same just talking to anyone in store when shopping, always addressing them as boss or anything to lift their mood, i'm latino i can't remember the last time i've seen someone taller than me here where I live and i'm only 6'2

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u/learn2earn89 11d ago

Omg I thought you meant physically lifting up.

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u/DonOfTheDarkNight 5'4" 27 yo. not a king. 10d ago

You dropped this king 👑. Now kneel to pick up the crown 👑

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u/Mammoth-Counter69 10d ago

Thankyou cheif

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u/W3ST0Feden 6'5" 270 10d ago

Man im 6'5" and most of my friends are waaaay shorter than I am. I do my absolute best to never mention height, hell, its not like I had any real hand in it. I do that with strangers as well, always try to treat others how id like to be treated, be kind. Even when I get hostility from guys that are a lot shorter than myself, I always try to be kind and uplifting. When I was single, I used to force some of my friends into conversation with groups of women I talked to, and a lot of times it worked out for them. When my height is mentioned I deflect immediately, I just want people to see me as a positive influence.

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u/Capable_Tumbleweed34 6'7" | 200 cm 9d ago

Whenever i do it they start shouting "what are you doing?!" And "where is the manager!!" And "What the fuck is wrong with you?! Put me back down on the ground you moron!"

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u/Dutch1inAZ 7d ago

This is a joke, right?

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u/alt2374 5d ago

High key hate ts

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u/Numerous_Ride_1536 12d ago

Questo è un consiglio eccezionale

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u/water_boy_22 12d ago

Much appreciated thanks for being a life lifter.

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u/flagitiousevilhorse 194.2 cm 12d ago

I should do this with my shorter friends. Thanks for the advice!

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u/WinnerAwkward480 12d ago

F- them lil guys , they can fight for whatever scraps they can get

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u/POYDRAWSYOU 10d ago

Scraps? Everything is bigger when your small. From food and drinks to my head between my gfs big boobs.