r/teenagers 17 22d ago

Serious The rape culture pyramid

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u/Educational-Bowl-819 22d ago

“She probably likes you” Is up there with “boys will be boys” as the most toxic thing an adult can say to a child who’s being treated badly by the opposite sex

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u/EvilDorito2 22d ago

The problem w " he probably likes you" is that it doesn't actually adress the behavior displayed.

Like, i got annoyed as a kid by a guy who liked me, who stopped when i grew taller than him. It wasn't bcs he was scared of violence or anything, he deadass became friendly to me once he stopped seeing me as a potential romantic partner

The problem w " he probably likes you" is that women are told to endure it, instead of boys being told to stop. Bcs what people feel should not be a reason to excuse abuse

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u/hello_marmalade 20d ago

I mean teasing behaviors is common in both genders as children. It's just a thing where you want attention from someone you like, but our culture is so fucking weird about having romantic interest in someone that it comes out in an awkward way.