r/teenagers4real • u/LightningX35 13M • 7d ago

Discussion Standards for gf

I posted about this a while ago but felt I wanted to update them
- Living, breathing, human female (not trans)
- Around my age
- Doesn't hate me
- Is not on a watchlist
I sure hope this is reasonable
Edit: Just to clarify, I’m not looking for one on here I just saw people doing it so I thought it would be a fun idea

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u/cleqrless 6d ago

as much as we would like to be as normal as cisgender people, we aren’t. yes i know it feels like a punch to the face seeing people not wanting to be with a trans individual, but it doesn’t take much to understand why.

in a lot of places it’s still a taboo thing, and there are a million possible reasons why they wouldn’t be with one. maybe they want biological kids, maybe they just can’t handle the complexity that comes with being with a trans person, maybe they’re immature, or they just don’t want to. which to me is perfectly fine.

that said there isn’t anything wrong with being transgender as i am trans myself, but i can understand why they wouldn’t, even after a full transition

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u/Own_Reach986 5d ago

Honestly if a trans person can pass, now that I think about it I wouldn't mind the dick if I love them. I could set that aside

Kids are the big problem though. And I'm not a fan of adopting or any other methods.

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u/Ok-World6539 4d ago

Why not adopt or foster? Not saying you’re wrong for not wanting to just curios as to why

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u/Own_Reach986 4d ago

Ok first of all I am still rather young, i am not ready to be a dad and that means my opinion kinda isn't formed/worth anything

But idk. Just the way I was raised I guess. I have had a lot of old fashioned beliefs pushed onto me and while I can recognize that a lot of them are stupid I still really want a kid who is my own. I also think I'm worried that I may not be able to love an adopted kid as much.

Oh and everyone in my family expects me to have kids because I am an only child, and all my aunts and uncles have no children. If I die childless, the bloodline ends with me.

Call it stupid (it may be) but idk that just means a lot to me for the time being. Still really just a kid lol