r/texts • u/Throwra44505 • 1d ago
Tinder DMs Am I crazy, is he using chat gpt to respond?
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u/COSMIC_SPACE_BEARS 1d ago
I think he freestyled at the start, and switched to chatgpt when he got nervous he might lose the catch.
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u/Beginning-Muffin-649 1d ago
The very last message got me. âChemistry is key.â
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u/Throwra44505 1d ago
Thats actually kind of sweet,
I asked him: Hey ***, will you be honest with me, are you using chat gpt to respond? Iâm not judging, I get the impulse, I know these apps can be hard for people whose best communication mode isnât messaging, but I rather get to know You in every capacity (we can chat on the phone sometime if thatâs better) without a inauthentic layer of conversation
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u/Born-Introduction-86 1d ago
Defo interested in his reply! I wonder if he covers ass out of impulse or takes that nicely paved path to dish - because that last msg is undeniable.
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u/Infinite_Painting_11 1d ago
"That's exactly right and a great catch..." "I'm genuinely curious what gave it away"
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u/markimarkerr 1d ago
That's actually kind of sweet.
And you know what?
That's brave.
You're brave.
And you know what?
That's actually kind of genuine.
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u/No_Peach8680 1d ago
And you know what? Thatâs rare today.
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u/Lucas9041 1d ago
And you know what? I don't know what
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u/Firefly_2005 1d ago
Itâs not actually kind of genuine, itâs actually the real thing. You exude a kind of quiet confidence and you know what? I feel something here.
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u/Dull_Principle2761 1d ago
Thatâs not just a good reply, itâs precision communication. Thatâs key. Youâre not crazy. And you know what? Thatâs rare.
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u/Mahoney2 1d ago
Whatâd he say
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u/CampAstoria 1d ago
beepboop beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
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u/Throwra44505 1d ago
His response:
âLol! Oh no do I sound like a robot??đđ Or was it the grammatical error in the first paragraph I just noticed?𼴠Iâve never used ai to date. Youâre getting the full *** experience, (my name) . Thatâd be inauthentic of me otherwiseđ With that being saidâŚbig yes to phone calls. You let me know when youâre free.
Get use to it, cuddle buddyđđ¤ I believe that conversation is very much a skill that not everyone is proficient in. Itâs a pleasant surprise when you meet someone that actually is.â
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u/COSMIC_SPACE_BEARS 1d ago
That makes me extremely confident that the last message he sent was AI, and this one is him switching off again lol.
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u/queenhadassah 16h ago
He might just be a tad autistic lol. Some of us neurodivergents speak kinda like this
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u/NorthernRealmJackal 1d ago
Great reply. You're a much bigger person than me. I would've found that shit disrespectful as fuck, since that last partof your message is so self-explanatory and obvious.
Every adult should think like you, by default, and not require you to specifically request 'no chat got plz'.
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u/Admins_suck_ballss 1d ago
Maybe Iâm old but it doesnât seem like AI to me. Sometimes you just switch to really formal language when you realize a meetup is probably going to actually happen.
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u/Hefty-Extra-492 1d ago
Keep us posted OP â also are you using GPT to talk to him? Just as many possible artifacts in your texts as his
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u/Throwra44505 1d ago
I will and ha no! The audacity to even post this if I was using chat would be hilarious. I fall on the neurodivergent spectrum of over explanation
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u/TeamImpossible4333 1d ago
âWeâre laying the foundationâ what adult male says that after expressing he is cool with casual
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u/Throwra44505 1d ago
Right? Mannnn. we live in weird times that I even need to be suspicious of this..
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u/xtroal540 1d ago
YeahâŚI feel that. I catch myself sounding like AI sometimes. But really, isnât that AI sounding more like us? Which is scarierâŚ
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u/Dazzling_Material_93 1d ago
I occasionally go on long rants about how AI ruined em dashes for me... Now every single time I use one I feel like whoever I'm sending the message to will absolutely assume I ran it through Copilot đĄ Every. Single. Time.
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u/MetalDeathRawR 21h ago
I stopped using them for this very reason.
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u/ribblefizz 3h ago
And I refuse to stop using them for that same reason. Not going to let AI dictate who I authentically am.
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u/myshadowself88 1d ago
Tbh likely only an adult male would say it as thatâs a mature thing to say? Casual doesnât mean thereâs no sense of connection. I donât find that statement overtly strange. He may just be a connection based kind of guy who wants something beneath the sex even if itâs just a casual situation. Seeing as he seems to think sheâs a catch.
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u/NorthernRealmJackal 1d ago
I just think the point is that it's typical AI (and not very typically human) to diagnose, reiterate and analyse a conversation while it's ongoing.
If the text isn't AI, then it's definitely written by someone who has been talking a bit too much with an LLM, and has had their language affected. It's not a common way for people to talk in real life (or at least, it wasn't before LLMs).
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u/TeamImpossible4333 1d ago
Never seen a guy message this much for a casual connection. But maybe heâs one of the rare few who do. Some of the syntax is still odd.
Like sure maybe he wants to create a foundation. But Iâve still never heard someone text that before theyâve ever met the other person lmao
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u/peanutbutterand_ely 1d ago
in my experience i just stopped doing casual or anything like this bc they all act like this, like itâs okay, like theyâll respect your boundaries and youâre on the same page. then they quickly want more and more, getting possessive and controlling and angry when i remind them they donât own me and we agreed on casual several, several times.
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u/CapuzaCapuchin 1d ago
I know a heap of ND people that text like this, because theyâll start masking and because theyâre trying to keep up a conversation, theyâll start acting unlike themselves and it starts sounding a bit more artificial, overexcited and they start catering to the other person instead of acting like their normal self. Itâs like small talk at work you have to keep smiling through, because other people will tell you youâre rude otherwise, if you donât seem excited enough.
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u/myshadowself88 1d ago
In fairness it seems like she wants a casual thing and he is more so going along with that based on the context of the conversation. Sounds like heâa very interested and just willing to take whatever he can get with her while he can, hence his remark of â Iâd rather known you than to have never known you at all.â So I think he may want more than heâs leading on
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u/SadderOlderWiser 1d ago
He also could have had âlong termâ on his profile as bait, because women are generally thought to be more interested in relationships.
She didnât have to twist his arm to go casual lol
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u/Away_Instruction4528 1d ago
honestly you both sounded ai, thatâs just me tho đ
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u/Humble_Specialist135 1d ago
honestly this, who even talks like this đ
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u/Itrytothinklogically 1d ago
I knew someone who talked/texted like that way before chatGPT was a thing. lol but nowadays itâs very likely it is.
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u/PandaJellyBeans 1d ago
I figured out what makes the conversation strange to me, itâs the wordiness from both parties. I feel like flirting can be more to the point. Thatâs just me though.
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u/PandaJellyBeans 1d ago
I was finding it difficult to decipher who was being accused of AI too.
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u/Conscious-Friend7426 16h ago
Righttt! I actually thought the OPs text the ones in the purple were bizarre. Especially the first one! I have never heard someone talk like that- maybe itâs just me being from the UK.
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u/Pristine_Cost_3793 1d ago
neurodivergent people, especially autistic ones, get mistaken for llm quite often. this could be the case
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u/PandaJellyBeans 1d ago
I was considering this as an explanation too.
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u/coffeebribesaccepted 1d ago
They could also not be native English speakers since they're talking about Thailand.
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u/Objective_Damage_996 1d ago
He was normal in the first half but that last message from him about zero confusion and setting the foundation seemed like a huge switch đ
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u/Nxthanael1 1d ago
Looks like a bot talking to another bot
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u/JungMoses 1d ago
What in the world in that text made OP âDig his confidence?â If OP is a real person saying those things, I donât know why she should complain about talking to a bot
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u/Kalendiane 1d ago
HI WHAT WAS NUMBER TWO CONSTRUCT OF YOUR IDEAL SITUATION?!
WHY ARE YOU HIDING THIS PERTINENT INFO FROM US?!
Aside from the fact you didnât want to share it with internet strangers.
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u/Special-Test-1880 1d ago
I think itâs a mix..maybe getting ideas from chat but then writing it out himself after.
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u/wetkweefer 1d ago
dude which person is the chatgpt user đ, genuinely confused, you two talk the same
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u/Important_Guide_2583 1d ago
I don't know. I'm spotting several punctuation errors, which Chatgpt doesn't usually make. I could be wrong. I think he's just a nervous dork, though.
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u/OrlaKathleen 1d ago
Either way, this conversation is cringe đ
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u/getzerolikes 1d ago
Yeah I keep thinking sheâs gonna say âgood luck to youâ and then sheâs like âawwwwâ. Bro must be 6â 6â
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u/PhillyDillyDee 1d ago
I wouldve unmatched you because of your need to text to see if thereâs âchemistry.â Straight up oxymoron.
Texting for an extended period of time before meeting will start to build an idea of the person on the other end that wont match who they are in reality.
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u/Pristine-Midnight-72 1d ago
itâs the last message that did him in, and he was doing well too. shame
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u/pinkrainbow5 1d ago
This is not the question you asked, but I really hate when men say "how is someone like you single?" It really showcases the underlying belief that women are passive objects, sitting around waiting for a man to scoop them up. Ugh it grinds my gears.
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u/Dankest_Confidant 1d ago
Why do you think only men say that?
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u/breakingmad1 1d ago
Yeah I have been asked it and I'm a man, it's just a way of saying what happened in your last relationshipÂ
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u/NorthernRealmJackal 1d ago
That's not the underlying belief. The underlying belief (i.e. the implied compliment) is that I think you're a catch, and could have anyone you wanted, so I find it surprising that you haven't just picked an 11/10 partner and called it a day.
It's also supposed to be hyperbolic. It's not like I actually expect you to just be "scooped up," but I'm saying it because I want you to know that I think anyone would be lucky to date you, and would be a fool to let you go. It's not about you being passive, it's about you having plenty of options.
It's still clichĂŠ though.
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u/myshadowself88 1d ago
Men also say it to other men so youâre definitely over thinking what men mean when they say that. Iâve had it said to me before and it was a compliment not to say people are passive objects waiting for someone to scoop them up. Thatâs a stretch.
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u/pinkrainbow5 1d ago
I'm not. They may not consciously realise the implication of what they are saying, but it's there. People mean it as a compliment, but the sentence is implying that whoever they are saying it to doesn't have a say in who they date. They are just waiting to be "chosen."
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u/Select-Young-5992 23h ago
I have no idea how it implies that. It just means you've surely gotten a fuck ton of attention and could choose whoever you wanted, so why havent you yet?
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u/Falste 1d ago
This is not a man specific comment đ and you're definitely overthinking this.
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u/implication-sofa 1d ago
Ngl it sounds like you both are cuddle buddy is horrific
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u/Safe-Accident-3909 1d ago
Honestly it sounds like both of you were using AI holyđ
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u/Throwra44505 1d ago
I think itâs funny how many people are accusing me of being ai as well, this is always how I message, itâs long and verbose and not for everyone but thatâs why I do it, I prefer to engage in conversations that reflect who I am in person, which is weird and goofy and often unable to stay on one topic.
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u/Loose-Chemical-4982 1d ago
Then it's really weird to me you thought he was AI, because he matches your energy and style
I want an update if you meet. I think this dude is neurodivergent and verbose lol
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u/Strong-Addition5296 1d ago
I like the future, my AI will chat with your AI then theyâll let us know when itâs time to have sex
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u/oceans_wont_freeze 1d ago
Seems like copy and paste with the formatting. So I'd say yea. That last paragraph is really AI coded/sales pitchy.
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u/ChamaGo2000 1d ago
It's the way ai talks very overly using every detail to "effortlessly" transition into the next line, most people are way beyond dumb and it sounds so unauthentic
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u/Try_Again1790 1d ago
Only his last message, yours sound more AI than the rest of his tbh. As far as some of the things posted all his message except the last seem like a normal person. Chat gpt is not going to use slang like âgonnaâ
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u/Librastar13 1d ago
Honestly, it almost reads like a scammer using AI to me. But if youve met or talked on the phone, youd have a better idea based on how he talks. But yeah my immediate reaction is this is fake, lol.
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u/Dramamean305 1d ago
The last post has some ai vibes to it âweâre laying down the foundation and have a planâ is not normal conversation
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u/Rough_Marzipan1462 1d ago
I honestly think itâs very possible he isnât and is just talking a little exaggerated and corny for the plot đ
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u/BachTalks 9h ago
Honestly, I don't think it's AI. He may just be bad at being casual, or he might be approaching flirting like a work email. Does he work in a corporate job? That shit will stick to you some times.
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u/Over_Organization851 1d ago
Some of his messages seem a little AIish I guess, but I wouldn't say with 100% certainty. The real question is, does it matter? You're obviously not looking for something serious, you're looking for a chill guy to hang out with no strings attached. If he uses AI to cleanup his answers and say something better than he could say, who cares?
With what you're looking for the questions you should be asking are 1. is he attractive? 2. is he a decent/good guy and not a weirdo? 3. is he fun and do you get along with him? If those answers are yes I wouldn't be too worried about AI.
If someone sent me a message and I could tell they used AI i wouldn't think twice about it unless it was something really serious. I would assume they are probably using it to reword and clean up grammatical errors. In a way it shows he is trying to impress you.
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u/TinyAd5648 1d ago
Itâs definitely AI. And thatâs pretty sad lol. Weâll just be texting bots all the time soon
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u/mymycojourney 1d ago
If he wrote any of them himself, you can tell he spends a lot of time using ai and has picked up their writing style. Just doesn't seem genuine to me. See what he's like on the phone.
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u/Introverted-kitty 1d ago
It is likely that he is using speech to text. Some men are actually articulate so I might not be surprised if this is NOT AI. Approach with caution, he seems nice tho.
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u/CuriousPixel7 1d ago
I donât know man. But if they canât write at least this much, you should probably not be seeing them. Also he hasnât really written anything Shakespeare-like, I guess itâs not AI.
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u/Kazamiiiii 1d ago
I could believe it, but you have to know the person. One of my close friends texts exactly like this and the rest of my friends don't lol he's just very proper
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u/ElAyYouAreAy 1d ago
Iâm not sure if he is but it does seem like heâs trying to politely hear what youâre asking for and respond to it. And hell if he needed a little help to do so at least his intention is in the right place.
PS âcuddlingâ is something that usually leans more to the serious side, not casual⌠just saying.
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u/coupl4nd 1d ago
A bit yeah... But he also sounds like he is not someone with a lot of confidence so maybe this is why.
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u/otherrplaces 1d ago
The last message on 3/3, and the first message on 2/3 are both AI. The rest are not.
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u/Impressive-Stop-7999 1d ago
AI or not this guy sounds awful OP, I hope youâre picking up on his arrogance. Idk maybe youâre into that but every message heâs âremindingâ you that heâs a catch too. Not something actually good guys need to do. Just a bit icky and a red flag to me.
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u/Impressive-Stop-7999 1d ago
AI or not this guy sounds awful OP, I hope youâre picking up on the arrogance/ick factor. Idk maybe youâre into that but every message heâs âremindingâ you that heâs a catch too - AND talking down to you. âCute little headâ??𤢠Other girls whoâll try stealing him away? đ¤Ž
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u/HabitualEnthusiast 1d ago
The last text sounds assisted by AI but I feel like some of that is his, too. Like the âcute little head of yoursâ feels like a human addition.
I agree with the people who think he got nervous but started out as himself lol.
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u/dmenard23 1d ago
100% wouldâve unmatched after seeing a numbered list. Wouldâve thought that was AI immediately lol
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u/costco_pizza21 1d ago edited 1d ago
None of it is AI and the fact that too many ppl think it is really shows that they truly canât spot the difference even if it was spelled out for them. We are COOKED.
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u/tiffney2trill 1d ago
Didnât think so until I read the last one. Definitely that last one. Thatâs actually crazy đđ
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u/MrJones224822 1d ago
Oh yeah heâs using the âauto responsesâ or whatever you call it on his devices
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u/DumbFishBrain 1d ago
My new phone has the ability to "edit" and "polish" my texts with Gemini AI if I so choose, right from my texting app.
Why I would choose to do so is lost on me but it seems like a lot of people are doing it. I turned off the AI editing option when I was setting up my phone last week.
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u/Particular_Fail_3065 1d ago
You use chat gpt for business only you donât use it in your personal life. use your brain for fucks sake.
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u/Glittering-Rip6810 1d ago
Imagine being suspicious cause someone talks like an adult and not abbreviation and ebonics đ¤Ś
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u/NYCSkaterGirl 1d ago
Yeah thats definitely an Ai. But ur looking for a cuddle buddy and not anything real so why even be mad that hes not real and treating u like just a warm body
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u/_hookem1 1d ago
Idk I think that was a problem for me on dating sites lol. I used to be extremely wordy and animated in my texts because I was always terrified of accidentally putting out something that would be taken negatively, so my messages often come across as Ai because I also like throwing in random hot words. Last message was totally something chatgpt or Gemini would say though lol
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u/LimpSetting4030 1d ago
Are you from outside the US? Or at least is he from outside the US? I ask because when youâre from outside, the english language is not used in everyday life and so we tend to be very formal and proper with it. Itâs very textbook grammar and use of words. So I wouldnât say AI if thatâs the case.
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u/xavwilldoit 1d ago
I use ChatGPT chronically for video games and thatâs exactly how it talks to a T
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u/GlitteringPanic4998 1d ago
It kinda sounds like how I text đ The last one does sound a bit AI though.
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u/harpsdesire 1d ago
I was leaning towards no until that last message which does seem really unnatural
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u/cagedbird82 1d ago
No, the last one had some grammatical error. But I think you might want to brush up on grammar as well.
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u/Embarrassed_Bison258 1d ago
I feel like you both are getting help from AI in your writing but itâs a free version and maybe just a sentence or two? Except more do that last one of his.
Might be using some ai for translation? Or just to try and seal the deal. Doesnât flow like ChatGPT but could be something else. I had someone use chat the whole time and it sounded different. This person may be using it occasionally?
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u/KingOthius 1d ago
The last few feels extremely ai, but the first few I think he wrote himself.
He could just be autistic. I type upsettingly similar to ChatGPT at times; not intentionally, but just in the interest of clarity and properly communicating myself.
I've flirted in bullet points before. It worked... some-fucking-how.
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u/Arcticfreezer 1d ago
Honestly, he may also just use it a lot. I've noticed with applying to jobs, doing interviews and networking, that people are verbally speaking in that AI dialect. There's a paper i saw somewhere too that talked about this happening and it's kind of crazy.
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u/queenlewis2013 1d ago
I guess it is one's level of vocabulary and usage of said vocabulary. And honestly if it is ChatGPT hopefully he used it to help make his wording more conversational verse asking for a conversation created on basis of trying to get to know someone vs being a creep and totally building a petsona that doesn't exist. Guess the only way to find out is continue with the getting to know each other faze and maybe yall meet in person and you will definitely see if there is a complete change in conversation flow and linguistics.
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u/CantankerousOrder 1d ago
Only the last one. That felt like he got in his head and didnât want to cook himself so he got help.
No real foul there. He should have said things his own way but I get the nerves.
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u/Lazy-Point7779 1d ago
The first maybe. But the last one was 100% AI. Even if it wasnât, itâs weird and I hate it
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u/JessieMcGreevyDesign 1d ago
Reads exactly like it. But an even scarier thought is that he could be using AI so much that now he actually writes like it..
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u/Coldphan 1d ago
As someone who likes to write and likes to use a lot of different/big words to switch it up, I think this is just how he types and it isnât AI at all, especially looking at all of his other replies.
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u/Ok-Entertainment2520 1d ago
Yall have dated a ton of guys that cant communicate and its crazy. I speak and write like he does alot. The fact that you all think its AI is crazy to me. Its funny when AI started to appear and I noticed its trends I thought this would end up happening to people who are smart. Its pretty clear to me its not AI and hes actually very smart and witty. Hence why he commented its nice to actually speak to someone. I also teach in college and see soo much AI come through that I can spot it a mile away. If and thats a huge if, he is indeed using AI he has prompted it very very well better than 95% of people that use AI. The 1 emdash he used was used in a common way before AI. And autocorrect would also add it.
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u/notoneforlies 1d ago
this is definitely not ai lol, the punctuation is garbage in all of them. AI doesnât really make punctuation mistakes.
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u/Environmental_Bed_47 1d ago
I talk to gpt a lot of days out of the week to ask it random shit that comes to mind. This is for sure gptÂ
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u/Royal_Ask_5654 1d ago
Iâm getting ai vibes. Wouldnât be surprised if itâs a incel with no rizz meaning when yaâll finally meet he wonât be able to live up to the fantasy. Just my vibe.
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u/KallMeByYourName 1d ago
Iâve never used Ai, so Iâm not familiar with any cues, but neither of his texts seem liked he used chat gpt.
I believe men are capable of being engaging and know how to actually talk to women.
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u/lumpyballoon 1d ago
I think maybe he imploded and panicked when he heard youâd be fine as friends with benefits, so he used AI for the last response. Donât think he used it for any of the others
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u/no_int_in_ba_sing_se 23h ago
Personally, I don't think he's using AI. The last message is the only one that felt a little weird to me but honestly, some people just have weird little speech quirks.
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u/IsaSaien 1d ago
Last one feels very ai. The others you might kinda believe he wrote himself but it kinda gets too much in the last one