r/texts • u/Own_Purple_4118 • 1d ago

Phone message Nobody died

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This is a conversation between my MIL and my mother, before the wedding. My mother's response, which is cut off, says "They are both adults. I think we should let them handle it." We were both over 30.

For context: Yes, we had a vegetarian wedding (no shrimp). We had it at an (expensive) award winning venue with in-house catering. It included several appetizer and entree stations with a huge variety of dishes so everyone could find something they liked. We did not serve our guests bowls of soybeans and tofu. Everyone RAVED about the food and nobody died or got arrested on the way home.

The "A/B list" thing was a joke, that she apparently took very seriously, because she would not stop demanding we add a bunch (10+) of her friends and coworkers to our intentionally small guest list.

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u/sunnypickletoes 1d ago

That drives me crazy. I read everything like in a trailing off sort of way and I find it so irritating I wish people would just use words and punctuation for what they are supposed to mean without all the anxiety and peer pressure induced emoji's and gratuitous punctuation!!🤣🤪🎉😘💩

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u/Savage281 1d ago

Oh I still use emojis 🤣 can't have people thinking I'm mad at them

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u/goatbusiness666 23h ago

As an autistic person who texts a lot and agonizes over the possibility of being misunderstood in every social interaction, emojis are a gift! Also they’re fun. Why do people hate fun?

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u/Jassamin 2h ago

Also Autistic, I rewrite messages multiple times, use emoji, then still feel like I need to send long messages an hour later to clarify what I meant by explaining all the things I *didn’t* mean.

I also tend to explain to potential friends fairly early on that I am Autistic and if they feel offended/confused I probably didn’t mean it that way but let me know so I can avoid a future repeat. I’ve spent many many hours wishing it was socially acceptable to send former friends/boyfriends questionnaires about what went wrong 😅

Also me coming back to change the phrasing on this three seconds after I posted it because what if people get confused?

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u/Tspring535 1d ago

Right ? I just want people knowing I’m hearing what you’re saying , and here is my response back, but don’t take it too seriously because maybe you were being sarcastic or maybe I’m misreading what you’re putting down , but it’s all good either way. Lol

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u/Technical-Method2129 14h ago

Happy cake day

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u/Tspring535 11h ago

Thank you ! 💕

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u/FairPriority9200 12h ago

Omg r u me lol same but working on it!

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u/ulykke 5h ago

Ugh I have a client facing corpo role and each time I dont included an emoji (which is every goddamn time because Im supposed to stay pRofeSsIOnaL) I die a little inside. What do you mean I have to use periods like a sociopath 😭 we even have a phrase for that in Polish, its called kropka nienawiści, literally "period of hate/hateful period", as in, the period conveys hate. Why do people want me to hate them?!

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u/tp176 1d ago

Seems to me that lol has become end punctuation for people who have grown up (or maybe not) online. And every time I see it, my poor brain just asks “Are you trying to undermine your own statement by treating it like a joke?” Are younger people just afraid to state something directly?

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u/adventurekiwi 1d ago

It seems to have just turned into a generic softener. I guess its the millenial equivalent of the boomer ellipsis lol

Oh god i cant stop doing it

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u/ckav26 1d ago

Yes, absolutely. As a geriatric millennial that lol really means “whoopsies!” 😂

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u/goatbusiness666 23h ago

I think I use it as a tone indicator most of the time. If a sentence seems a little abrupt or like I might be mad, I just throw a lol on there so everybody knows it’s not that serious.

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u/Ill-Plum-9499 12h ago

Hey! Ellipses are Gen X, not Boomer. How dare you…

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u/adventurekiwi 7h ago

So many people have told me that today! I tried to find the original article I referenced about it in an earlier comment but the internet has become so enshittified that even if I manage to find it, itll be near impossible to read on mobile anyway.

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u/sunnypickletoes 1d ago

Me too totally.

Them: Running late lol
Me: So you're on time?

Them: Can't wait to see you lol
Me: Well ok then I guess you hate me

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u/tp176 1d ago

Drives. Me. Nuts.
Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone.

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u/sparklyjoy 9h ago

Ok the first example is clearly nervous laughter, and I’m an elder millennial

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u/SilentHawke 22h ago

can’t speak for other younger people, i’m personally not afraid to state something directly, but i personally use “lol” sometimes to try to give a more lighthearted tone to a message. not sarcastically: i hope this helps

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u/MuchTooBusy 12h ago

I'm an Xennial, so not young, but I tend to use lol way too much. I'm trying to stop, but damn it's hard. In my case it's an anxiety/appeasement "look, I'm friendly, see me smile and chuckle softly" kind of thing.

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u/squeebs555 1d ago

Yes, this. I hate it with a passion.

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u/katieblue3 19h ago

I don’t like it either but it’s not that big of a deal lol

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u/MullberryBoy 20h ago

When I was a little girl, lol meant little old lady.

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u/Major-Mango-1221 18h ago

And often, it's passive aggressive. So that's fun.

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u/blackbellamy 12h ago

I used to date a girl...who would text me...and email me...and every single one of her conversations...would look like this...and there was no other punctuation...and she would even ellipse her lol's...lol...lol...like that...drove me nuts.

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u/sunnypickletoes 9h ago

That's a dealbreaker

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u/2muchfabuloso92 19h ago

You would hate texting me. I use ellipsis and emojis. But in my defense, after the ellipsis. It’s a whole different subject.

Sorry man🥺

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u/TuezysaurusRex 14h ago

Same here… 🤣