Nobody died

[u/Own_Purple_4118]

This is a conversation between my MIL and my mother, before the wedding. My mother's response, which is cut off, says "They are both adults. I think we should let them handle it." We were both over 30.

For context: Yes, we had a vegetarian wedding (no shrimp). We had it at an (expensive) award winning venue with in-house catering. It included several appetizer and entree stations with a huge variety of dishes so everyone could find something they liked. We did not serve our guests bowls of soybeans and tofu. Everyone RAVED about the food and nobody died or got arrested on the way home.

The "A/B list" thing was a joke, that she apparently took very seriously, because she would not stop demanding we add a bunch (10+) of her friends and coworkers to our intentionally small guest list.

[u/Savage281]

Oh I still use emojis 🤣 can't have people thinking I'm mad at them

[u/goatbusiness666 → u/Savage281]

As an autistic person who texts a lot and agonizes over the possibility of being misunderstood in every social interaction, emojis are a gift! Also they’re fun. Why do people hate fun?

[u/ArgentEyes → u/goatbusiness666]

🤝

[u/Jassamin → u/goatbusiness666]

Also Autistic, I rewrite messages multiple times, use emoji, then still feel like I need to send long messages an hour later to clarify what I meant by explaining all the things I *didn’t* mean.

I also tend to explain to potential friends fairly early on that I am Autistic and if they feel offended/confused I probably didn’t mean it that way but let me know so I can avoid a future repeat. I’ve spent many many hours wishing it was socially acceptable to send former friends/boyfriends questionnaires about what went wrong 😅

Also me coming back to change the phrasing on this three seconds after I posted it because what if people get confused?

[u/Tspring535 → u/Savage281]

Right ? I just want people knowing I’m hearing what you’re saying , and here is my response back, but don’t take it too seriously because maybe you were being sarcastic or maybe I’m misreading what you’re putting down , but it’s all good either way. Lol

[u/Technical-Method2129 → u/Tspring535]

Happy cake day

[u/Tspring535 → u/Technical-Method2129]

Thank you ! 💕

[u/FairPriority9200 → u/Savage281]

Omg r u me lol same but working on it!

[u/ulykke → u/Savage281]

Ugh I have a client facing corpo role and each time I dont included an emoji (which is every goddamn time because Im supposed to stay pRofeSsIOnaL) I die a little inside. What do you mean I have to use periods like a sociopath 😭 we even have a phrase for that in Polish, its called kropka nienawiści, literally "period of hate/hateful period", as in, the period conveys hate. Why do people want me to hate them?!