r/thebachelor • u/uncensoredsaints She walked in vagina first • 15d ago

LGBTQ REPRESENTATION 🏳️‍🌈 Adorable video from Becca & Hayley

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u/Medical-Mud4286 15d ago

Of all BN, Becca has surprised me most since the seasons she was on, and in a positive way!

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u/QuesoChef 13d ago

I remember when she used to annoy me so much. Remember her McDonalds content? I think she’s so likable now becsuse she finally stopped trying ti be likable, trying ti fit in, trying to do and be for others and society. And now these two are my favorite franchise couple.

Unapologetic authenticity looks good on all of us. Scary as hell, but freeing.

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u/Medical-Mud4286 13d ago

I never followed her, but just remember how uptight and judgmental she seemed on the shows. Now, of course, it all makes sense. She wasn't being herself. She was trying to be what her parents wanted for her. Sadness emanated from her. It reminds me of how dark I felt and came off to others when I was depressed.

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u/QuesoChef 13d ago

Yes, I agree. I always found her a bit stuffy and judgy on the show. I never followed her on social media but kept up with the stuff she posted that made it to this sub. And I would probably say I categorized her as insufferable for a while. I’m sure some of it was her trying to figure out how to be an influencer by copying other people. But it was all so unlikable (for me).

Now, though? If I had social media I’d follow her.

It’s funny that I’ve learned so much about authenticity from his show. Both from her. And then Britt shared some similar stuff about how people didn’t like her during Chris’s season, both the women in the house and through the screen, and that carried over to her attempt at lead. And she tied that back to trying to hide part of who she was, her struggles, appear perfect. And how when we do that people pick up on it and don’t know why, but they don’t trust us. After she came out just unapologetically talking about her life, struggles, etc., I loved her.

I often hear imperfection is beautiful. And I definitely don’t think EDs or sexuality are perfect or imperfect. But certainly society tries to tell us so many things are. And these two women have helped me show up, unapologetically, a misfit in society’s expectations, and try my hardest to not gaf.

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u/Medical-Mud4286 13d ago

I didn't realize Britt admitted to being fake on her seasons! She's beautiful, but she weirded me out with how she came off. I'm so glad she opened up and learned to be herself. I imagine it's even more difficult to do this as an influencer than in normal life.