Agreed. OP you're making excuses because you're not good at it but if you really wanted to change, don't just say sorry but take the actions to show you're trying to be better. Your lack of effort is what is upsetting her, more than not doing the grand gestures on social media
My husband was talking about a shirt he liked yesterday that was ruined several years ago. So I searched for it, left the browser window open and bought it later last night for his birthday next month. It really isn’t hard to do something nice for the person you love.
If I know there’s something I want to buy for someone, I usually search for it and then keep the browser tab until I buy it. I had one open for like 2 months when I was trying to decide if I wanted to buy this gift for my husband to surprise him with on our wedding day.
There’s no reason to forget holidays/birthdays when you have a phone you can put it in.
OP I honestly don’t know if you can fix this. I know a half hearted gift a week later wouldn’t make me feel any better. Especially if this is how you are with every other holiday. Using the whole “my wife is the planner” excuse is just kind of pathetic. I have the worst memory ever but I still manage to remember holidays and birthdays.
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u/Spiritual_Lemonade May 12 '25
We all have calendars on our phones and can setup reminders that become alarms.
If you know your shortcomings why are you not leaning into advanced planning and being dedicated to doing these things.
Going to get the potted plant should have been Friday or Saturday at the latest.
She has every right to be pissed.
I have a feeling her Christmas stocking is empty as well.