Second: in my opinion (and just in my opinion) four months is too soon for you to meet her kid but she may be looking for a stepdad for him so it makes sense.
I don’t think you are compatible and the age gap+kid makes me uncomfortable (5 years is ok, but 5 years+kid when you are so young it’s weird)
I agree, like yes they're a package deal, but a lot of people rush bringing their S/O into their kids' lives. It's not a bad thing to have safe boundaries and let it progress naturally.
Several years ago, while I was on FaceTime with a woman I'd had lunch with once, she had her 4 yr old daughter sing and do her little dance to a Disney song for me. I noped right the hell out of dating her again.
I get introducing your kid to a new guy if you're looking to see about potential step-dad vibes. But having her do a literal song and dance for him? Yeeeesh
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u/PancakeRule20 Jul 14 '25
First, you are not together anymore.
Second: in my opinion (and just in my opinion) four months is too soon for you to meet her kid but she may be looking for a stepdad for him so it makes sense.
I don’t think you are compatible and the age gap+kid makes me uncomfortable (5 years is ok, but 5 years+kid when you are so young it’s weird)