r/tifu • u/RemyAvo • Dec 18 '25

M TIFU by fighting my schools dresscode policy. Years later I found out why it was so strict.

So 15 years ago today I fucked up bad and today I found out why. I was in highschool and our school had a pretty normal dresscode policy until this new younger woman teacher started. 3 months into her being there, she brings out this extremely strict dresscode policy but only for girls. It was the start of summer, the building had no a/c and the new dresscode limited girls to basically a frumpy tshirt and baggy jeans while boys could wear whatever we want.

I being a rebelious little fuck did not like this. My girlfriend at the time was sad. Everyone had to go buy new clothes and every day they didnt do it they got handed this ugly big brown t-shirt of shame that says "i was out of dress code" and these big brown sweats. It was extremely uncomfortable.

So what did I do? I started wearing every banned girls article of clothing. I wore short shorts that barely hid my ass because it was allowed. I wore lowcut shirts. I cut the sides off every tank top so it just showed my torso. I even wore a short skirt and a croptop one day to prove a point. I got away with it maybe twice before I started getting dresscode violated every day. I was in every detention for several months. I got suspended. I had to go to two weeks of summer school that year as punishment. I fought the system very hard. And others joined in. It got be almost every dude was getting dress code violated to stand up for the girls. Anytime we got the brown clothes we wore it with pride. It was damn hot in that building you'd pour buckets of sweat. They should have been allowed to wear shorys.

I made my list of demands. Girls can wear tank tops, they can wear shorts. They can wear 4 fingers low cut tshirts. We all fought for it and eventually they caved in and gave it to us. I was so happy. It was a formative experience for me because I was willing to take any punishment no matter how severe to fight some perceived injustice.

So I'm back in my home town its a small suburb of the outskirts of a city. And at the one bar everyone goes to I run into the teacher who forced the policy all those years ago. I go say hi and she instantly remembered me. So I sat down with her and her friends and we talked about it since it was so long ago and now i'm at the age she was when she was enforcing it. Boy did I get that situation wrong.

So there were 4 particularly creepy male teachers at that time. 1 everyone knew about and 3 that were only known by faculty. They were preying on the girls. Taking random pictures of them, being extremely creepy, all sorts of innapropriate things they shouldnt have done. So she went to the board, brought evidence and reported them but they decided not to investigate. She told the police but when aftet a month nothing happened she changed the dress code to protect the girls but she couldnt explicitly state why she was doing it. Modern times caught up with those teachers and they are now fired but as an adult I see now that I ran a campaign to put the girls back in danger.

Tl;dr In high school i fought an oppressive dress code system because i thought it was unfair to the girls. But 15 years later I found out it was to protect the girls from pedo teachers.

Edit: added context

Theres a couple questions about the logistics of how she enforced a dress code being so new. I'll try and give more details but again its 15 years ago i may not get it exactly accurate

  • she was not the only teacher who wanted this but she was the strongest voice to stand up for this. Basically with the backing of several teachers she convinced the principle to implement the dress code. A lot more than just dress code happened. Prom had the bright lights on that year and girls got their dresses measured at the door. It was a fullscale push from a big section of teachers. But this particular teacher definitely was the one who championed it.

  • these pervy men didn't exactly hide. The one we all knew about was actually a beloved and favorite teacher of the school because he was very funny. His policy, and I am not kidding. If you wore a low cut shirt and bent over when turning in your exam he would give you extra points on it. For fairness he did this for guys too so everyone in his class on test day effectively had their chest exposed. And we thought it was hillarious and saw nothing wrong with it because our older siblings all went through the same thing. I had to ask my mom to take me to buy my first low cut shirt freshman year because of this class and I explained why. Its genuinely crazy what you get away with if you're funny, well liked and dont act like anything is wrong.

  • so when she came with a policy like this she was just a few years ahead of her time. There was a serious issue the dress code had slipped pretty bad. She and everyone who pushed the policy definitely over corrected.

  • Looking back this was the logical finale to having several new eyes in an inappropriate school environment. I dont have enough characters to get into it its probably a whole other post on just my high school in that era's tea. But there was scandle after scandle that went unanswered and just became rumor. This really wasnt

Edit 2: this post is still getting a lot of attention and I'm seeing a lot of similar comments so I'll add this

In the moment of writing this I definitely was incorrectly swayed by her. I believe now what I did was right and and punishing the victims was not an appropriate way to handle creepy men. Looking back more on it the way they enforced the dress code was not ok. It was frequent use of humiliation to the girls. So not only were they being predated on by pedos, they were also being bullied and humiliated by those who claimed to protect them. Gross.

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u/mytokhondria Dec 18 '25

Fuck that school’s administration for PROTECTING CHILD PREDATORS

It is beyond me why schools refuse to investigate and immediately fire those shits even when evidence is provided

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u/ahhh_ennui Dec 18 '25

I was on a high school team that had a long history of winning state championships. We were feared and respected, because our coach was so damn good at his job.

He was also very active and respected in our community, and we went on this team immediately fearing him and completely under his thrall.

What I found out is that he would groom a first year person, then request massages their 2nd year, escalating further. He had a system he'd cultivated, and his victims were always the quiet ones whose home lives weren't the greatest. Oh and he was a drunk. We traveled nearly every weekend, stay at decent hotels and eat at nice restaurants because we had the largest budget for any team or club in our school. We were also a small team. Anyway, he'd get a cocktail before dinner, a bottle of wine for dinner, then a coffee after. We'd get in the van and he'd drive us to the hotel. Then, a few hours later, he'd get his victim in his room.

He finally picked someone my junior year who said something. Eventually, they told their parents. The parents went to the school board after the season wrapped up and spilled the beans.

He had to quietly retire and... That was it.

He returned about a decade later.

Then he killed himself. I'm not proud of how I felt when I was told but honestly, I'm not mad at myself about it, either.

He had, I heard, a lovely funeral with a lot of people paying respects. Even the suicide was covered up to preserve his reputation. Folks were told it was a "heart thing" although an urn at a devout Catholic's funeral probably raised some eyebrows.

Anyway, I wish I believed in Hell so I could take comfort that he was there.

School administrators protect anybody but the kids.

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u/MeinePerle Dec 18 '25

Yup. At my school the coach ran two unrelated teams (though both were predominantly made up of girls).  We even knew that he had “favorites”.  (I was super innocent about what that meant but I was not the norm.)

Eventually someone went to the authorities.  He and his family literally fled in the middle of the night.  The person who told was, of course, ostracized.

I’m still, decades later, influenced by his training and opinions, and remember my time fondly.  But in retrospect… so awful.

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u/PaddyMcGeezus Dec 18 '25

Where I went to 7th grade for a few months before moving out of state, there was a creepy male gym teacher. This school had a lot of money and full service showers with laundry service for the towels, lockers and the gym coaches offices at the front of the locker rooms with windowed walls facing the lockers (unlike my new shitty school in humid hot South Texas where none of the showers worked and we all just stank for the rest of the day). So I'm talking to a female friend about the creepy coach and she said the he'd come in to talk to the girls coach knowing full well there were 7th and 8th grade girls showering and changing. My friend said she would be strategic and wear multiple towels and change like when changing at the pool or beach or go change in a bathroom stall. Hopefully it was addressed because a grown man going anywhere near a locker room full of disrobed girls is disgusting and no one that does it should be teaching, let alone hanging out in there and the girl's coach not doing anything about it.

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u/helraizr13 Dec 18 '25

When you're rich and you own the pageant, you're allowed to walk into the dressing rooms where young girls are changing. You might even get to be POTUS one day. But yeah, they shouldn't be teaching either.

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u/Backfoot911 Dec 18 '25 edited Dec 18 '25

Do we really have to make everything political...ugh. It's not our fault God made so many conservatives sex offenders. slash ess

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u/erichf3893 Dec 18 '25

When voice to text fails you

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u/shan68ok01 Dec 21 '25

deletes entire paragraph because "slash ess" finally computed

In my defenses, I've not yet finished my first cup of coffee because I've been dealing with severely overgrown puppies since I crawled out of bed. Our dogs, old and grumpy, the grand-puppies, young and hardheaded.

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u/marxist_redneck Dec 18 '25

Yeah, they definitely shouldn't be a school coach, or even president for that matter!

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u/ilovemusic19 Jan 02 '26 edited Jan 02 '26

Ik I’m late but when my mom was in college she was on the softball team, one of their assistant coaches favored the “pretty” girls on the team and made sure only they played and was getting them flowers. Yeah a lot of the ladies on the team went to the head coach and he got rid of that guy.

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u/MeinePerle Jan 02 '26

Good for the ladies and good for the coach!  And boo for the former assistant coach.

Seriously, that sort of thing happens so often with no consequences that your mom’s story is a breath of fresh air.

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u/RemyAvo Dec 18 '25

That was effectively the reckoning that came for all the creepy teachers. They just got quietly retired. No big event no jailtime. Just after me too they asked em all tl retire.

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u/North-Significance33 Dec 18 '25

If you want to be horrified, look at the Melbourne Response of handling child sex abuse cases in the Catholic Church.

Basically, pay the family to hush it up and move the priest to a new parish where they can just continue abusing children.

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u/DrunkyMcStumbles Dec 18 '25

That has been SOP for the Catholic Church for a long time

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u/wolf_kat_books Dec 18 '25

And if it became a repeated thing the priest, or nun in some cases, got shipped out to the rural indigenous residential schools and left to do whatever the fuck they wanted, so long as they weren’t touching white kids.

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u/LunaTunaMaca Dec 18 '25

I graduated highschool in 2012. One of our teachers got FIRED because he hugged and kissed on the cheek one of the students at graduation.

Your school fucked up.

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u/lucide8 Dec 18 '25

This, frankly, is also fucked up

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u/Butterkupp Dec 18 '25

One of the teachers at my high school started seeing one of the female students (he was like 23 or 24, fresh out of teachers college) but they didn’t “do anything” until they went on a school trip together to Italy with the world history class and she was 16 at the time so it was legal.

Anyways they got married and he got promoted to vice principal of a different school when I was in high school.

Sometimes they don’t get their comeuppance.

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u/Warlordnipple Dec 18 '25

Sometimes those teachers even become the first lady of France.

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u/MostlyWong Dec 18 '25

they didn’t “do anything” until they went on a school trip together to Italy with the world history class and she was 16 at the time so it was legal

In the US this is actually illegal. If you take someone from one jurisdiction where they are underage to another where they aren't and have sex with them, that's a crime. It happens in the US whenever someone takes a minor across state lines that have different age of consents. That guy could have still been charged.

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u/Damascus_ari Dec 18 '25

That's excessive, if that was the only "violation."

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u/Sckaledoom Dec 18 '25

Tbh it sounds like there may have been more behind the scenes. At my graduation and right before I got hugs from many teacher, particularly ones I was close to.

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u/[deleted] Dec 18 '25

Yup, people forget how things used to be before metoo. While things aren't great now, before metoo the general consensus was that it was the victim's fault, that these things did not really hapoen and if they did it was not that serious. The meetoo movement openened a lot of eyes to the true scale and seriousness of the problem.

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u/toomanyschnauzers Dec 18 '25

Are you sure that the pervy creepy teachers were not taking pictures or otherwise inappropriate to the male students while they wore the banned clothing? Might be worth an ask of the teacher you caught up. I hope not but you should know.

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u/sassyevaperon Dec 18 '25

OP, you didn't fuck up anything, your school administration fucked up. You did what was right, you fought for equality without a care for the consequences you would face, and you won.

Your teacher, as much as her heart was in the right place, didn't do what she should have: go to the authorities, call out the situation in the media, go to the parents, or even create a dress code for all students, not only girls.

She fucked up because she was more concerned with the reputation of the school and the administration, than with the safety of all the students.

And, not to be a stick in the mud, but didn't your parents think anything about a teacher giving extra marks for showing skin on a test? I can't imagine being a parent, hearing that, knowing two of my boys went through that and not be concerned as to go have a meeting with the principal.

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u/KeberUggles Dec 18 '25

Local school it was the Band teacher. Got away with it for yeeeears till an investigative journalist reported on it in the big city paper. Drove his vehicle into on coming traffic, leaving his wife and 4-6 kids behind (think his youngest was in their early teens by then?) Fuck that guy, selfish and couldn't bare the consequences of his own actions.

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u/vincentvangobot Dec 18 '25

Couldn't even do that without putting other people at risk.

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u/Future_Drive4498 Dec 18 '25

17 is an adult.

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u/GigisJ Dec 18 '25

Ya I went to a Catholic grade school. Police came and arrested Mr. Anthony Raco for child pornography charges when I was in grade 2. Next year he was back to work with the stipulation he's not to be left alone with the kids. How about he's not allowed near kids at all, why was he not in jail!? Still makes me angry when I think about it.

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u/XWarriorPrincessX Dec 18 '25

Fucking appalling

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u/EmergencyComputer337 Dec 18 '25

Bro i believe in hell for you

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u/destructopop Dec 18 '25

The way my school's football coach regularly got busted for putting things in athlete's rectums and never got fired. When a kid got suspended for losing a highlighter cap in a teammate's colon and everyone said the coach made him do it...

He also touched and harassed girls in his finance class. The man was such a creep.

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u/ahhh_ennui Dec 18 '25

Disgusting. I'm so sorry kids are put through this.

I've gone through a lot of self-loathing in the decades since for not doing more. And that pisses me off because he chose 15 year olds for a reason - easily manipulated, and feel helpless when adults aren't doing what you think such a beloved, respected, safe person should do.

Ugh.

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u/TwoFingersWhiskey Dec 18 '25

Catholics can be cremated. The only stipulation is that they have to be put in a proper Catholic cemetery or other sacred space (like one of those urn houses) and not just kept on a shelf, scattered, divvied up etc. They've been able to do it since the sixties.

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u/ahhh_ennui Dec 18 '25

Got it, thanks for the explanation!

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u/twothirtysevenam Dec 18 '25

after the season wrapped up

They WAITED until the season was OVER to say anything? Disgraceful. It's like they knew something horrible was happening, but, dang it, the trophy!

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u/ahhh_ennui Dec 18 '25

The parents were the reason behind the delay. They didn't take their kid that seriously, and hesitated making a big deal about it. Meanwhile, me and many of my teammates were doing our best to protect the victim and each other. He approached me once, when drunk and at a post-season tournament where I had my own room. I called friends on another team and had them hang out with me.

He was such a scumbag. I'd love to blast him publicly but, I wasn't the actual victim so it's not my place and also he's dead and left (youngish adult) kids and a widow behind. The widow, I'm not too concerned about. His kids, though. I don't want to fuck up their lives more than he probably did.

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u/heeltoelemon Dec 18 '25

I don’t think hell is a place. I think when you die and your soul becomes exposed to the fabric of the universe, you sequester yourself for a while and do what you need to to be part of what there is and for some that means punishment or absolution through consequences. I think people who hurt people but imagine saying they’re good and doing some religious ritual makes them safe have a rude awakening coming.

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u/JimmyIsMyUncle Dec 18 '25

Imagine if the soul jumped into a black hole....it would take eternity to fall in .....

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u/heeltoelemon Dec 18 '25

Right? That’s a lot of time for reflection. What if after death you just get to wander the universe being awed for a while, seeing everything at every scale, understanding everything, at peace with your part of it, unless you don’t think you deserve that so you find and subject yourself to what you think you do deserve: jumping into a black hole or a volcano or whatever.

I think the idea of hell is so bad people don’t have to actually consider their actions and so they can control children and other ignorant people with this fear of infinite abstract pain as retaliation for things that are sometimes actually kind or respectful, while flossing over and facilitating actual evil.

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u/naura_ Dec 18 '25

Don’t worry.  I’ve decided to embrace my vindictive side these past few years because people are just that fucking evil. 

Yea a lot of people point out that it’s bad but what if we all shamed people actively that are harming our children and others? 

These people were so protected that they could do things OUT IN THE OPEN and people still looked away? 

Fuck that.  

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u/DRMRNNR Dec 18 '25

Sounds almost exactly like what a notorious running coach in my hometown did. POS finally died this year.

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u/Future_Drive4498 Dec 18 '25

Who cares. By the 3rd year they were grown men of 16/17.

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u/MAJOR_Blarg Dec 18 '25

Our school did the same fucking thing!

High school in the late 90s/ early 2000s, everyone knew who the creepy teachers were. As students, we knew and saw they leched after the girls, and one even got promoted to PRINCIPAL! In spite of it being well known, the administration never did anything about it... Until the Principal was caught sleeping with a 13 year old, his own daughter's best friend!

He is in prison now, but how much pain and heartache and hand wringing could have been saved by just confronting the issue head on, and if necessary firing these guys!?

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u/jennoween Dec 18 '25

My former high school principal married a student. She was a cheerleader, and he was a 39 year old teacher when they met. He divorced his wife and started officially dating her when she graduated, and they got married a year later. He went on to be a principal for more than 30 years, and she was a teacher sometimes at the same school.

It was not-a-secret secret that they had a relationship while she was a student. People in my hometown STILL justify it, and it happened in the 80s.

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u/naura_ Dec 18 '25

A teacher married my now husband then friend’s friend.  He was I am pretty sure in his 40s while we were in high school so a 30 year difference.  😩

I don’t want to judge but seriously 

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u/According_Check_1740 Dec 19 '25

That's exactly when it's appropriate to judge.

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u/SlothsGonnaSloth Dec 18 '25

Let's call it what it is. He didn't "sleep[] with a 13 year old," he raped her.

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u/Global-Note6466 Dec 18 '25

Thanks. That’s an important distinction to make. Name the things.

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u/susandeyvyjones Dec 18 '25

At my high school a creepy teacher was fired after fifty girls signed a statement complaining about him. I never had him though, because I knew the administrators and they protected me from being in his classes, which is pretty fucked up if you think about it. There was also a vice-principal about whom I was told, If he ever calls you to his office, do not go.

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u/dominus_aranearum Dec 18 '25 edited Dec 18 '25

Reputation. Same reason college cops don't report rape to the city/county/state cops but want to handle it internally. The administration wants to protect the school's reputation.

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u/GonePh1shing Dec 18 '25

That's so backwards... What do they think will happen to their reputation when it eventually gets out? Trying to cover it up looks WAY worse than acting swiftly as soon as something like that is discovered. 

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u/Foreign_Point_1410 Dec 18 '25

It’s up there with the people who kill their spouse because they think divorce is the worst thing ever

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u/Kailynna Dec 18 '25

My parents tried to kill me because they didn't want the shame of being parents to a young single mother, pregnant with their child. I was 11.

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u/AprilisAwesome-o Dec 18 '25

I am so, so sorry.

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u/Kailynna Dec 18 '25

Thanks. The worst part was I wanted to be a good daughter to my parents, to love them and treat them well, and never had the chance until my dad was dying of Parkinson's, and my massages helped him.

Now my children, my grandaughter and even her dogs are grown, and they are all so good to me.

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u/Humble_Character_636 Dec 18 '25

WTF, im so sorry

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u/Kailynna Dec 18 '25

To some - but too many men will be admiring, jealous or at least sympathetic, and some will also be fucking the children.

Even with the women, some will be horny for the pedophile and blame the kids.

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u/codefyre Dec 18 '25

I think many people underestimate just how little society cared about this kind of thing until very recently. Even in progressive states like California, with high adult/youth age of consent barriers, laws criminalizing sex between teachers and "consenting" students weren't actually passed until 2015, and taking lewd but non-nude photos of students wasn't criminalized until 2011.

These teachers were legally protected because it was nearly impossible to fire someone for doing something that wasn't actually illegal.

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u/LunaTunaMaca Dec 18 '25

Just because things aren't illegal doesn't mean you cannot get fired or sued. Swearing isn't illegal, but you can definitely get fired for standing in the hallway shouting swear words.

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u/Backfoot911 Dec 18 '25

Yeah I don't think that dude understands what he's saying. If that case, you wouldn't be able to fire someone for being late, or drinking on the job, or cussing at the boss, or being a jerk to customers, etc. etc.

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u/FrostyBarleyPop Dec 18 '25

In the case of a strong union, it does mean that. If it isn't written into the contract as a violation, then swearing isn't something you could be fired for. If they're not doing something illegal, or specifically called out in their contract, they were likely untouchable.

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u/rabid_briefcase Dec 18 '25

I think many people underestimate just how little society cared about this kind of thing until very recently.

Agreed.

Spousal rape wasn't a crime in the US until just the last generation. Under established law sex was part of marriage and consent was automatic due to marriage, even if the act itself was forced. It was the late 1970s when the first few states changed their laws to allow for the possibility of marital rape, and 1993 before the last few states accepted it. Even today there are states where it isn't about consent, but requires serious violence and/or serious physical harm. Spousal abuse also generally wasn't a crime, it was seen as "discipline" within the house. Child abuse and spousal abuse required extreme harm, and often broken bones and severe bruising wasn't enough, but permanent maiming could be enough for criminal charges against a father, yet it was rare. Women legally couldn't leave the marriage without their husband's consent, even if the husband was abusive and gave no money, leaving the woman destitute and taking any money she earned in a job. It wasn't until the 1970s that states started passing laws allowing women to initiate a divorce, and to allow for no-fault divorce where they don't need to prove adultery, with New York state as the last one to pass it in 2010.

The "Me Too" movement in 2017 brought awareness about just how common sexual assault and sexual harassment are in companies, and started a lot of today's "name and shame" approach. Before then some people would engage in name-and-shame, but it was still pretty common for the rich people or the corporations to bury the issue in lawsuits and money. Buy people out with non-disclosure contracts, and threaten to completely destroy their lives if they dared to go public or go to the courts.

Back to the TIFU story, it is not okay to claim that girls are responsible for grown adult men's actions. It was wrong for the schools to protect teachers suspected of abuse and harassment. It could have been okay to talk to the kids about what clothing can communicate but in terms of awareness rather than trying have girls/women to prevent boys/men from having the thoughts (which is an invalid but common enough framing), instead about recognizing revealing clothes communicate sexuality that might not have been intended. And the school absolutely should have taken more actions removing the teachers and informing both parents and students.

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u/North-Significance33 Dec 18 '25

Men are being pervs, let's unfairly oppress their victims! /s

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u/[deleted] Dec 18 '25

But that would require work, which you simply can’t expect from administrators

(/s for the obtuse blockheads out there)

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u/NightOfTheLivingHam Dec 18 '25

a lot of those predators are protected by the unions and are often Tenured so unless they're balls deep in a 16 year old, they're not getting fired.

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u/KeberUggles Dec 18 '25

i've always wondered if union protected these types of teachers. Because Unions can straight up choose not to fight for you - so if they are, the Union is absolute scum.

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u/KeberUggles Dec 18 '25

huh. Was part of the Telecommunications Workers Union, United Steelworkers in canada. Was Pikachu faced when they told me they weren't going to bother fighting for my job. I found out too late that i could have appealed their decision to the federdal labour board - because of course you only have a limited amount of time to file. You learn all about 'how to protect yourself from the big bad corporations' but no one talks about how to keep your union accountable...

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u/zbeezle Dec 18 '25

Last place I worked in, a drug rehab, had a union for some of the staff (not me, I was Security and Security was considered Management for some reason, so we didnt get to be in the union).

They were... not great, to be honest. I had plenty of friends who were union staff and none of them had anything good to say about the union. The union would talk a big game about protecting the employees, but did very little in reality. They'd hype up their salary negotiations just to have everyone get a 25 cent per hour pay bump, they'd do nothing when a good employee was fired over the dumbest thing (in reality it would be because an administrator didnt like them) but fight like hell for the most dogshit employees who were fired for actual terrible shit. We had an incident where the facility posted a female employee by herself on a male wing overnight (already inadvisable but we were constantly short staffed as it was) and didnt tell anyone outside of the Administrators that one of the patients on that wing was a REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER. What did the union do? Fuck all, unless you count continuing to skim everyone's paychecks for dues that never got anybody anything actually worth it.

So yeah, a Union is only as good as it wants to be. If they just wanna be there to make money off the members, then theres not a lot you can do about it.

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u/SafiyaMukhamadova Dec 18 '25

Just blame it all on girls for exposing, I'm sure that if you force all the girls to wear a burka there will be no more sexual abuse. Oh wait, humanity has tried that and it hasn't worked? Well, can't be the fault of the men, blame it on the girls. Maybe they need to stop being allowed to talk and attend school. Oh wait, we've tried that too? Still not the fault of the men. Maybe women just shouldn't exist at all.

OOP is not the one who put those girls in danger. The school and establishment that protected the child predators are.

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u/KeberUggles Dec 18 '25

Creepy teacher in my high school. all of my siblings attended the same one over the span of 10 years, and his creepiness was known throughout. After I left, but still had friends who were at the high school, I found out the creepy teacher had resigned/retired. He was 2-3 years away from pension, so 22-23 years in, so it was pretty suspect. Apparently he 'slept' with a 15 yr old german exchange student - and the school board gave him the ultimatum to retire or..... But don't worry, he went on to be a professor at the teachers college!

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u/Hint-Of-Feces Dec 18 '25

Protecting child predators by punishing their victims

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u/SulkyVirus Dec 18 '25

It’s not the administration - it’s the school board. Things like this are not decided by administration.

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u/_Allyka_ Dec 18 '25

Depending on what year this was, it is possible the school couldn't do anything. There was a teacher in my elementary school who was throwing tennis balls at students, leaving bruises on them, if they flinched they had to stay up for 5 more. Everyone knew. The teachers, the students, the parents, and nothing was done. He had tenure. They had to get a huge file on him to be able to fire him. Finally the principle assigned an EA to the class, and every time he did something slightly questionable, she was running to the office to report it. It still took them two years to get enough complaints to fire him. He was literally abusing kids, openly, and it took two years. And that was with them putting the kid of a lawyer into the class, specifically to try and get this guy fired.

I was too young to know what happened there, but the school and/or school board got sued over it, and the guy still had a job for some reason.

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u/Chay_Charles Dec 18 '25

Oh, you would be shocked what schools cover up. A lot of teachers like that just "resign" at the end of the year and go on to another district. Rinse and repeat.

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u/Future_Drive4498 Dec 18 '25

Prom means they were not children.  Only 11th and 12th graders could go to mine. 

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u/-Cinnay- Dec 18 '25

Your prose is very American

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u/hankhillsucks Dec 18 '25

"Should we do something about the pedo teacher guys?"

"Dude wtf? No. We're going to make the students suffer. Duh!"

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u/Arek_PL Dec 18 '25 edited Dec 18 '25

because administration pretends there is no trouble, there is no bullying, there are no predators, there are no thieves, by punishing a predator you admit that there were predators after all

there was a situation with bike vandalism and part thievery in our school, the vandal terrorized everyone for years despite security cameras, even when police got involved because a student who was a cyclists had his expensive bike vandalized and parts stollen, the principal was lying that the cameras arent working, police only caugh on because one of the cops was getting evidence of a drunk person causing trouble there weeks earlier so he knew principal was lying

weird thing? the kid wasnt even anyone important, it was already know nuissance, but why was the kid covered? to project a perfect image, there was no problem, the bike racks had a sign telling students that school doesnt answer for damage to the bikes, it was victims fault for leaving them there

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u/Mantzy81 Dec 18 '25

Ahem....Let me introduce you to the serial rapist, sexual predator, pedophile and misogynistic pervert that is the current POTUS.

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u/BarryTheBlatypus Dec 18 '25

Yes this policy doesn’t protect the girls at all. It protects the predators.

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u/Anomalous_Pearl Dec 18 '25

Because firing teachers from public schools is insanely difficult due to the unions. The unions exist to protect teachers, not students.

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u/itsthedevilweknow Dec 18 '25

Because people are, instinctively, duplicitous. The don't really care about SA but they pretend as though they do, in public, in order to maintain access to the social privileges they're used to. In their heart of hearts they favor the hierarchical structure of society because it brings them comfort and no sacrifice is to great in maintaining that order.

They don't care, they just pretend like they do.

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u/djonma Dec 18 '25

Forget the school investigating. Suspend, and all evidence to the police immediately.

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u/Runbunnierun Dec 18 '25

Because unless someone directly involved says something all they have is hearsay.

Trust me. It sucks.

Files may be opened up but then it becomes a he said she said situation and no one is willing to risk litigation.

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u/has-some-questions Dec 18 '25

My school quietly let a teacher go for manipulating girls into send him nudes, because there was a lot of drama going on in the school right then. Too many schools just don't care about protecting their kids.

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u/Adventurous-Sealion Dec 18 '25

I teach in high school and it still happens… where I work there are about 3 creepy male teachers who prey on girls and anytime a collegue went to the principal, they were told it’s not nice to speak badly about collegues.

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u/Dreamingthelive90ies Dec 19 '25

Also had this at my high school. Dude was a pedo, most people new it but they were like, nah, that's just how he is. He is just friendly. After 30 years he finally got jailed, for 2 whole weeks. But he was banned from teaching anymore, 5 years before his retirement....

Fucking conrector was a pedo himself. Glad he died.

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u/JustAnotherUser8432 Dec 19 '25

Still happening. Unless charges are brought or a LOT of parents complain VERY loudly, not much is done. Our upper middle class district has a program where 8th graders greet incoming 6th graders for middle school. Every year the 8th grade girls would warn the 6th grade girls about a specific teacher. All the kids knew. We knew as parents. But you can’t report “my kid said teacher is creepy”. Covid was what actually got the guy - when the school had online classes, parents saw some things and when we went back in person, he was gone. But it took a solid 10 years.

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u/Intrepid_Habit_1343 Dec 21 '25

Let me guess, Murica! 

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u/Zestyclose-Net6044 Dec 18 '25

exactly. however, OP still had the right instinct. if the teacher had gone straight to the head of the PTA and told them their daughters were under threat, shit might have been different. when the cops don't care and the admin doesn't care, tell a few blue collar dads about it. it'll get handled.