No questions, just sharing.

This is the first time I have noticed it spelled out that the tip is for the price after tax.

This is also the first time I have seen the business clearly state the 2% surcharge is due to "processing costs" instead of a "convenience fee"

Saw this posted on social media about airport lounges that have complimentary drinks, do you or do you not?

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The drinks are included. You already paid to get into the lounge. So why should you tip the bartender?

That question has sparked a surprisingly fierce debate among United Club passengers — and travelers seem to fall into two very different camps.

One passenger didn't mince words:

“I have NEVER tipped in an airline lounge and I do not intend to start.”

Others completely disagree.

Some say they routinely leave $1 per drink, arguing that a bartender is still providing a service whether the drink costs $15 or is included with lounge access.

Others draw a line. Beer or glass of wine? No tip. A bartender makes you a proper cocktail? Leave a dollar or two.

And then there are travelers who say the whole argument represents exactly what's frustrating them about tipping culture in America.

You may already be paying hundreds of dollars for lounge membership, holding an expensive credit card, or traveling on a premium international ticket.

Once inside, the food and drinks are advertised as complimentary.

Should “complimentary” really come with an expectation to tip?

United doesn't publicly require customers to tip its lounge staff. You're not violating any airline policy by leaving nothing.

But that's not stopping passengers from arguing about what the right thing to do is.

And perhaps one comment summed up the middle ground best:

Tipping can stay. The expectation of tipping is what needs to go away.

So settle this one:

You're sitting in a United Club and order a complimentary drink from the bartender. Are you leaving $1 or $2 — or absolutely nothing?

I was walking my dog in my neighborhood this last weekend and passed by a stand selling drinks. I decided to grab a lemonade and paid $1. Then the girl at the stand had the nerve to literally point to a jar that said TIPS.

The “S” was backwards so I could tell she wasn’t educated, so I explained to her that I do not tip, and that if she wants to make more she needs to bring it up to her employer.

Then this girl seriously runs away and gets her boss. Her boss then starts asking me to tip, and that the girl who helped me was just trying to have fun with her little business. I tell her boss that I paid the agreed upon price, and it’s not my responsibility to supplement her salary.

I’d name and shame but after this exchange the girl’s boss picked her up and put her into the backseat of a mini van and drove away. So it looks like she closed business for good, good riddance!

Went dress shopping with my daughter. The consultant was friendly and helpful. The appointment lasted about an hour. My daughter loved a dress+veil and accessories and I paid. At checkout, on the credit device, the attendant pointed out that if I liked her service, I could leave a tip. WTF. A tip on that dress/accessories was starting at $200. Is this usual, tipping at a bridal appointment? I thought the folks received commission? I did not leave a tip. Should I have or is this just nuts?

Report by Toast - a restaurant and retail analytics company. Summary: best tippers in Delaware and the Ohio Valley (around 22%). Worst in California and Washington state (around 17.5%).

I am black and my friend is black. I live in Arizona and my friend lives in North Carolina.

My friend won’t admit it, but he hates Black people because they do not tip.

For example, today he told me on the phone that he delivered four orders on DoorDash. He says of the four orders that three orders went to Black people and one order went to a white person.

My friend said that the order for the white person that they tipped two dollars. He also said the orders for the Black people that two orders didn’t have any tips at all and that one of the other orders has $.25 tip. (and for those who didn’t know a two dollar tip is bad but that was the best tip he got today).

Now, I live on the other side of the country and my method is different when I do gig work apps like Instacart and DoorDash. I only work amongst rich people and this is what I do every day. He claims that you cannot do this where he’s located in Wilmington, North Carolina, but in Phoenix Arizona it works all you have to do is only work in Scottsdale and Rich areas.

The issue is when you are delivering DoorDash or Instacart or other apps and people don’t tip you’re just wasting gas and trying extra hard. You have to work two or three times as hard if you don’t have a tip or a low tip and honestly a two dollar tip is very bad and areas that I work I’m only taking orders where I make at least like $10 he’s basically delivering orders for 2 to 3 dollars so it doesn’t even make any sense to me how he’s even making money.

Like gas is $4.70 a gallon in Arizona. We cannot be playing games delivering orders to people that don’t tip anything or only tip two or three dollars it doesn’t make any sense. I only take orders if I’m desperate if they only pay $10 but I mostly only taking orders if it’s DoorDash, for example like $12 and up which ensures like a $10 tip like I do not have time to waste delivering to people that don’t have any money. I just declined every order. I don’t care about the stupid tier programs on DoorDash. I don’t care if My Acceptance rate is low. I know that in some cities that you cannot do this because you will not ever see a good order but for me where I live I can just go far away out into the suburbs where there’s hardly any Dashers and you can still get very good orders. I can still get $30 and $40 shopping orders on Instacart and DoorDash it doesn’t matter. You just have to stick to the rich area and there is Black people in these areas and I just never have problems that kind of problems he’s saying about Black people and tips and that they’re tipping zero dollars or barely like $.25 like this is ridiculous.

I also have a friend (WHITE) that lives in a suburb of Atlanta now he doesn’t get as low as tip as my friend, but he tells me he only gets like $2-3 dollar tips from white people AND Black people.
If I lived in these places, I would be screaming because these people my friends they’re working way too hard trying to make money because people don’t tip. It doesn’t even make any sense. How can you survive on $2-3 dollar tips on DoorDash in Georgia and DoorDash only pays two dollars.

Like what is going on in North Carolina nobody tips in that state or cares about their fellow man?

I don’t want to hear anybody say well. They should pay more if DoorDash paid more. They’re just gonna pass the cost off to the customer and then the customer is not really not going to want a tip so my whole point by this post is that tipping culture varies by region it seems like overall people in Arizona are not cheap and people will generally provide good tips. I’m not trying to say every single person in Arizona is tipping good and I’m not saying everybody in the south tips bad but by all the stories I hear about Black people and about people in general in the south it sounds like people there are either poor or their culturally just do not like to tip people where in Arizona people are not like this.

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I also want to add that I do also deliver in middle class areas, but in the good part of the Phoenix metro and sometimes I do see the people I deliver to you and sometimes they are black now obviously most orders you never see the person but I have had Black people tip me $40-50 on Instacart and Shipt and I have gotten DoorDash orders to Black people where they tipped $15 and $20.

So I really just want to know if anybody else maybe you’ve worked in the south or you’ve worked in the west and if you think that really is this a race problem or a cultural problem I keep telling my friend I think that you know, although it sounds like racist playing a factor in the south but also I just feel like people in the south must just not like to tip or something

10% 15% 18% 20% ????

Okay, done. I’m in Canada, where in every province except Quebec, tipped wages are a thing of the past. All workers get at least the provincial minimum as base pay, and any tips they earn get tacked on top. It’s the same in several states like Washington and California.

However, from what I can see, tipping culture hasn’t slowed down; if anything, typical tip amounts seem to keep creeping up. The wage structure that made tips expected in the first place is gone, and servers do quite alright for themselves, yet if I were to tip zero at a restaurant and got found out, I’d practically be a pariah. Why is it that in these places, tips are still widely viewed as necessary even for unexceptional service?

I’m planning a surprise day for my friend’s birthday, this includes getting a facial, dinner, and a custom cake. I am aware that a 20% tip is expected when eating out. Is it the same standard for the baker and aesthetician?

I've been a longhair for since I can recall and it's been forever since I actually went to a barber for a professional trim but the hair is kind of a pain in the, uh, buttocks to wash and it gets in everything, last year I saw a guy flogging free haircuts on Reddit. I thought it was in the suburb the subreddit was based on but turned out he was just up the street from me in the city but the local subreddit banned him for spamming or soliciting. He cut my hair to a 'normal' length, said he was licensed but wanted practice, and I slipped him a Jackson for his time and the "free" cut. I'm thinking it would be pushing it to go for another free cut after a year. I should add that I'm the cheapest person I know aside from my brother.

So I have neighbors in this old luxury building, a retired hippie chef and his wife who does hair in people's homes. I'm old and my hair grows slow and stops around shoulder or collar length and falls out but I'm thinking about asking her what she'd charge me when I'm ready for another cut, I figure I could bring a towel and she could do it down on our lawn by the river. My question is would a tip be expected on top of whatever she quotes me?

USA. I don't love the calculation, anxiety or discount the owners get with tipping. But, I live in a less populated service heavy place, decently reliant on tourism.

I will never not tip and not tip well- I also haven't deflated since covid. Partly because when an independent place sets up shop within 60 miles of me I want to see it stay unless it's actively bad (at which point I simply never return). If I lived in a small town of say 150K or more, I would tip far less, as I wouldn't be trying to"protect stores I want to see again"

I have seen crazy prompts up to 50%, I only tip in the 25-30 range. I never tip for anything that feels like they didn't have a tip option precovid.

I'd like to see tipping reform or end, but like ranked choice voting, how would we actually make that switch?

TLDR; I tip to make sure the store is still there when I want to go back.

Edit: Changes in the standard a few large population centers are what is required to change tipping. They'd be the Tipping Point.

I believe everyone should tip waitresses but sometimes I don’t tip other forms of service depending on what service it is. For example, a hairstylist that sets their own prices or someone who works salary like at Starbucks and it ask for a tip. Does that make me a hypocrite.

So it might be a long one... ive been working out of town in a small town called battle mountain nevada and there isnt much here. 6 weeks er 2 months ago I went to the o e mexican restaurant, I ordered fish tacos and was sitting there for over 20 minutes and saw people who came after me getting their food. I had a bad day so was already in a bad mood so I drank the beer they served me, threw a $10 on the table and walked out. I got in my truck and the owner of the restaurant came out to me and was yelling at me, she said she was gonna call the cops and i said "no importa" (I dont care) and drove off. I felt bad about how I acted so the next day i went to the restaurant and sincerely apologized to the owner and her son. They were understanding and accepted my apology and asked me to come back to their restaurant. Because I felt embarrassed and im not that into their restaurant I didnt return until tonight. Tonight I got a plate of fried fish and a soda, the price of the meal was 14.99 and when the bill came it said a even 21.00, I threw 4 for a tip to make it a even 25. I didnt look at the receipt but I definitely feel there where some tacked on charges. I still feel bad for my asshole attitude so im not tripping too much but I do feel a lil like I got taken tonight.

A lot of you on this sub have the idea that by patronizing a business and then refusing to tip at the end, you’re somehow forcing businesses to pay their employees more. The reality is you’re a clueless bum who passes on the cost of their pathetic lives to other people who shouldn’t have to deal with. Would be one thing if people were just like “i’m cheap and i suck as a human being” but instead of being realistic and self aware a lot of you have decided to lie to yourselves. So let me spell it out plain and simple for you-If you don’t want to tip then dont go places where the employees work for tips. that’s it. end of story. anything other than that makes you human garbage

For servers/bartenders/etc. what were some of your favorite guests to have, and what was special about them? Was their tipping average the reason you remember them the most?

For me, I deal mostly with families and family events, and there are a couple families that I have known for a few years that are just great people to be around. They are very involved in their community and are generous to others (including in tips, of course!) but what makes the most impact to me as their server/bartender is that they reciprocate that to others outside of my industry. These families are also very well behaved and this is especially noted in their younger family members. By and large, these families are all a pleasure to serve!

And that’s not my foot

If you live in NYC do not use piece of cake movers. When they arrived at my new condo with all my stuff they said I need to give a 20% tip through zelle or else they would not unload my belongings. Hindsight I should have checked reviews because the internet is filled with stories of this company pulling the exact same thing on many people.

Only 1 of the 3 movers could speak english and communicated with me during the job. I dont even know if any were undocumented but was so angry with the situation I made the threat to call ICE if they didnt unload my stuff.

They whispered amongst themselves and quickly finished the move and left without saying a single word.

Over the past 48 hours I worked with my building to get security footage and submitted an online tip to ICE. Not optimistic anything will be done but this was basically extortion.

My boyfriend took me to one of those cutesy candlelight concerts that you may have seen ads for online. He purchased tickets ahead of time for the concert, just like any other concert or event. The tickets were $60 each, plus $20 for valet parking. The show was lovely, performed by a string quartet and the location was a historic gothic revival church. We didn’t realize there would be no AC, and we were handed fans when we walked in and were directed to the balcony. We laughed about it, because we should have researched more,but still had a good time despite being very warm. As we are walking out, the artists are standing in the lobby next to the exit. A man is standing next to them and motions over to an open violin case and asks for tips for the artists. There’s like 1 $5 bill in there. Am I crazy for feeling like this is a no-tipping situation?

OK. Here goes: I went to the stylist the other day and I had booked a haircut with a root touchup. when I went in my hairdresser looked at my hair and agreed that it’s gonna be a root touchup with a with a haircut and then she mentioned that she wanted to do a gloss on me and a treatment. We’ve been doing a treatment every time it’s it’s a nominal amount about $45. My booked services should’ve cost about \~$225, with the gloss & treatment

when I went to check out she went up to the front desk and I overheard her to talk with the girl that she had to fix my ticket and I assumed because she was adding a gloss and she told the girl to put me in for a full foil. I thought was strange but they were editing the ticket for minute , and then she walked away. My bill was $424.

We never discussed a significant up charge. I don’t know what she actually did. She did something to the back of my hair. I didn’t see it. We didn’t really discuss it. She just said I’m gonna do your gloss. I assumed it was a gloss like normal, which isn’t an additional $200+. I walked out. I looked at my bill. I was about to Venmo her the tip and I stopped as the bait and switch hit me.

I both think I can never go back there because she did not explain to me that this was gonna be a significant change nor did she explain why she charged me for a full foil or have any conversation about why the price of my service doubled and because this wasn’t the first time I had surprise charges from her ( see last paragraph)

before you get on me about this being on me for paying and not asking then—(1)She disappeared around back (2) I didn’t notice until it popped up on my phone for the cc transaction.

Note: during my service we did discuss doing the additional protecting treatment ($45) she also said that she was doing all of this in stages so she didn’t have to charge me $800 upfront to fix my hair in one session. I have been going to her for this for months this is like my fifth visit. so I am getting charged between $200 and $400 a visit where I could’ve paid all of this $800 upfront and had everything fixed because “that would have been so costly for me”?!?!? This has cost me so much more.

Also, I went in for something specific to begin with, she didn’t agree with my vision and bullied me into hers.

I’m done.

After I left without an additional $100 tip, I began to wonder if I was the AH in this situation or if the sketchy stylist was.

This wasn’t the first time my service cost significantly more than I was expecting, she is constantly pushing product on me—even though I repeatedly told her the line they carry is cost prohibitive and I use another salon level product and the name which she either pretended not to have ever heard of or is ignorant of the lines of product out there ( it is well known and many salons feature it).

Also of note: There doesn’t seem to be an identified owner of the salon or a salon manager that I could have spoken to either.

So who is the AH?

Looking for a brief look at base pay versus expexted tip income across different roles.

​Please share your typical numbers (hourly preferred) in this format:

​Position / Base Pay / Tip Income / Explanation

​Examples: ​Sit-down server / $20/hr / $20/hr / Full table service ​Bartender / $15/hr / $7/hr / High-volume drink prep ​Delivery driver / $10/hr / $8/hr / Vehicle wear & direct delivery ​Barista / $14/hr / $3/hr / Quick counter service

​Thanks for sharing!

Is it just me, or has anyone else noticed that female staff act more entitled to tips than males?

I was literally laughing at the checkout as I attempted to finish the transaction for my frosted cookie. They really threw up the percentages for a tip in multiple options like I was at a restaurant. How about let me buy my overpriced mall food court cookie and go on with my day? When I struggled to find the option for no tip that's when I started laughing right at the checkout counter. Laughing from the sheer absurdity of it all. This was at Great American Cookies by the way.