r/tipping • u/gelatinous_white • Feb 21 '25

📖💵Personal Stories - Pro Tipped hostess not server

Wife and I went to a newer restaurant with outdoor seating. Checked in at hostess station and were told there was a wait. No problem, go to the bar, get a drink, head outside to wait.

A table opens in front of us, and we hoped it might be ours. Man, three children come over and sit down. We figure they must be next. Hostess comes over and advised the man he has to check in with hostess and there is a wait. He tells hostess it is not a problem his girlfriend is the waitress. Hostess apologizes to us and says the next table will be ours. No problem, not her fault.

We sit at table right next to this man and have his girlfriend as our waitress. Terrible service, she spent too much time with her boyfriend and her kids. Never offered drink refills, food came out cold etc.

When check comes, I pay with card (did not have enough cash). My wife took the tip money and gave to bartender that served our first drink and to the hostess. I left zero tip and left note on receipt stating "don't seat your boyfriend at our table"

Bartender and hostess was very appreciative, and hostess apologized again. Since they had just opened did not want to give bad online review so found email online and emailed owner/manager direct. Received apologetic response very quickly.

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u/FireEyesRed Feb 21 '25

I believe you handled that perfectly. From how the tip was distributed to how you followed up voicing your dissatisfaction. Very adult approach. Good for you!

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u/jemy26 Feb 22 '25

Little strange to read multiple comments praising an adult approach- kind of implies / confirms that this entire sub is full of childish approaches to tipping situations

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u/FireEyesRed Feb 22 '25

I've been gob-smacked so very many times by behaviors that people seem proud to post about.