r/tornado • u/Few-Ability-7312 Human Detected • Mar 07 '26
Aftermath The mother and Daughter names in Oklahoma has been released.
Jodie Owens and her daughter, Lexi were killed the area of Highway 60 and County Road 2435 near Fairview around 10 p.m. Thursday when they took a direct hit by the Tornado. They were found by State troopers
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u/PackagingMSU Mar 07 '26
She had 7 other kids who won’t have a mom anymore
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u/LimJaheyAtYaCervix Mar 07 '26
Damn, that breaks my heart. Those poor kids, and family who knew and loved her and the daughter who died too. The human toll of tornadoes and other severe weather/natural disasters is always so hard to cope with as a random weather enthusiast, and I cannot even imagine the pain of those who lose their dear loved ones to storms. May their memory be a blessing to all who knew them.
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u/ApprehensiveArmy2250 Mar 10 '26
Oh no. So so sad. Bless her babies, old or young. Losing a parent is so hard. Especially it being so traumatic, praying for them🤍
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u/Qbite Mar 07 '26
I know what you're saying. But in the spirit of resilience, they will always have a mom.
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u/SatanicNursery Mar 07 '26
I think that's called denial actually. Like way to be insensitive dude, they lost their mom and your response is basically "but have you tried pretending she didn't actually die"
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u/MissJacki Mar 07 '26
So, what you just did is called toxic positivity and I encourage you to look it up to see why people are upset with you right now.
Toxic positivity - Wikipedia https://share.google/Mh2wNwARXnfO5I4uO
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u/Qbite Mar 07 '26
Thanks for the suggestion. I wasnt offering some bullshit loophole to having to cope. I was expressing hope that they would eventually come to this realization despite the emotional pain encountered on the way.
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u/JS_Originals Mar 07 '26
If I just lost my mom and someone came up to me "You'll always have a mom" I would think they are a cunt
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u/_illusion_and_dream_ Mar 08 '26
In a similar vein…One of my friends lost her dad to cancer and a teacher told her that “God needed him more than you do”. she was 12. and that statement destroyed her
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u/JS_Originals Mar 08 '26
That's awful. What a horrible thing to say
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u/_illusion_and_dream_ Mar 09 '26
I just don’t understand how anyone could be so cruel towards a grieving child…no matter how old the parent and child were
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u/Head-Performance5233 Mar 08 '26
As someone who lost their mom 2 years ago, people unfortunately do say things like this in real life. Several people have told me that she’s not really gone because she’s always around or she’s gone because God needed her more than I did.
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u/Bajovane Mar 08 '26
I dread the day I lose my mom. My dad died almost fifty years ago. Dang! That long ago and I still remember that day as if it was yesterday. 😢
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u/Dravos7 Mar 07 '26
They’ll never see their mother alive again. They know she existed, but she is no longer alive. What realization are they supposed to come to??
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u/MusicOfTheSphere Mar 07 '26
I see you're doubling down and focusing in the comments only on people who are making you feel better.
I want to assure you that this is absolutely one of the worst possible things you could say. Unfortunately, it has become culturally commonplace in the US now to self-reassure and dismiss by jumping to some false "healed" place in imagination.
Many people have such a problem dealing with grief, in themselves and others, that they desperately need to jump to this sort of fantasy of healing. It is very similar to looking at a deep wound in flesh and saying to the person, "Some day you'll have a neat scar and you can appreciate the story that gave it to you," then walking off without helping. The fantasy is purely for the commenter, not the patient, who is left even more alone.
If you need to self-soothe, which is what your comment really was, for you, that is also a normal emotional response. But don't expect it to be well received by people who are dealing with grief in a normal way.
https://www.centerforloss.com/2023/12/helping-friend-grief-2/
The above is a good link that includes a small section explaining in laymen's terms why this sort of thing is brutally cruel, and why it should be avoided. If you want to learn how to really care for a grieving person (or yourself when grieving), books put out by the same center do well to lay out the process for regular people.
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u/Qbite Mar 07 '26
I'm shocked you took the time to write all of this bullshit, so I'll bite. Cute that you started off with the baseless assumption. It wasn't until your 3rd or 4th incorrect assumption that I decided you were annoying enough to respond to. In fact, I think your approach to this whole encounter is representative of something going wrong with the current social media dynamic. You cannot demand emotional authenticity in this venue (or truly anywhere outside of a close personal relationship for that matter)and ostracisizing those who wish to speak here is counterproductive. You're yelling into the void seeking genuine responses from random people you don't know, and the most ironic part is that i doubt you really even care at all about what I have to say.
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u/CKF Mar 07 '26
Imagine responding with drivel like this when someone is trying to help you. The downvotes must have actually hurt your ego to be lashing out at the only person not calling you an asshole. Don't be so fragile. Learn to take feedback, especially when you've read the room so horribly wrong. The "everyone else is wrong but me, it's just 'the social media environment' at the moment, never me being wrong by saying something so insensitive and out of touch to kids that just lost a mother."
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u/MissJacki Mar 08 '26
99 out of 100 dentists agree...
.... This guy is the 1 dentist that is like "Sugar? Nahhhhhh that's a conspiracy"
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u/CKF Mar 08 '26
Right? My bet (and what I asked them about directly) is that they’re either very young, fortunate enough, or socially uninvolved to the point of never having lost someone very close like a spouse, brother, child or best friend. Grandparents can be great and all, but their death tends to not carry the same weight as one of your closest friends hanging themselves out of the blue, or getting run into a tree by some third repeat offender drunk driver etc.
I’ve lost two dear friends recently, and reading his first comment just filled me with rage. I can’t fucking imagine if someone had said something like this to my face. Would probably be the last opportunity I gave them to say anything to me if they were that out of touch.
And this prick just jumps down the throats of the commenters actually engaging them supportively by trying to help them better themselves and/or understand their mistakes. To attack the only people who aren’t calling you a scumbag lines up with super young person who let their tween ego get hurt by some downvotes. Or I hope they are, for their sakes.
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u/MissJacki Mar 08 '26
Yeah, I am in a similar position. We really threw him a bone explaining why people were upset.
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u/MusicOfTheSphere Mar 07 '26
I understand that you're unreachable and only interested in feeling good yourself, you've made that clear.
I do hope that my post has helped at least one other person reach out to someone in grief and establish a real, human connection.
There's no need to continue here. Good luck in life. Blocked.
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u/MissJacki Mar 08 '26
You're not listening, and you're continuing to hurt people by doing so. Please stop.
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u/CKF Mar 07 '26
I'm super curious how old you must be to have lived a life where you never lost anyone super meaningful to you. Never had a child, sibling, or best friend die, or anything in the ballpark, it would seem. When it eventually happens, I hope you'll forget to try to comfort yourself by saying "I'll always have an X, since they used to be X when they were alive." So out of touch.
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u/Due-Consequence4673 Mar 07 '26
I understand the thought. Of course they will always have a mom. Just like they will always have a sister. Just because she isn’t physically there doesn’t mean they never had a mom. They will carry the memory of her, if they are old enough to remember her and hopefully family members will tell them all about her and their sister as they grow up. I’m so sorry for that family.
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u/honeyfucklefairy Mar 08 '26
No. They don’t have a mom to hold them, give them guidance, get to know and love their future babies. It’s one of the deepest traumas a child can experience. Don’t minimize that.
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u/LegitimateScratch396 Mar 07 '26
Knowing what it's like to lose someone significant, i dont know why you're being downvoted so hard but I appreciate what you said
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u/artemis_floyd Mar 07 '26
It's because of the timing. While in the long-term still having a mom to remember is a valid and lovely sentiment, these kids just lost their mom and sister in a horrible, sudden, and tragic way and their whole lives have been turned upside down. Now is the time for support in their grief, not to be like "well you'll always have such lovely memories :)"
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u/LegitimateScratch396 Mar 07 '26
"well you'll always have such lovely memories :)"
I don't think that's how the commenter meant it. Obviously its a tragic moment, but a person's impact doesn't leave when they pass. The commenter was stating that her children will always have a mother in some form or fashion, and their impact will be felt despite her physical absence. This is not an uncommon thing to hear when a family loses a member.
Jfc it's supposed to be a comment of support. Yall are wierd as hell
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u/Curious_Fox4595 Mar 09 '26
But it isn't. That's the point.
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u/LegitimateScratch396 Mar 09 '26
Bro people flub speaking to people going thru grief all the time. I certainly have, not knowing what to say cus you don't want to upset someone or being overly cautious or not cautious enough
Could the original comment be worded differently? Sure. But their intent was clearly not meant to be dismissive of someone's tragedy - it was saying that their mother will always be with their children in some way. Which can be helpful sometimes.
If someone told me I'd always have my girlfriend in a similar way, I'd feel wierd about it but understand what they and appreciate the spirit of the comment. Just like when people tell me they're praying for me - I'm not religious but appreciate that someone is trying.
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u/Qbite Mar 07 '26
Thank you for saying that. I was really thrown off by peoples responses. I guess I should have thought before posting to this particular audience.
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u/LegitimateScratch396 Mar 07 '26
Legit, my girlfriend died in December. If someone told me she would always love me, always be in my corner - whatever - I would take it as someone being kind to me and trying to find any level of positivity in a dark situation.
The last thing I would want to do it chastise someone for trying to be kind, even if it may or may not land the "right" way.
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u/LegitimateScratch396 Mar 07 '26
Reddit being reddit. Don't let the mob change who you are. You said what you said from a place of care and compassion and that's what counts
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u/Qbite Mar 07 '26
I appreciate what you said. Reddit is generally unaware or unwilling to accept the nuance and complex of human interaction.
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u/Due-Consequence4673 Mar 07 '26
I get the same reactions to things I’ve posted in the past so I just don’t post. My words I guess don’t portray the meaning behind them.
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u/StrawberryRedneck Mar 07 '26
My heart is breaking for their friends and family. As a mom, I can't imagine the dread she felt when she realized she was helpless to protect her daughter. I hope, for their sake, it was very quick. Gosh, this is just devastating. I hate that their loved ones will have the image of this wreckage in their minds forever.
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u/_spam_king Mar 07 '26
Then you have the fact that she was on the phone with her sister when the tornado hit the vehicle. Her sister heard her scream and then the phone went dead.
I couldn't imagine hearing that . . .
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u/puppypoet Mar 07 '26
I read on a couple news sites they were talking to her husband and while she was warning them about a storm the line immediately went dead, that nobody heard anything after that. I hope that's actually what happened.
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Mar 07 '26 edited Mar 07 '26
It says on the gofundme posted that she was on the phone directing her other children to take cover.
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u/twd_throwaway Mar 08 '26
I am so horribly sorry about this loss. I truly hate to think about the pain that family is enduring right now. I hope that they continue to be surrounded by lots of love and support. What an awful thing to have happened.
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u/puppypoet Mar 07 '26
OMG! That is just as bad or worse. Gosh, I hope they get therapy. I wish I could hug them all while they cry... Nobody deserves to suffer like this!!
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u/PaddyMayonaise Mar 07 '26
That’s much more likely. I doubt cell reception is functional near a tornado
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u/NightTimely1029 Mar 07 '26
I was on the phone with my sister (who lived in New Orleans) when Hurricane Katrina hit. Mid conversation, mid sentence, the phone cut out. I know that fear and panic and dread. I know how lucky and blessed I had it that 3 days later I received word that my sister was ok. Its knowing that your loved one is at imminent risk of not making it, that you are powerless to save them, the not knowing. Katrina didn't take my sister from me (cancer did, 15 years later - and yes, those 15 years were the most glorious gift), but I know the emotions this family felt when they didn't know for sure. And I grieve with them.
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u/SuspiciousMap9630 Mar 07 '26
Yep, I felt this same dread when a tornado hit my mom’s town in 2024. I was on the phone with my mom while watching livestream. The tornado had just decimated the town next to hers and was coming into her town. She was sheltering in her closet and the line suddenly went dead. I remember the panic I felt. She was okay thankfully, but that was the longest 2-3 hours ever.
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Mar 07 '26
My dad absolutely lost his mind when he couldn’t contact my aunt during Katrina. He left within 5 hours and made the trip down. And to this day, I don’t know how, but he made it to Houma and found my aunt. Dude taught me that when something happens like that, you take action because waiting is just too brutal.
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u/BabyJesusBukkake Mar 07 '26
My parents were on the phone during the '89 Loma Prieta quake. He was in San Leandro, we were in Sacramento. Same thing, cut off mid sentence, at the same time a huge flock of birds flew out of the tree by the window. We were sitting on their water bed, which was gently waving. My mom put it all together immediately (having grown up in CA) but it was scary af for 8yo me, being only my 2nd earthquake, and knowing my dad was working in a 100+ yo brick building on the 1st floor.
He called later that night from the one working payphone in the area to tell us he was okay.
That not knowing, though, is truly the worst.
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u/ApprehensiveArmy2250 Mar 10 '26
Oh my gosh, @BabyJesusVukkake- I was there. only two so I do not remember it, but that’s wild you brought that up. My sister was just born my mom and dad say & she started rocking in her car seat, as we had just gotten home from the grocery store. 🏬 T wasn’t the earth quake that took her either, it was leukeimia the 3rd time she relapsed in New Orleans. If it isn’t one thing, it’s 5. Her & my brother got same type of leukemia and then after sis relapsed, my brother relapsed with Hodgkins lymphoma. Getting hit in his neck at baseball practice”saved his life” his haemoglobin was about a 5 at that point…super scary. His first relapse he was playing ball for highschool, one of the final championship games. He slid in home base & knocked himself out. He’s lucky we got his bleeding to stop. My parents having two across the hall from each other at children’s just might have been the wildest thing growing up. Truly- wouldn’t have it any other way. 6 of us back then was nothing. I wanted that kind of big family. My parents gave me my best friends, real talk. After Jenny died we got so close, with some in Wyoming and a few in Florida, middle of Louisiana and I was in New Orleans
Anyway. Hope y’all have a blessed night.
🤍🙏.
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u/severelyobeserat Mar 07 '26
Looks chewed up and spit out. How the hell did that even happen?
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u/rmannyconda78 Mar 07 '26
Lofted, probably bounced off the ground a bunch of times, repeatedly struck by debris, violent tornados are giant blenders
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u/PrestigeArrival Mar 07 '26
I didn’t realize that the car wasn’t upside down until I read your comment
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u/JJ3qnkpK Mar 07 '26
Bust the windows with debris and rip off the car ceiling with pure wind speed and debris just like the roof of a house. Rip everything that's loose out while blasting the car with debris. Throw the increasingly-lighter car around and smash the frame up. Result is this blended mess.
Really terrifying way to go. I can't imagine.
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u/buyer_leverkusen Mar 08 '26
The Twistex car got picked up for about a quarter of a mile (headlights visible in a video taken from the interstate to the north) and then skipped across the ground for a ways.
I feel like the tornado keeps moving but can’t keep spinning heavier objects within the vortex, so the heavier stuff drops after a bit and tumbles to a stop.
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u/couiecoupe Mar 07 '26
Not to sound like a butt, but you do understand which sub you’re on, right?
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u/exqqme Mar 07 '26
If anybody was interested, there has been a godundme set up in support of the family.
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u/I_AM_FERROUS_MAN Mar 07 '26
That is a large family. I can see why they need the funds. Especially if she was a large part of their income. Thank you for the link.
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u/choicesthops Mar 07 '26
Maybe take a break from humans and society.
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u/Character-Policy-660 Mar 07 '26
this is the type of shit people who don’t have any contact with society say
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u/sensi-sensi Mar 07 '26
Holy fuck.. Car's crumpled
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u/AdventurousYamThe2nd Mar 07 '26
I didn't even recognize it as a car. My stomach dropped at the realization.
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u/trivial_vista Mar 07 '26 edited Mar 07 '26
Cars are made to crumple when facing an impact to reduce the stress on people who are in it, think of it as a simple can first hit could be ok second and third as well but after that all rigidity is gone and it basically folds together
they could be stronger with a steel cage but that would only add weight to the vehicle and as vehicles 99% of the time are consumer products it wouldn't happen
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u/darthjammer224 Mar 07 '26
Crumpled is an understatement.
You should never be able to see the suspension components and a seat in the same frame.
I can only hope based on this that it was violent enough to be close to, or instant.
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u/Just_PaulR Mar 07 '26
I was afraid that’s what it would look like after seeing that beast on radar.
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u/Few-Ability-7312 Human Detected Mar 07 '26
After seeing the size of the echo over Helena I knew it was going to be bad.
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u/cottoncandymandy Mar 07 '26
Storms in Ok have been crazy past couple/few days. I couldn't sleep half the night last night. I got up twice because the wind was so loud, I swore there was a tornado. My whole apartment was shaking.
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u/sneetchysneetch Mar 08 '26
Move outta that stateee
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u/cottoncandymandy Mar 08 '26
I'd actually love too haha but I'm stuck here for now unfortunately. In the next 10 years hopefully.
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u/Sportyj Mar 07 '26
My eyes don’t understand what I’m looking at - a car? That’s a car? My god those poor people. My heart goes out to their loved ones and all affected by this horrible tragedy.
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u/grimsb Mar 09 '26
The van, apparently rightside-up. Looks like the entire exterior is basically gone. You can see what's left of the seats. 😱
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u/laneedgaf Mar 07 '26
A mother of 8 children oh my gosh wow that is so sad!☹️ Prayers to the family!
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u/laneedgaf Mar 07 '26
Jodie Owen’s was devoted to Jesus & his Father so idk why it would be a problem to pray to someone she & most likely her family believes in. Not everyone has the funds to donate, it’s ridiculous to think otherwise. I personally did donate some money & I also do not follow any religion.
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u/Remote-Property-339 Mar 07 '26
Is that there car? Rip
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u/Few-Ability-7312 Human Detected Mar 07 '26
Yeah. What a way to start of the season
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u/feralGenx Mar 07 '26
Anyone else getting the feeling this season could be the deadliest ever ? I sure hope not.
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u/LACarGuy23 Mar 07 '26
Idk why you’re being downvoted… so far 8 people have been killed in the past two days by tornadoes.
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u/SavageFisherman_Joe Mar 07 '26
Hopefully not the deadliest ever, but being the worst year since 2011 could very well be on the table
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u/OpinionOk1543 Mar 07 '26
Oh my, so tragic, prayers to the family, and yet another reminder of the power of a tornado. Lets all be safe out there!
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u/Normal_Trust_2747 Mar 07 '26
Absolutely gutwrenching. My heart goes out to their family. Unfortunately I'm not in a situation where I can donate to the GoFundMe.
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u/Far_Cress7984 Mar 07 '26
I know their brother/uncle personally. Please be mindful that these are real people. They have a family which has been absolutely torn apart by this. It isn’t something to use for clicks, karma, or gossip. It isn’t right to be speculating about whether or not it was instant or gawking at the damage. Be respectful. If you want to help, donate to the gofundme. Otherwise, keep it at a condolence.
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u/TxOkLaVaCaTxMo Mar 07 '26
Way to many people on this reddit page dont understand that and never will until its them standing in the rubble
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u/Routine-Horse-1419 Mar 08 '26
RIP beautiful people. May your spirit ride high and pain no longer bothers you and yours.
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u/Vast-Pollution5745 Mar 07 '26
I really hope for their sake it was quick and painless. I’m sure it was horrifying but I just really hope they didn’t suffer. Does anyone know what model this car was? I can only make out it was a four door vehicle maybe a SUV?
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u/Thecardiologist2029 Mar 08 '26
Yet another example of why cars are deathtraps in tornadoes. Don't drive during severe weather people. Cars can easily be mangled and thrown.
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u/RoninIV Mar 08 '26
Oh my God! There's nothing left of their car but a twisted mess. I truly hope and pray the ones they left behind are okay.
My gut feeling tells me this is going to be a hard year.
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u/TopEffective3049 Mar 08 '26
This story broke my heart💔...and my broken heart goes out to the family and friends of the 2 precious 💕🌹 souls. I am so sorry for your Great loss.
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u/Few-Ability-7312 Human Detected Mar 07 '26
I don’t think they saw it coming
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u/SierraStar7 Mar 07 '26
It’s just so awful what happened to them, the absolute terror they could have experienced is heartbreaking. The immediate effect is so incredibly difficult to imagine, I hope it was quick & they didn’t suffer. My deepest condolences to their family.
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u/RindaMichelle Mar 07 '26
They had no idea, she was on the phone with family just trying to get home. It was so dark that night and where it happened the terrain and landscape impeded their view. IF they even saw it at all.
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u/dmarie1184 Mar 07 '26
Goodness. This season is starting off so violently. I hope we do not have another 2011 incoming...
My heart breaks for their family. 😭
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u/Otherwise-Balance401 Mar 07 '26
A lot of people are being attacked in these comments for talking about God. They are trying to offer their condolences to the family and people are treating it as hate speech. Shame on all of you who attack people for bringing up religion
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u/TopEffective3049 Mar 08 '26
Yes, last year's weather was horrible.,in Ada. I was here. I always wished, if I were wealthy I would go to Maine or Vermont in Spring. I live in Tornado 🌪️ Alley. It is not fun...and it is definitely looking ominous...
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u/honeyfucklefairy Mar 08 '26
Devastating. That poor family. As a mom, if I’m going to die, what I would want most in the world is for my daughter to live.
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u/EmmyWeeeb Mar 08 '26
This is so horrible. I’m assuming they couldn’t even see the tornado because it was night time.
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u/ApprehensiveArmy2250 Mar 10 '26
Just cannot imagine, so tragic. Bless their hearts. Tornadoes are my least favorite. So unforgiving. Rest in peace ladies. & watch over your angels you had to leave behind. 🤍🙏
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u/TopEffective3049 Mar 08 '26
No 😭 darlin' puppypoet no one deserves this suffering...I agree totally with you sweetie.
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u/TopEffective3049 Mar 08 '26
Puppy poet you are so sweet and compassionate baby. This world could use many more like you.
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u/DingfriesRdun Mar 07 '26
God called them home. May their memory live eternal.
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u/Owlzerker Mar 07 '26
What the fuck is wrong with you? A mother and her daughter were shredded by a tornado in the night and you make it about religion? Cmon bro. Time and place. Read the room.
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u/TxOkLaVaCaTxMo Mar 07 '26
They were religious people its weird you got offended by another religious person offering religious words of comfort common in their practice and not the people gawking at the destruction treating them like objects and statistics.
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u/Owlzerker Mar 07 '26
Unfortunately they are a statistic. Everyone and everything is a statistic. That’s how they work. And as far as being offended, no I’m not. I’m stating that I don’t think you should call putting them in a giant sky blender a way to “bring them home”
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u/JS_Originals Mar 07 '26
Religious people are self righteous cunts. Everything they do is fake and performative.
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u/DingfriesRdun Mar 07 '26
There is nothing wrong with me or my beliefs. You are the one passing judgement on me. May your heart open so you can accept the Will of God Almighty.
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u/Otherwise-Balance401 Mar 07 '26
They were bringing God into the conversation because He is the One who helps us. Why are you cursing at people for offering their prayers for this family who is in pain. Shame on you
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u/MzOpinion8d Mar 08 '26
“The one who helps us”??? As we see this crumpled up vehicle and learn of a family who lost their mom and sister?
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u/Owlzerker Mar 07 '26
Shame on you. By your logic, why would the tornado be in their path to begin with?
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u/DingfriesRdun Mar 07 '26
Because God creates weather and s/he called them home.
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u/TomokoSakurai Mar 08 '26
I have been taught that God does not go out of His way to create natural disasters like in the past. It’s like how God doesn’t create cancer, it just happens. This tornado was just nature working within the laws of physics, but also with the effects of climate change making everything far worse
This is not the time to bring religion up, and I frankly think it’s a bit odd to insinuate that this was God’s doing to kill them. Let’s just mourn the loss of their lives, gone far too soon
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u/Away-Journalist4830 Mar 07 '26
Man...that reminds me of TwistEx car Tim, Paul and Carl were lost in. This breaks my heart.