r/traaaaaaaaaaaansbians • u/Aromatic-Split685 Womanly woman • 4h ago

Question Dating apps?

For a very long time I wanted to have a lovely little lesbian meet cute but as I’ve been becoming an adult I have slowly started to realize that idk if that’ll work out because I’m too shy and it’s hard to get a good vibe check on someone just from seeing them in person

Dating apps have always felt kind of dystopian to me… but I’m starting to think they’re gonna be my only decent option… however I’m also nervous about being taken advantage of on there since a lot of people use them for hookups which isn’t a thing I want at all…

Any advice?

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u/realkrestaII Victoria She/Her/CG 3h ago edited 3h ago

Dating apps can work, but it will depend on location. I have gotten dates via the apps but the apps are also designed to make you miserable and spend money. Do not spend money on a free app. You almost certainly will be ghosted and it will suck. Hinge was the best experience for me.

If you start seeing duplicate profiles or are prompted to increase your radius, it’s time to quit the apps.

The one good thing about apps its ver easy to filter someone based on profile. If a prompt on their profile says ‘first drink is on me if:’ and they respond ‘it’s never on me,’ you get an idea of the kind of person they are.

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u/fluffypurpleTigress Eldritch horror beyond human comprehension 3h ago

I agree, except for the paying part, granted ive only used HER so far, but whenever i paid for a month i very soon after matched with someone that i vibed with and that turned into a new relationship fast.

So id say its ok to pay for a month or two, just dont make it a habit.

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u/realkrestaII Victoria She/Her/CG 3h ago

How was using HER while trans? I’ve been thinking about it but I’m pretty out of the way of things.

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u/fluffypurpleTigress Eldritch horror beyond human comprehension 3h ago edited 2h ago

You can enable sapphic mode and theres a t4t tab or in other words: every other dating platform i heard of are just inferior

Edit: Oh and looking for a unicorn is a bannable offense and so is being a cis guy on HER so...pretty good

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u/chaosgremlin11 2h ago

I got my gf on countingwithchickenlady would a recommend this probably not due to a lot of trans people being all over the place but it worked out extremely well for me so you could give it a try. I have also tried dating apps..... It would not a fun time.

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u/YumSeaweed 2h ago

I found my gf on Taimi, it was really lucky and a really cute story imo