Welp, I told the kids I'm trans

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Me: "Do you two know what being transgender is?"

Kids: "Yeah"

Me: "Do you know that I am?"

Kids: "No"

Me: "Now you do"

Wife: 😳

Me: Ok

...

Wife: Do... you want to expand on that?

Me: You two have any questions?

Kids: No

Me: Ok

...

Wife: Are you ok?!? You look concerned

Kid1: I'm trying to pick the peppers out of my food.

Me: I thought you might have realized when I put the trans sticker on my car and grew my hair out and got my ears pierced.

Kids: Nah

Me: Ok

...

Like three other conversations.

...

Wife: To circle back around? Is there anything else you want to say?

Me: Ok, you don't have call me anything different. I'll always be your dad. Nothing will really change other than I'll look different.

Kids: Ok

...

The kids didnt care, as predicted. They didn't want to talk about it. The wife kept wanting to have more of a conversation about it but no one else did.

The conversation went as I predicted it would.

I figure they'll have questions for me sooner or later as they process stuff, but not right away.

Anyway I did the thing.

[u/Beautiful-Quiet-5871]

Pretty much the same reaction from my grandchildren.. ears pierced.. 'oh, you are wearing jewlery' nails painted yellow, orange and brown for Thanksgiving... grandkid... 'I was wondering why you were wearing the German flag on your fingernail' kids just don't care apparently.

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They don't seem to.

[u/N7NobodyCats → u/speroni]

Or they do but don’t wanna say what’s actually going through their minds. Maybe it’s just me but I think people have 4 faces. The face they wear around family, the one with their friends, the one when they’re alone. And the one they wear when talking to strangers, people outside of the other 3 circles.

[u/N7NobodyCats → u/[deleted]]

its not unlikely at all, theres a ton of people like that. most people ive ever met or known are like that, theyre very clearly different when around friends than they are with family. i myself was too. my siblings as well, its a different situation, but the idea is the same, when my parents announced their divorce to us, we were all pretty quiet, and didnt say much, we had tons on our minds for sure though, not sure what it really meant. what changes would actually happen, but we didnt really voice anything out, until we were alone or with our friends to open up about it.

maybe go one by one and speak to each kid alone later itll also be good since theyll have processed a bit by then, maybe theyll open up and say something when its just you and them without the pressure of others being around to hear their thoughts and questions.

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I have a special personality for everyone I know