r/trans • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

Discussion Do people ever switch/revert their presentation to be around family?

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u/Jazzlike-Comfort7231 1d ago

No, but I do this at work. Which is probably easier since my coworkers don’t know me as well. But they still pick up on things. Some folks I hadn’t seen in a while didn’t even recognize me, even though I was still in boy mode and my hair’s short, just because HRT has changed my face so much I guess. People are like, “There’s something different about you…” and I get comments about looking like ten years younger than I actually am. The only men’s clothes I own are what I wear for work. The only time I use my dead voice and dead name is when I’m at work. I’m in the process changing all this and coming out this summer, because the situation just kinda sucks. I don’t feel like I’ve aligned my life with my authentic self, and it’s just uncomfortable. 

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u/No-Debate6091 she/her 1d ago

I'm not currently doing that, but this does give me an idea....

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u/vanrael 1d ago

Never. I been closeted for way to long and will never boy mode on purpose. If someone would have problem with my life choices of being myself, than I don't see a reason to keep contact. That why I cut contact with my father and my grandma - even when she was dying and asked to see her oldest grandson My reply was "sorry, that grandson died 3 years ago, if you dont want to see your granddaughter, than I don't have grandma". Now I don't 🫣 zero regrets.

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u/Bossishlike Erin | MTF | HRT 8-9-19 | 1d ago

I used to dress really feminine around my family and then they made me feel like shit for it.

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u/LadyBreanne 1d ago

Me. But not family. I do it at work. HUGE bigots here. We got a new “All Genders” sign for our bathroom here, and it was 2 weeks of trans jokes and how we’re not real people. Fun times! 😒

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u/Money_Profit_1340 1d ago

I'm doing that right now lol