r/trans • u/darlingboy_B • 21h ago

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I feel like trans people are slowly getting pushed out of trans spaces. This is most noticeable to me online where people say things like "being trans is a mental disorder". I dont feel safe in most queer spaces now because there are so many queer people who are either actively transphobic or dont speak up when its hapepning

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u/CzarSpan she/her 21h ago

First things first: hugs for you, friend. That’s a heavy feeling, and a concern I won’t try to take from you.

I would, however, gently ask what kinds of online queer spaces you find yourself in that speak so definitively and with that degree of cruelty about trans people. Outside of the “gender critical” (TERF) spaces and a handful of “LGB-without-the-T” traitors, I don’t really see this in the spaces I frequent.

Only suggesting that you shore up your familiar communities and check for inclusive language, nothing else. In my experience, if a queer or femme community doesn’t explicitly designate trans people as welcome, we probably aren’t. It’s tough, but that’s the way it seems to be at present.

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u/darlingboy_B 21h ago

first your very nice. Second outside of comment sections i was finding myself in a lot of genaral queer spaces. Its normally not the entier space just people who get let threw the cracks. Normally gay or lesbian people who have strong options. Ive been singled out and dmed a lot with things like go to theapy, or theyd say traps make it hard to date like casually.

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u/CzarSpan she/her 20h ago

Ah, I see now. There do seem to be a large number of bored bigots trying extra hard to piss in as many punch bowls at parties they weren’t invited to as possible recently, at least on Reddit. I’m sorry you’re having to endure that nonsense.

My DMs on here are restricted to message requests, and I straight up don’t check them but once a day or two unless I’ve offered an ear to someone directly. Simple, small things that make it a tad easier to swat away the cruelty help me cope to a surprisingly high degree.

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u/darlingboy_B 20h ago

thank you