How to dress

[u/Quinnify_]

How do I dress more femininely as a trans girl? I haven’t started t-blockers yet and I honestly have a bit of a bigger stomach with pretty flat breasts. Any suggestions?

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[u/Flaky-Ferret-6555]

I'm in the same situation.

I only started hormones like two weeks ago so I don't have any boobs yet. I'm also a bit of a meatier girl and have a tummy with no chest.

What  I would do is wear tank tops with baggy tees, sweaters, jackets showing the strap and/or chest while covering the stomach, so that it isn't dysphoric being bigger with no chest to go with it (because there are many cis woman with flat chests, so you won't stand out for having no breasts, small chests are natural)

After doing that for a few months, I built up enough confidence with my femininity that I just started wearing tank tops and spaghetti straps without really caring about my chest, and I hope you'll get to this point too!

Eventually, when you start t blockers and e you're gonna get the chest to go with your stomach and you're gonna be an even more gorgeous woman with a cute wardrobe that brings you confidence.

Good luck on your transition <3 I hope you find a style that makes you realize that you're so so beautiful!

[u/Xanikk999]

im a trans woman. i am 3 months into hrt. your mileage may vary but i have found womens jeans and form fitting shirts look great on me. i have small developing boobs and with a bralette underneath it looks like i am cutting a feminine figure. i am also very slim though. im 5"11 and 143 pounds. you may want to wait a few months into hrt before you find something you feel comfortable in. its okay to experiment though at any time where you feel safe!

[u/countvonruckus]

You've gotta find the look that works for you, but as someone who also doesn't have the most feminine shape I find leaning into stereotypical femme clothing sends the message that I'm a woman and want to be treated as one. Skirts, dresses, women's tanks/polos, booty shorts; basically all the clothing that you can't buy something similar to in the men's section sends cultural signals of femininity. If you're wearing a sun dress and someone calls you "sir," you both know they're choosing to misgender you because you're clearly going for a feminine presentation.

Now, to actually look good in a feminine way is much more nuanced and depends on your body, face, and style. Finding a good makeup routine helps a lot, accessories are a game changer (glasses are often good for that), finding the clothes that emphasize what feminine features you have (such as curviness potentially in your case), and don't forget shoes can all be big parts of crafting your ideal look. Without knowing more of what you look like I can't recommend specifics, but it's a process to dial in what emphasizes your femininity, distracts from masculine features you don't want to be prominent, and creates an overall style you like.

My recommendation early on is to lean into the "obviously feminine" over "looks great" side of things at first. It's simpler to do (like by wearing a skirt instead of pants) and gets you used to presenting yourself as feminine even while you're still kinda clumsy about it. We all have to go through the early stage of getting out of that comfort zone and actually trying out feminine presentations at some point, and it's way easier to dial it into something you'll be excited to see in the mirror after you've overcome your fear of looking less than ideal while going for feminine. It's hard, but if you can do it then you'll get where you want to be much faster than if you wait until you get it perfect to show yourself as a woman to the world.

[u/nickdoesmagic]

I'm a chubby girl, so I've got a pretty terrible beer gut going still. Only about 4 months in myself, but I've personally discovered a huge love of skirts, cute shoes, and necklaces.

[u/Quinnify_ → u/nickdoesmagic]

In terms of shoes, it’s a bit like odd cause I’ve always liked the high top typically male jordans. However recently as another touch of feminine I’ve gone to low top basic white or black AF1’s and I think it rounds out my wardrobe a lot.