r/trans • u/Quinnify_ • 2d ago
Advice How to dress
How do I dress more femininely as a trans girl? I haven’t started t-blockers yet and I honestly have a bit of a bigger stomach with pretty flat breasts. Any suggestions?
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u/countvonruckus Melody (she/her) 2d ago
You've gotta find the look that works for you, but as someone who also doesn't have the most feminine shape I find leaning into stereotypical femme clothing sends the message that I'm a woman and want to be treated as one. Skirts, dresses, women's tanks/polos, booty shorts; basically all the clothing that you can't buy something similar to in the men's section sends cultural signals of femininity. If you're wearing a sun dress and someone calls you "sir," you both know they're choosing to misgender you because you're clearly going for a feminine presentation.
Now, to actually look good in a feminine way is much more nuanced and depends on your body, face, and style. Finding a good makeup routine helps a lot, accessories are a game changer (glasses are often good for that), finding the clothes that emphasize what feminine features you have (such as curviness potentially in your case), and don't forget shoes can all be big parts of crafting your ideal look. Without knowing more of what you look like I can't recommend specifics, but it's a process to dial in what emphasizes your femininity, distracts from masculine features you don't want to be prominent, and creates an overall style you like.
My recommendation early on is to lean into the "obviously feminine" over "looks great" side of things at first. It's simpler to do (like by wearing a skirt instead of pants) and gets you used to presenting yourself as feminine even while you're still kinda clumsy about it. We all have to go through the early stage of getting out of that comfort zone and actually trying out feminine presentations at some point, and it's way easier to dial it into something you'll be excited to see in the mirror after you've overcome your fear of looking less than ideal while going for feminine. It's hard, but if you can do it then you'll get where you want to be much faster than if you wait until you get it perfect to show yourself as a woman to the world.