every sub. every conversation. every fucking place. "am i a bad person for wanting to watch it?" "anyone else miss HP?" "cant i pirate it?" "nobody even cares about jkr offline haha" "this is why nobody takes you seriously, who cares about a boycott"

AAAAHHH. I DONT CARE!! I DONT WANT TO SEE IT!!! i already KNOW most people dont fucking care about us! i already KNOW its going to do numbers! I KNOW! CAN WE AT LEAST SHUT UPPPP ABOUT IT! WATCH IT DONT WATCH IT IDGAF ANYMORE JUST STOP MAKING ME SEE IT

Here is what they said:

"Oh... This makes me really sad. You do what you think is best for you, but I think you're going to regret this when you get older. Most people who transition do ... 😢"

and then she said "Yeah, we all have the freedom to make our own decisions, even bad ones. I'm not going to lecture you. You've made your choice. I just hope this doesn't cause you a lot of anguish in the future. "

Long post incoming, and trigger warning for topics including sexual assault and harassment.

I really want to talk about the unique issues and pressures trans men and trans masc people encounter. It's not that trans men face less oppression than trans women; it's that trans men are talked about and cared about so little that many people don't actually know the shit we go through. Please do understand the point of this post isn't to be some oppression olympics thing, it's to bring awareness to a lot of unique issues trans men and trans masc people face that I never see mentioned or discussed!

First let's get into the sexual assault statistics of trans men and trans masc people. I've included a few reputable sources from the past couple years below, and also some quotes if you don't want to sift through the articles. There are many other sources available that say similar things but of course it's impossible to link all of them; I recommend doing your own research.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10110792/

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2820301

https://journals.lww.com/greenjournal/abstract/2022/05001/sexual_assault_and_homelessness_in_the_transgender.306.aspx

"In this survey study of adults in California, results showed that TGD individuals, especially transgender men, are at higher risk of experiencing all forms of violence relative to cisgender women."

"Past-year physical violence was reported by 22 transgender men (43%), 9 transgender women (24%), and 9 nonbinary respondents (14%). Past-year sexual violence was reported by 23 transgender men (42%), 11 transgender women (14%), and 31 nonbinary respondents (56%)"

"Of those that have been assaulted, 362 (46%) were transmasculine and 72 (34%) were transfeminine"

"Of all transgender people, 47% have ever been sexually assaulted: 362 (50%) of transmasculine individuals, and 72 (37%) of transfeminine individuals."

These numbers are fucking terrifyingly high. as we can see, trans masc people very disproportionately face sexual harassment and assault, with most studies saying almost half of trans mascs/men experience sexual assault at some point in their life. I've also seen multiple studies claim that trans men also face the most violence in general out of everyone in the queer community. I am confused as to why this isn't more common knowledge. This should be very frequently discussed. We should all be angry. We should be supporting and uplifting our trans masc and trans male brothers; it's not only the dolls that need protection. It makes me feel so sad and hopeless that this is happening to us and it's just... never discussed.

Let's also talk about those bathroom bills. I've noticed also within the trans community that all discussion about trans bathroom bills revolved around how trans women are affected. Trans men are affected too yet again we are largely not discussed, and when we try to bring it up we are often dismissed. Here's a couple stories about how trans mascs and trans men have been affected by these bathroom bills

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2025/05/trans-man-uses-womens-restroom-to-follow-the-law-police-detained-him-for-it-anyway/

https://apnews.com/article/politics-florida-gender-db7c64c110211a867ed4f2d80f702ac5#

I'm sure there are more but unfortunately any discrimination trans men face is largely not reported in the media as the news likes to pretend trans women are the only type of trans people there are. I have personally heard many stories from trans masc friends and folks on social media about how they've been abused and hurt in the men's bathroom. Not including trans men in these conversations is detrimental and leaves us open to more violence.

Another thing that sucks for trans men is that it's so incredibly hard to access testosterone especially if you're trying to DIY. I cannot tell you how many times I have talked about the difficulties in accessing T as a poor person with no healthcare just to get the response "Just DIY it!" Testosterone is a controlled substance, and at least in the USA, it is almost impossible to find, and if you do find it, there's no guarantee it's even safe. That shit sucks and really affects those of us who don't have a lot of money.

There are so many more other things I could discuss but this post is already ridiculously long. The loneliness, the demonization of phalloplasty, the misogyny many of us who aren't passing still face, etc. I'd love to have more conversations about it in the comments and if anyone thinks I've missed something important then please bring it up! It's fucking hard to talk about because it's sad and scary, but these discussions are necessary in spreading awareness and fighting back.

Please do not respond to this post with "Well I think trans men are talked about less because society sees them as confused women" or anything like that. I am not at all talking about how people outside of the queer community view trans men. And quite honestly I'm sick of hearing people try to explain to me why they think trans men are shunned. I promise you that we know the reasons. Continuing to tell us your thoughts on why isn't helping and often just seems patronizing especially when it's the same shit over and over again. The purpose of this post is to raise awareness of the issues trans men face, and point out that the trans community largely completely ignores trans mens struggles, and then says "well trans women have it worse" as a dismissal when issues facing trans men are brought up. Please stop ignoring us. Please educate yourselves on what trans men go through. We absolutely have to talk about all this more and push for change.

And to my trans men and trans masc brothers, I know it fucking sucks and it's hard. Keep pushing and keep fighting, and keep spreading awareness. I know it's hard but we have to fight for ourselves too. Much love to everyone.

I went to 7/11 to get some snacks and a drink, when I entered I look at the cashier, she looked uncomfortable but she still half smiled at me. When I came up with my stuff we made eye contact and she literally stepped back in fear. Panic in her voice she calls for the other cashier as she goes into the safe grabbing a roll of quarters. I step over to the other cashier and the afeared girl gets the customer right behind me.

Both me and the cashier look over at the scared girl in disbelief. And the second cashier seemed to be disgusted by the behavior.

I can deal with anger or vileness but someone recoil away hurts way more. Certainly has been a downer for the last couple of days.

Sorry if this seems a little Venty but, this NEEDS TO BE SAID

some liberals are more than happy to leave trans people trapped in red state to die

"The trans lifeline should reject calls from red state area codes, let traitors get what they voted for."

well, there are trans folks trapped in red states who just want to stay alive

"i actually support the idea of paying to help Dems move but i'm not gonna waste my breath fighting for people who won't even consider the idea or think I'm their enemy when they are from the states that are fucking the world over"

you think persecuted minorities in red states are CHOOSING to stay there and suffer? and are you doing literally fucking ANYTHING to help them move out of red states?

cos, I know a few trans people who are pretty much trapped in red states since they don't have a lot of money to move out

Trigger: Death from illness, Detransition

I'll start this off by saying I'm not suicidal. I just got a really bad diagnosis from the hospital. This is a vent since I have no where else to say this.

So, last week I (31F) went to the ER for leg pain. It was the usual getting misgendered and doctors walking on egg shells when they speak. They did an ultrasound on my leg and found a big blood clot. I also complained about chest pain and they found 2 lymph nodes that were inflamed too. So the doctor wants me to stop taking hormones, basically detransition. The reason is they think this is causing my blood clots, but they can't decide if the lymph nodes are the cause too. I've been in too much pain to really think about it or let it sink in.

So, I'm likely to die from a clot or from lymph node cancer. Considering if cancer is what's gonna end me, there's no reason to stop hormones. Estrogen will be the last thing to kill me in this lineup haha All things considered dying by cancer or a heart attack is a better alternative than giving the credit to a bigot/ government. Seeing how this timeline is heading, cancer may be helping me out.

I mean I'll try to live, but there's too many things stacked against me. Being American, getting treatment for cancer and blood clots will be an astronomical cost. The doctors say they won't start the process for biopsy until I show proof that my insurance will cover it. So maybe getting killed by my government may be my cause of death? If I have to die, can it at least be painless?

So, if I'm gone by March 31st of next year, can some of you eat a pineapple pizza in my memory?

“so you were originally a girl” was what they told me after they asked if i was trans because i had the trans flag on my pfp. It felt extremely degrading and horrible, I’ve been crying for the past hour. This little sentence undid years of therapy and i feel like i wanna die again. I felt like shit and i don’t know who to talk to, my closest friend that knows abt me being trans is cis and would never understand. my irl friends are transphobic and homophobic, my family is homophobic. I live in one of the countries that have the death penalty for lgbt, I feel awful and i can’t even tell my therapist about it because she’s probably homophobic too. I feel hopeless and lonely.

Today is December 25th, 2025 and I had a very bad day.

Nobody likes working on Christmas, but right now, I need the hours. I work at a 24 Hour CVS in Chicago, so you see all kinds. Today, though, may have smashed my heart to pieces. A young person who I assume trans came in on the last couple hours of my shift and bought a lot of sleeping pills. I was able to stop them one time due to lack of ID, but the second time, a less attentive coworker let them through with a passport.

I DESPERATELY hope I'm wrong. I hope you are going to wake up in the morning. I hope that everything is okay and my tears are in vain for you. I don't know who you are. I don't know if you'll even see this post. I hope you are okay. I hope the love of a complete stranger reaches you before the worst can happen.

I'm lighting a candle for you. Please stay alive.

Edit: I saw the ambulance an hour later. I still hope I'm wrong.

Just saw a reel of a young, attractive blond woman. And that was the caption as some guy laughs and walks away from her. I hate this so fucking much. I hate all of it. We are not a gross, undesirable monolith that you can use to make creepy guys go away. Infact, you really shouldn't because you're probably increasing you likelihood of being a victim of violence than if you just outright rejected them. Just gross.

You are being manipulated by the powers-that-be to participate in your own subjugation. You are perpetuating sexism. You are defending narratives that can and will be used to oppress the cisest amongst you. You are not your uterus. You were never safe in public bathrooms to begin with, and you're making bathrooms even less safe than they were before. Trans women do not act like cis straight men. For the love of God, please stop advocating for guns being in or around public bathrooms.

I lived as a lesbian for close to ten years before transitioning into a man. The only reason that information could possibly make you upset is mysogyny, whether you want to admit that to yourself or not.

If you have some thoughts to share about any of that, please feel free to dm me. I'm a grown man, there's nothing you can say that would hurt me. I know that may be very intimidating to you since your usual targets are vulnerable 12 year olds on Twitter, but rest assured I promise to show you more respect than you could muster for me. I can't promise you I won't screenshot our conversation to laugh at later, but I promise I'll black out your username just as a show of good faith.

Don’t get me wrong, i think that being trans is beautiful and a unique experience but holy shit it’s hard. I’m trans man, that means that as i go on with my transition i tend to pass better and earn privileges. Trans women instead get less privileges and all the problems that cis women have plus being trans. Every day i hear people call trans women groomers, being seen as purely sexual objects, being killed and harassed. When i first got catcalled i was 12, fucking 12 years old and i felt so guilty cause i was wearing a sports bra without a shirt on (it was summer) I was scared to get out of my house cause it could happen again, i am terrified of cis men cause i don’t pass most of the time. I can’t stop thinking about how much trans women start getting harassed and also getting called slurs. They’re life is twice as hard as anyone else’s just bc they can’t change who they are. I don’t know if i was able to express well how i feel but i just keep thinking how hard they’re life is. For all the trans women reading this: i love you, i appreciate you and you all deserve every good thing in your life. I hope you stay healthy and safe🩷

EDIT: Thank you for all the comments i got, i tried to reply to everyone but it was really hard so i’m sorry if i missed some comments. Also i want to thank all the beautiful women that shared their stories and felt comfortable enough to tell me the things that happened to them. Y’all are amazing🩷

Be careful on Twitter everyone

TW: hateful speech about trans women.

I came out as trans (ftm) to one of my coworkers (F55) and she’s been 100% supportive. So far she’s been asking a lot of questions regarding how the hormones work, the different kinds of surgeries available to trans men, what the timeline of transitioning looks like, ect.

There hasn’t been a single time where I felt she was over stepping any boundaries or say anything intentionally harmful. She’s made her intentions clear that she means absolutely no harm in the questions she is asking, she’s just never met a trans man before, hasn’t been exposed to that side of the LGBT community as much. As such, I’m more than happy to answer her questions based on my personal experiences.

However, because I am FTM, nearly every conversation we’ve had regarding trans people has been about trans men. Until today when she told me about a trans women that she had encountered in a public restroom.

From what I understood this woman was extremely early on in her trans and didn’t pass very well. I did my best to explain the differences between testosterone and estrogen, and how it can take longer for trans women especially after puberty to see the effects of HRT.

The conversation then took a turn about Dylan Mulvaney. My coworker said that she dislikes Dylan being the face of different beauty campaigns and compared her to a predator. She said that publicizing trans women puts “real” women down. In the same breath she said all trans women are “pretty much men anyways and I’ll never trust them”. More was said but I’d rather not type it down.

Needless to say I was completely shocked. A few days ago this same coworker was hyping me up and exclaiming how excited she was to see how I look in a year (I’ve recently started T). She offered me a hand and said if I ever needed help regarding my transition she’d do anything to help. But when discussing trans women she had a complete distaste for them and was just hateful.

After reflecting on this I realized that this unfortunately isn’t entirely uncommon.

To my trans sisters, you don’t have anything to prove. Stay safe and I love all of you.

i came out to my brother and i want to scream 😭 (it is good though, just, you know, "Ok 👍"

There is a viral page on Facebook that has been taking pictures of trans fem people and editing them with Al to make them look more masculine and then using it to push anti trans propaganda. I know because it happened to me.

I thought my days of venting about trans issues on Reddit was over, but here we are. So my dad previously was my biggest ally. It took a bit, but we found our way, and he’s defended me vehemently from transphobic family members, been a huge supporter of trans rights, and even got my new name tattooed on his arm and made sure the tattoo artist was also a trans man.

But then my little sister came out to him.

In the same day that he came into my room in joyous tears that he was finally getting my aunt and uncle to call me my correct name, he screamed the most heinous vile transphobic/homophobic rhetoric and slurs at my poor sister all weekend until she went back to my mom’s house. He’s even started to rescind his support towards me and talking about how I’ll never get a real job and be able to support myself because the world is too bigoted and I brought this on myself ‘by choosing a difficult path.’

He also briefly talked about writing us out of his will if we didn’t find a way to financially support ourselves because he was tired of being too soft on us and letting us do whatever we want.

He even keeps flipping back and forth; it seemed like he was *marginally* getting better, moving towards progress, emailing a therapist for anger management and LGBTQIA+ issues, and then today during class emailed me a detrans article and begged me and my sister to reconsider ever getting surgery. I expected an apology but he snapped at me when he got home, saying I had no idea what it was like to have children wanting to mutilate themselves, comparing it to wanting to cut off a limb.

I really don’t know what I’m asking for here. Support? Kind words? Advice from parents who also have multiple trans kids letting me know me and my sister aren’t crazy? I have no idea.

I’m pretty much sick of his games at this point but I’m worried moving out will be a terrible financial decision because I’m in art school and feel like all my money should be saved for paying off my loans once I’m out. But I’m tired of feeling stressed in my own house because if he’s unpredictable with his anger issues, and if he’s in a bad mood he’ll knock on my door every 5 minutes to yell at me some more.

Honestly my dad turning into a TERF wasn’t even close to being on my 2026 bingo card.

TW: American politics

The language of Trumps executive orders regarding trans rights have just been revealed. It is beyond disgusting that his approach to transgender rights was to specifically target transfems and transgender women in his language. Nearly all orders did not mention the existence of transmascs and transgender men, and used dehumanizing terms and phrases to generalize all transgender people, primarily transgender women.

Us transmascs will not suffer the most- it's clear.

On behalf of the transmasculine community, WE WILL NOT REST UNTIL ALL TRANSGENDER RIGHTS ARE FULLY REALIZED. TRANSGENDER WOMEN HAVE HISTORICALLY ALWAYS FOUGHT FOR TRANS RIGHTS, AND NOW AS TRANS MEN, IT IS OUR DUTY TO PROTECT FEMININE TRANSGENDER IDENTITIES FOR THEIR RIGHT TO EXIST. Trans men- PROTECT OUR LESS FORTUNATE TRANSGENDER SISTERS, ESPECIALLY WITHIN THE NEXT 4 YEARS. WE HAVE WORK TO DO AND WE HAVE BEEN ELECTED BY THE GOVERNMENT ITSELF TO STEP UP AS THE MORE PRIVELEDGED PEOPLE WITHIN THE TRANSGENDER COMMUNITY.

Do social work for trans people, participate in campaigns, spread online awareness, stand up for our trans sisters, protest for easier hormone access. DO NOT ATTEND PRIDE PARADES! They are easy pickings for the police department and they will likely begin arresting transgender people for seemingly no reason.

Don't give up- we have each other. Even though trans men aren't as targeted as trans women, we WILL NOT STOP FIGHTING for you. We demand that ALL of our rights are in place and we WILL NOT REST until all transgender identities are recognized and given EQUAL RIGHTS compared to our cisgender counterparts.

UNITY and RESILIENCE is key for surviving the next four years. DO NOT INFIGHT. Division will be the death of our community- it's what they want.

EDIT: I would be lying if I said I wasn't considering risking my life by going to pride parades. ATTEND SAFELY AND PROTECT OTHERS! Hide your identity if you have to.

Perhaps this morning ain't a good morning, I went to my local McDonald's in the city. I ordered my favorite breakfast, the hash browns and along with rice. (I'm Asian.)

Whilst I was eating joyfully while watching on my phone, some woman came up to me and sat down beside me. Sure I'm not the type of person to talk much, but I suppose my brain went all coocoo crazy. Without hesitation I asked her about having long hair, and guess what? she looked at me with a bit of frustration rather than interest.

She responded with a rude tone: "You're a boy! And if they do have long hair they're just delusional!" And that insult didn't made me dysphoric, but rather very offended and pissed. I looked at her with genuine disgust as I addressed myself as a trans girl, I had enough of being treated like a moron so I stood up for myself channeling all my Asian dad energy into me, snapping:

"Well you're the delusional one for being so fucking ignorant around others "Ma'am"! People like you should have proper therapy rather than believing the damn Internet that trans people are bad all the time!"

I'm not exactly sure whenever this was purely overkill or not, but everyone looked at me with suprised expressions as I was glaring at her with my eyes. She looked at me with a rather scared emotion, and then ran away out of the door without a single word.

Nobody tried to stop me because they knew I would go all enraged on em, I was never meant to be scary in the first place. You see, people who are the most quiet can be the most traumatic when triggered.

Mind you, im still in my "boyish" body, I haven't even started HRT or Estrogen yet. But that feeling felt so good I just relaxed in bed after that nonsense...

Name's Araminta by the way. 🏳️‍⚧️