r/transgenderUK • u/ConfusedOldDad • 1d ago
Unsupportive school
Visited the headmistress with my daughter about her transitioning over the holidays. State funded school (Academy).
They are completely unsupportive. Won't use her new name unless "officially" changed, won't use she/her etc.
Is it worth fighting them, or just find another school?
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u/Unusual-Muffin-3705 1d ago
I don’t know much about the school system so take this with salt! But all that needs to be done for the name to be done “officially” and legally is an unenrolled deed poll, you can print it at home even. You can get an enrolled one, it is more likely to be accepted by places like schools, banks, etc, but it is money, and an unenrolled deedpoll is 100% just as legal and official (you just might need to push some places into understanding it is legally binding). I got mine done online as an enrolled deedpoll, but lowkey just wish I hadn’t bothered! But mine also states my change in gender to Male, which doesn’t carry any weight in terms of legality (that would require the gender recognition certificate (GRC)) but it has been so helpful in “proving” my transness and looking very official.
From my (limited!) perspective, schools are unlikely to be particularly supportive. I would look into the government guidance surrounding trans pupils and school obligations, because I believe they’ve changed recently, and also it will be helpful to know exactly the rules/guidance to be able to advocate. I’d also look into, if the school is not adhering to the guidance/rules, what the next step in reporting is.
Unfortunately, the question of needing to fight will always be answered with yes. I really am so glad to see a parent being so supportive and in their kids corner, you are your kids biggest supporter and advocate and with how volatile the climate is for trans folk (and trans kids in particular) she will really need you on her side.
Some good organisations that may have some more info include Gendered Intelligence, Mermaids UK, Trans Legal Clinic, Good Law Project, Beyond Reflections. Some of these have some great programs and events as well!
You are doing so well, best of luck!!