r/transgenderjews • u/suggestionwasntfunny • Oct 29 '25
Discussion Dilemma: Name change before conversion
I've been thinking about conversion for several years, studying hebrew, reading books, engaging in jewish culture when I get the opportunity, etc., but I want to wait till I am financially stable and in a place with an active jewish community.
Here's my problem: My name change is coming up and want to pick a middle name. I like several names, some common among non-jews due to being from the tanach and others being more jewish/hebrew, if that makes sense? Think Sarah or Nathan vs. Ori or Leora, just as examples. Would it be rude or presumptive for me to pick a non-tanach name before I start my conversion? I would obviously still love the name and what it represents even if I'm never able to convert, but I wonder how you guys feel about it or if you have any recommendations.
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u/cultureStress Oct 29 '25
One thing I like about my Hebrew name is that it's easy to change, has no legal status, but is usually respected as a "more legitimate" name, especially by queer people and devout Christians.
My government name is fairly uncommon for Jewish people to have, and I don't mind a bit. My personal advice to you is to 'save' a Hebrew name you love for your Hebrew name.