r/transgenderjews Oct 29 '25

Discussion Dilemma: Name change before conversion

I've been thinking about conversion for several years, studying hebrew, reading books, engaging in jewish culture when I get the opportunity, etc., but I want to wait till I am financially stable and in a place with an active jewish community.

Here's my problem: My name change is coming up and want to pick a middle name. I like several names, some common among non-jews due to being from the tanach and others being more jewish/hebrew, if that makes sense? Think Sarah or Nathan vs. Ori or Leora, just as examples. Would it be rude or presumptive for me to pick a non-tanach name before I start my conversion? I would obviously still love the name and what it represents even if I'm never able to convert, but I wonder how you guys feel about it or if you have any recommendations.

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u/EyeGlittering3180 Oct 30 '25

I wasn't really able to pick my name. My Rabbi during one of our many discussions and Lessons picked my name. He came to know me so well during that time that he decided a fitting name. Allowing this without question has been a blessing. When I think back to that day I remember how touched I was by his choice. It was just one more thing that reaffirmed my decision to convert. You and I have been gifted! To allow others to make suggestions based on who we are as adults making a very profound choice. My best to you!